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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Do owners/masters get punished??" 1 2 3 Do owners/masters get punished?? (24) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Wed 11 Jan 12, 2:40 PM his_girl1438 US(MA), 10 mths I apologize head of time if I offend anyone with my question. I am merely trying to understand how others feel about this. My question is: Do owners/master every get punished for being "less than perfect"? If your owner does something that upsets you or you don't agree with how do you handle it? I would like to hear from both sides how you handle this situation in your relationships. Thank you everyone!!! Best Wishes, His_girl 11 Jan 12, 2:55 PM Prolixitys_Saphira US, 13 mths We discuss it if it is something that upsets me too much, but he takes into account my autism and is accommodating when it comes to some things that bother me. How dynamics that don't involve that work, I don't know. If I simply don't like the choice he's made, too bad. He's in charge. Slaves don't punish owners, so to speak, as that would be topping from the bottom. But owners have to live with the consequences of a bad decision and messing up badly enough could hurt the dynamic beyond repair. Owned, loved and protected by Prolixity. 11 Jan 12, 6:05 PM Daakshi_Pet CA, 11 mths If Tamuru is doing something I don't like, usually we talk it out. Unless I'm feeling bratty. Then I throw a fit and get punished for it. 767-122-882 Devoted slave of DeusTamuru. 11 Jan 12, 9:37 PM Dagobert US(WA), 18 mths This is an interesting question and my answer to it --based on my experience-- is "kind of". If I am a complete asshole, which believe it or not happens from time to time , Adela can easily "punish" me by ignoring it and being sickly nice to me. The end result is that I feel like even more of an asshole and it usually auto-corrects my behavior. Most of the time when people act out they are desperately seeking a negative reaction. When none is forthcoming it tends to short-circuit them. 11 Jan 12, 9:46 PM tigerlili 3 yrs I'll give my stock standard response: M/s relationships are, by definition, unequal, or asymmentrical, so what is good for me isn't necessarily good for my Master. Sure, it's unfair sometimes, but that's how it is (for me, in my relationship) and I have to leave it to 'natural justice' if I want to see him get his come-uppance (which I rarely do). 11 Jan 12, 11:03 PM SL_precious CA, 3 yrs I don't expect Master to be perfect, he is human and I forgive him that, just as he does for me. If he does something stupid or that he is unaware has caused me to be upset...I will speak to him about it and he is man enough to apologize if he was wrong or explain why so I can understand.... We all screw up sometimes but these issues can be resolved when confronted like mature adults. Best Regards SL_precious "Amazing what happens when we let go, surrender all and embrace the painful changes that are necessary to bring wholeness, and a brighter tomorrow." Suzanne Sondberg 12 Jan 12, 2:56 AM SIR_Conwolf US(MA), 11 mths Hey, just btw I didn't do anything. This is her pretty little head gone off a spinnin! <SIR 12 Jan 12, 3:00 AM his_girl1438 US(MA), 10 mths Hahaha, yes this is true! SIR you are wonderful and I love you.... The wheels just got spinning and I had to ask the question. 12 Jan 12, 3:18 AM slave_torianna US(GA), 12 mths Yall are too cute Daddy more punishes Himself if He feels He has done wrong. As a man, He is big enough to admit if He incorrect in a situation. He is too good to me to ever dream of 'punishing' Him in any way. He does everything to keep the lines of communication open so we can just talk it out if a situation like this ever occurs. slave torianna i dont walk in front or beside Daddy, i walk a step behind in my place, but close enough to grab His shirt tail if i ever get scared. i'm thankful to my Master that never leaves me behind. Thank you for loving someone like me Daddy. 12 Jan 12, 3:35 AM 943-469-442 US, 4 mths i realize we are all human, and all make mistakes, but in my eyes, Master truly is perfect. We both try to do our best by each other, and that's good enough for me. If either of us falls short, we communicate and work it out. i may not naturally do everything the same way he would, but if i don't agree with him, i will still follow Him and do whatever He asks, because i trust His impeccable judgment, besides of course being His slave. 12 Jan 12, 3:43 AM 766-003-205 US(CA), 8 mths Y! his_girl1438 wrote: Do owners/masters get punished?? I apologize head of time if I offend anyone with my question. I am merely trying to understand how others feel about this. My question is: Do owners/master every get punished for being "less than perfect"? If your owner does something that upsets you or you don't agree with how do you handle it? I would like to hear from both sides how you handle this situation in your relationships. Thank you everyone!!! Best Wishes, His_girl i have never heard of a slave or sub punishing their Master or Dom/me. That would reverse the M/s or D/s entirely! One could leave if NEEDED (not to punish but for safety/intolerability) or discuss it. When He upsets me which is usually when He is having a bipolar crisis- i let Him know and He has a meditation routine He goes to until it passes. Usually 24 hours or less. If there is a disagreement- we talk about it. Honestly MOST things aren't so earth shattering to be impossible to cope with without a major explosion of wills which again can compromise things. Part of MY job is to diminish my willfulness. We didn't leave our brains at the door and pick up our crayons when we accepted enslavement- but we DID accept their right to override us. It is one of the practices a slave learns to so, accept and submit. Notice i said RIGHT to override us. i have the privilege of feedback/input which is revocable. As a slave i am in the progressive movement of surrendering of anything i thought was a right- so as they come up and get recognized they are replaced by privilege or denial of the privilege. Thinking past the kink and getting together with a Master capable of listening to input is pretty critical as we GAIN experience over the years, become presumably older and wiser with better things to say, so being with someone ABLE to listen and care is a serious issue. However- Now the listening is done and the caring there- He still is doing it the way He planned with ALL points and angles "out there"- submission is what we do. i just can't wrap my mind around punishing a Master. Disagreeing, discussing, even leaving because it is survival- but punishing? IF He is being a jerk, an asshat, immature? Then that needs a discussion too. Especially if you are losing respect because the behavior is not respectable. Masters aren't respected because they claim to be a Master. ANYONE can claim that. Charles Manson, Rodney Dangerfield, Heck i had so many men and women asking me to be their Mistress i could make that claim-Would it make me one? No. Would i respect Manson? No. No one is respectable at all times either. We ALL screw up- in the position of M/s the Master deserves to have the feedback when He is fabulous AND not so much because feedback is how we grow as people to a large extent. So feedback about behavior causing loss of respect for Him is important for Him to grow and get better. Time to have a deep discussion about. It will help you both. Being in the M/s the slave is in the "inferior" position. We agree to give THEM the punishment power. We agree to submit to their authority, whatever that means.(of course except murder etc. There are so many fights about "qualifying" in some sites i feel like i ALWAYS have to) THEY do NOT agree to BE punished. They agree to control, Dominate. We agree to be controlled and be in the subordinate position giving THEM the right to punish. It is not about fair. It is about enslavement and for most improving upon it, deepening it, becoming ONE with it. Master is not into punishment dynamics at all-though He has said His lectures are punishing (and they ARE)but if He changes that (a couple of times He has slipped over into it a bit) i accept it, and do all i can to feedback to encourage Him to whatever He wants to do in that, should He feel He wants to start it. i don't want to influence Him against it, if He wants it. i accept it because i am the slave. He NEVER will get punished because He is the Master. Next page