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Taken in Hand
A Taken In Hand relationship is a consensual male-led exclusive
monogamous relationship in which the man's control is real and for the
purpose of creating a deeply connected, fully engaged relationship with
a white-hot sexual connection. The term has been popularized by the
UK Web site of the same name.
How the man expresses his leadership and control is an individual
matter, but it is for the benefit of the relationship rather than being
purely self-serving. The Taken In Hand man protects and cherishes the
woman he leads. The Taken In Hand woman responds positively to her man's
authority and leadership. It is not necessarily a
Domestic Discipline relationship,
though it can be.
Taken In Hand couples often think of themselves as
vanilla (though many may not know the word in this
context) and tend to be unfamiliar with or turned-off by
BDSM or its literature, perhaps because of its exotic
language, customs and rituals. Many Taken In Hand couples think of what
they are doing as being very ordinary. However, as with other types of
D/s, there are no typical reasons some
prefer this kind of relationship, to another. Nor is there any
assumption that this is morally superior to any other kind of
relationship: it is simply a preference some have.
Taken In Hand is not about the woman being slavishly obedient or
submissive by default. It is more likely to be about the man correcting
and controlling her to the delight of both. In some
D/s relationships, the woman might
aspire to be more submissive, whereas in many a Taken In Hand
relationship, the woman will have no such aspiration.
Taken In Hand can sound boringly conservative and conventional to anyone
with a penchant for some of the more elaborate, painful, ritualistic,
theatrical, humiliating SM or D/s practices,
but it often seems hardcore, extreme, dangerous and scary to anyone who
doesn't like the idea of the man's leadership being real instead of
stylised or confined to set times and negotiated scenes.Further reading
(This article incorporates text from the
Taken
In Hand
article in Wipipedia.)
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