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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Could you, would you - go back?" 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 Could you, would you - go back? (85) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Wed 16 Nov 11, 4:53 PM rhuafox CA, 19 mths Greetings all, If your current M/s-D/s-O/p relationship ended, would you seek another one? Could you go back to being vanilla? I have had vanilla relationships most of my life, and now that I have been living the way I really am (s-type) there is no way I would choose to go back. Just curious rhua He is the Artist, my flesh His canvas; His dominance, my submission; His intelligence/knowledge/experience, my ability to learn; His strength, my flexibility. I am a work in progress, being recreated by a Master Craftsman. 16 Nov 11, 5:09 PM 000-734-445 US(DE), 8 yrs Oh good grief no. Of course my first real relationship after high school was a BDSM one and I haven't stopped since to be honest. I was interested in it from about 13-14 on. I use capital letters as they are meant to be used in proper grammar. No disrespect is intended or meant. 16 Nov 11, 5:37 PM Prolixitys_Saphira US, 16 mths Right now, no and I foresee that I will be in my current dynamic for a long time. But I will never say that anything is set in stone. Any number of things could happen that could potentially push someone back to wanting vanilla over D/s. Owned, loved and protected by Prolixity. 16 Nov 11, 7:12 PM seresse US(PA), 23 mths Y! Rowans_rhua wrote: Could you, would you - go back? Greetings all, If your current M/s-D/s-O/p relationship ended, would you seek another one? Could you go back to being vanilla? I have had vanilla relationships most of my life, and now that I have been living the way I really am (s-type) there is no way I would choose to go back. Just curious rhua That is a very interesting question, and one i have been asking myself lately. i really don't know ... sometimes i think i would definitely, but other times i think i would like to go back to having my own freedom, even if it means being lonely. It seems like a really hard trade-off to me sometimes, especially on days like this when Master has been away on business for several days and i am alone anyway - what's the point? But then when he has been home for a few days and we are in our dynamic, then i would say i couldn't live without it and i would seek it again. It is hard to know what i would do in a situation that is difficult to conceive of anyway. i have spent a good portion of my life being independent and free and know i can make myself a good life, so it wouldn't be too hard for me to fall back into that - but would i be content enough not to seek another master? Don't know... Reading what i wrote i notice that for me it isn't a question of getting into another vanilla relationship. i would either find another master, or would remain single. No, i couldn't go back to a vanilla relationship. seresse 16 Nov 11, 7:12 PM 902-660-194 US(PA), 6 yrs if mine ended that would mean my marriage would be over & so well.. no, i dont see myself ever trusting anyone enough or being with anyone else really besides Him. vanilla or not (please dont anyone tell me " oh but you would find love again.. life goes on.. people move forward.. blah blah blah.." because for some people.. one true love means one true love ) the sting of His whip~ the welts from His crop~ the warmth of His kiss~ the click of the lock~ assures me i am His most cherished possession.. Edited 16 Nov 11, 7:14 PM by 902-660-194 16 Nov 11, 7:18 PM 741-757-000 GR, 7 mths Rowans_rhua wrote: Could you, would you - go back? Greetings all, If your current M/s-D/s-O/p relationship ended, would you seek another one? Could you go back to being vanilla? The answer to the first question is "yes" and the answer to the second one is "no". There is a third way, I think, to celibate for a while, if no urgent needs exist and a lot of questions about sadomasochism have found, more or less, a stable reply... Edited 16 Nov 11, 7:46 PM by 741-757-000 16 Nov 11, 9:46 PM slave_emma US(OK), 6 yrs Y! I tried to go back to vanilla men after I left my former Master. It didn't work out for me, because they were not able to meet my needs. I cannot foresee my relationship with my Master ending. However, if for some reason it did end. There will probably be a point in the future when I would seek another M/s relationship. I do not think I will immediately jump into another relationship. I would need time to heal and reflect. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 16 Nov 11, 10:45 PM cadance UK, 18 mths Now i have found this and discovered who i really am part of me would simply die in a purely vanilla relationship but i could never imagine being able to open up and trust anyone to the degree i trust Sir so without Him i would have no choice Sir's slave cadance. Each step of this journey is amazing, to Sir H i submit 100% 16 Nov 11, 11:39 PM pet_ka_MJ CA, 2 yrs I'd have no problems going back... I know the values I am looking for now. "We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin must be shed before a new one can come." ~ Joseph Campbell 16 Nov 11, 11:46 PM slave_torianna US(GA), 15 mths 902-660-194 wrote: if mine ended that would mean my marriage would be over & so well.. no, i dont see myself ever trusting anyone enough or being with anyone else really besides Him. vanilla or not (please dont anyone tell me " oh but you would find love again.. life goes on.. people move forward.. blah blah blah.." because for some people.. one true love means one true love ) Well said, vanilla or not...i would not be capable of opening up to another man or woman they way I have with Daddy. Ever heard the song 'Dig Two Graves' by Randy Travis? That would be my future in a nutshell. Or if He released me, I dont see recovering...thank the Lord I dont see that ever happening. slave torianna i dont walk in front or beside Daddy, i walk a step behind in my place, but close enough to grab His shirt tail if i ever get scared. i'm thankful to my Master that never leaves me behind. Thank you for loving someone like me Daddy. 17 Nov 11, 1:15 AM SL_precious CA, 3 yrs Even the thought of this question makes me sad and anxious... So I guess my answer is no "Amazing what happens when we let go, surrender all and embrace the painful changes that are necessary to bring wholeness, and a brighter tomorrow." Suzanne Sondberg Next page