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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "meaning of pain" 1 2 meaning of pain (11) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Thu 22 Dec 11, 10:33 AM seekingone US(AZ), 20 mths i like to find out what others think or feel about that. Pain,what does it mean to a sub/slave or what its place in a Master/slave relationship. please give me your thoughts about that.thank you 22 Dec 11, 2:15 PM NobodyKP GR, 3 yrs I think that the concept of pain has two sides. One being pain as a means for pleasure and another as part of a punishment. The use of both depends on the partners and on the circumstances but pain as a concept per se script without a context is neutral. When I use it is in the form of punishment... Personally, I do not get any pleasure from inflicting senselessly pain to anyone, unless i know he/she enjoys it, in which case it is used as needed. Its impossible for someone to learn what he thinks he already knows... 22 Dec 11, 3:25 PM 883-993-489 US(FL), 6 mths Suffering pain for my Mistress is the greatest way of telling her that I am devoted and willing to suufer that pain for her. I wear my whip marks with pride. 22 Dec 11, 3:36 PM Mistress_Dea UK, 3 yrs I love inflicting pain and the more severe the more pleasure I get. I don't care whether my slave gets pleasure from it or not, but am lucky that I have a slave who is willing for anything which gives me pleasure. 22 Dec 11, 10:10 PM 378-774-494 8 mths really and truly i think its diffent for everyone of us. the reason i say that its becuse we would go thew diffent pains for our masters and mistress deppending on what is going on around us i know with my last master i went threw the pain of wateing for him while he was dealing with his health becuse i missed him and was worryed about him... but really we go threw all kinda pain to make sure they know they are loved and we devote our self to serive them. 23 Dec 11, 6:56 AM 766-003-205 US(CA), 11 mths Y! 607-260-705 wrote: meaning of pain i like to find out what others think or feel about that. Pain,what does it mean to a sub/slave or what its place in a Master/slave relationship. please give me your thoughts about that.thank you There are two parts to the dynamic- Master's use of pain to arouse me for his sexual pleasure after and our mentor's use of me for Her fun and party entertainment. Master doesn't believe in pain for punishment though His lectures are pretty painful. He did try it once but i just got hot even though it was a fairly disliked paddle and causes very intense, unpleasant stinging- still didn't work either. i am a masochist meaning as you probably already could see, i get directly sexually aroused by pain- Particularly when in complete bondage with sensory deprivation, no time limits, no clue etc. No limits except His. That's kind of a cheating statement though since knowing His limits by default set mine and we share them via that. No serial killers here. So pain is the primary means to my arousal, and He loves me aroused. It arouses Him to arouse me and He LOVES the results. Pain has it's rewards for us both. i also get into subspace and He likes to seem me there too- it enhances all of the sexual stuff and he LOVES the sexual stuff as enhanced as it can get. 2) Our mentor loves to whip me because i can take a lot and long- so She likes to "do" me at parties. She is a sadist and loves to see the marks and how long they last (about a week) and make me jump with randomly harder lashes etc. "Get my attention" So in that part of the dynamic, with His approval or even order which He has also done,(ordered me not Her)i serve Her need to whip hard as She LOVES to do that. She is very entertaining at parties and knows how to please the crowd as well as herself. So it is symbiotic. i love to get whipped hard and she loves to whip hard. The first time i was scared as i'd heard about Her proficiency whipped clamps off nipples- so i felt kind of safe yet scared because she is also know to be merciless- she wore out a taser with CBT in a single session with a guy to mention one thing- so i KNOW she is one tough sadist. She made me stand while she whipped near my face until i stopped blinking- so pain- is a large part of our dynamic- it pleases Him to get me very hot and it pleases our mentor because she just likes to cause pain and i serve as the canvas. Edited 23 Dec 11, 7:38 AM by 766-003-205 23 Dec 11, 7:25 AM Prolixitys_Saphira US, 16 mths My owner and I both like giving and receiving pain. It is an integral part of our relationship, but one used in the bedroom and not for punishment. Owned, loved and protected by Prolixity. 23 Dec 11, 1:04 PM 967-362-514 FR, 6 mths There seems to be a switch in the emotional processing of pain when inflicted by someone who cares for and holds you, when pain comes to signify the strength of that bond. Yours for Him: you are prepared to suffer for Him. His for you: He is prepared to let you demonstrate that you will suffer for Him. An alternative is that it's the Stockholm Syndrome. I can get that feeling in a rough fighty session: at some point, I want to please Him, not to reduce the suffering He may inflict on me, but because I respect Him so much. At that point, I don't want Him to stop the pain, I want it it increase. 'Hurt me, hurt me, hurt me'. 24 Dec 11, 2:01 AM slave_emma US(OK), 6 yrs Y! Pain is a fetish in my relationship and it is not used for punishment. Pain play is something that we do in the bedroom along with a shopping list of other fetishes. Stuff in the bedroom plays a very small role in our relationship. The majority of my service to my Master is done outside the bedroom. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 27 Dec 11, 5:07 PM 980-390-129 UK, 3 yrs Y! Pain is inflicted on me as a punishment in order to improve me as a person and concentrate fully on my duties. The way i see it is that the Master or Mistress cares about you and wants you to be at your best. 27 Dec 11, 8:00 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs Similar to slave emma, pain is not used for punishment but more for pleasure for both Master giving and me receiving. In the big picture, it plays a very small portion of our lives. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown Next page