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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Collar Off." 1 2 3 Collar Off. (22) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Wed 28 Dec 11, 7:05 AM princess_adela US(WA), 20 mths Hello all... And Happy New Year!! Because of a little mishap on Christmas Eve I have had to remove my collar. Messed my neck up a bit. Apparently I felt the need to wrestle with the brambles. But that's a different story. Many have commented on how when their collars were removed they felt lost, confused and didn't have the same connection to their Masters. I have had my collar on 24/7 for well over a year now. When removing it I thought I would have some horrible meltdown. Well, I did not. I felt no less owned without it. In fact I found it quite enlightening. It's not the collar that owns me.. no... it's my Master. It solidified my decision on being Master's slave. Just thought I would share. Be safe for the New Year! princess a. 28 Dec 11, 12:52 PM pet_ka_MJ CA, 2 yrs I have had to remove my collar as well for a variety of reasons. I, like you, feel just as owned with or without it. Being owned for me is a state of mind that I have learned has nothing to do with ritual, symbol or any other outward manifestation of my slavery. I either know in my heart I am owned or I don't... my collar does not change that. "We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin must be shed before a new one can come." ~ Joseph Campbell 28 Dec 11, 1:41 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs I have nothing to add as you both stated it very well but wanted to add, princess a., I hope your neck is feeling better soon. Happy New Year. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 28 Dec 11, 4:26 PM Master_J_P US(OH), 8 mths Thought I'd give you a Master's perspective, as my one needs to remover her collar on a regular basis due to her role in an Operating Room, which requires a bare neck. For those who know of her choice, it is no problem. They see her take the set screw out with an Allen wrench, and know that she only does so from career necessity. For those who don't, and can't handle it, she passes it off as an accessory choice. She has been told that she is allowed to exit the hospital without the collar, but that she must then replace it in her car before leaving the lot. One is a good slave, and handles this particular interface with the unowned quite well. Her biggest problem in this regard is the locker room near the OR where she changes into her scrubs. Sometimes I've left signs of my use of her (stripes, bruises, bites, etc) and she's been asked about her home life. I'm sure that some of the straights feel that she is being abused. She cannot explain, and I'm not there to defend, so... For this, I both admire her strength, and her insistence that our time in the dungeon is sacred to her. 28 Dec 11, 8:06 PM 290-491-264 US(SC), 7 mths It is the slave that makes the collar not the collar that makes the slave 29 Dec 11, 7:00 AM 766-003-205 US(CA), 11 mths Y! princess_adela wrote: Collar Off. Hello all... And Happy New Year!! Because of a little mishap on Christmas Eve I have had to remove my collar. Messed my neck up a bit. Apparently I felt the need to wrestle with the brambles. But that's a different story. Many have commented on how when their collars were removed they felt lost, confused and didn't have the same connection to their Masters. I have had my collar on 24/7 for well over a year now. When removing it I thought I would have some horrible meltdown. Well, I did not. I felt no less owned without it. In fact I found it quite enlightening. It's not the collar that owns me.. no... it's my Master. It solidified my decision on being Master's slave. Just thought I would share. Be safe for the New Year! princess a. YOU understand! Great insight!!!!! and as 841 said- Feel better soon Edited 29 Dec 11, 7:01 AM by 766-003-205 29 Dec 11, 1:22 PM lil_one_anjuli 20 mths Well i gotta say i agree with Adela, however!!!!! yes there is always a however in my mind.... For situations that has the Master's permission and extreme need, i do think the collar is just a peanut. I took my collar off when i had surgery and i did not feel anything....same with my wedding ring....felt nothing. If i go to concert and need to remove my bell bracelet i feel nothing as well. In case a Master uses the collar as punishment or as release that has a huge deep meaning. Just like removing the wedding ring after the husband/wife has passed away or a divorce. I had since teen a choker i loved and never removed for 12 years. The day i started to live with Master i felt this would be a huge impact....and it was. I cried like ariver...and my necked looked ugly and felt i didnt have any amulet with me. I got a silver ring for 15 years as well....and luckily Master allowed me to stay with it. My blog: http://www.anaferreira-pianist.com/blog.html 29 Dec 11, 2:26 PM slave_emma US(OK), 6 yrs Y! I feel the same way. I didn't start wearing my collar on a daily basis until the last couple years. It is my Master that owns me, not objects. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 29 Dec 11, 3:47 PM 378-774-494 8 mths well as for i didn't learn this lesson till a few weeks ago. Sir that has been training me asked me one day out of the 6 years why haven't i had a collar.the only answer i could give him was had not clue. well with out me relizeing he showed me his owen way that is not the collar that maked me the slave that i am its me. so yes i know the feeling all to well. that i don't need a collar because i know who i am.(sorry if that didn't make any since) 30 Dec 11, 2:29 AM 332-406-218 24 mths same here, it's only been the past year since i wear my collar 24/7/365 & it only comes off when bathing or going to specific functions or medical appointments in the public it's second nature, i've walked out with it on in circumstances where i would normally have taken it off, so far no one in my rather conservative apartment complex has mentioned it, but then I often wear dark shirts which blend in with the leather collar, so maybe no one has noticed it that much # 332-406-218 30 Dec 11, 3:36 AM 789-513-736 US(NY), 13 mths The collar is merely a symbol, but after being in it for a year, taking it off is like the first time I went out in a dress with no underwear. Nobody knew but me and Master that I was bare down there, but it was a strange sensation nonetheless. Next page