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	TSR : Web boards : Other Topics : "Back to reality.." 1 2 Back to reality.. (17) This post is on the Other Topics web board. Sun 6 Nov 11, 1:11 PM Sir_Aldric 5 yrs I received this memo underneath: "In an effort to be a gentleman, I elected to send you a memo rather than publically chastising you and derailing a post. I had read your posts previously and sensing the academic undertone I didn't bother to investigate the tenure of your M/s relationship. It has been brought to my attention that you have NEVER actually experienced a D/s or M/s relationship and all of your so called opinion is by reference only. There is a great danger in handing guidance even when one is a subject matter expert let alone with your fabricated propensity. You have some tenacity tossing words of wisdom amongst those that actually live as they preach and I hold great contempt towards you for spewing insight at as if the verse were real life mantra." Anticipating that some might think that it is not ethical to post memos here, let me clarify that on a legal level (1) a memo is a gift of words and anyone is free to do with it as they see fit, unless (2) the sender made a restriction towards the content as in 'keep this confidential'. Furthermore (3) I keep sender's identity confidential myself without even referring to writer's gender, age, etc, and (4) I need the memo to clarify my post underneath. My initial reaction on above memo was that I needed to laugh; I know the writer for quite some time and I was totally surprised that the writer was all that time unaware of my special background and that someone needed to point that out to the writer.. Furthermore it seemed a bit unrealistic as if writer blamed me for feeling frustrated that writer was unaware of it. Also it felt like all the posts I ever made so far suddenly got meaningless because seemingly I did not live in the same reality as said writer.. How interesting.. what a fascinating way to look at an intellectual level towards M/s.. It felt like talking online with white people about typical white sports and then suddenly someone turns around and says: "hey, but you are black.." Since all my life I was tall, white, good looking and too intelligent to mess around with, I never had to deal with anything like prejudice before. I think it was about time it happened.. my thanks to the writer for this unique learning experience Till I read this memo I was under the impression that the only thing that actually mattered was the intellectual quality of what was written, seemly you also need to have the correct background as well.. my mistake.. So this memo made me think.. if there is one, then there are more.. that is the typical way how crowds behave. Maybe the writer just had the balls (or the lack of diplomatic insight..) to tell me that straight in the face. Anyway thinking about it I feel it is better to leave TSR to those who leave in said reality, I lost my appetite to observe you all and reflect back my feeling & opinions. So back to the question why people leave: the first time I left was mainly because of my 80 hour job, this second (and last time) is simply because all my reasons to stay have vanished. Smiling at you as always, be well, Sir Aldric P.s this is just a one-way notification, I don't want to start a discussion here (I'm gone anyway..), I just wanted to explain my final goodbye, that's it, nothing more, personally I see no need to post here, so let my last farewell just slowly fade away untouched in the rich past of TSR posts. Smile.. a poetically ending that suits me.. 6 Nov 11, 4:11 PM 820-047-985 US(NY), 7 mths We were asked not to start a discussion, but this angers and frustrates me. I know I am new here, and probably don't have the authority to express my opinion in this way, but what is wrong with people? An already marginalized group should not be further alienating others within said group! I recently read an article about the marginalization of black gays and lesbians, and how they were faced with discrimination everywhere they turned. Their main social group, blacks, refused them for their homosexuality, while their second group, homosexuals, denied them due to racism. They felt they had nowhere to turn. To me, this situation is along the same vein. How can we expect others to accept us if we cannot accept ourselves? It's foolish and hypocritical. Please note that I am not attacking this board or the people on it. I am just saddened by the lack of understanding and acceptance.... Cheers! 6 Nov 11, 5:26 PM Master_SL CA, 5 yrs Seeing as I am not one to hide in the corner, I will manifest and declare myself the “phantom of the memo”. Well unfortunately I cannot address you directly SA. I was hoping we could hold a rational discussion without the drama but I was wrong. Something tells me you will be unable to restrain your eyes from lurking as your speculative nature overrides your intestinal fortitude. I was completely surprised that with one tiny little memo you felt is necessary to run away but like an over-inflated party balloon filled with hot air, one prick of a needle and you have, poof…vanished. To be clear, I really was hoping for discussion and justification not to see anyone run away. I would venture to say that the OP was obviously far too sensitive and hopefully will never actually take it upon himself to be in a D-type role. I mean for heaven's sake, grow some proverbial balls, the long winded good bye resonates whining puppy. I had challenged the OP in private as to not de-rail another thread. Overall I find a static profile to not necessarily describe the individual as much as their fluid words as I have learned that one's true thoughts can be provoked when stimulated and questioned. Otherwise we would all just author hand-outs and pass them on to those inquiring. By my own admission I did not inspect/perv/review or otherwise the OP's profile. It was brought to my attention as I had complimented his words on a post but then questioned the clinical composition. Now after having scrutinized the OP's late profile it was discovered that there had been no practical experience nor was there any desire to engage in any future relevant real world expertise. Shortly after reading the OP's late profile I felt it necessary to thwart the advice that was coming from the OP. I will learn to at a minimum ask my slave who is who moving forward or at a minimum probe the profile. I correspondingly find it quite amusing that by means of a simple disclaimer one feels obliged to become an impersonator. The OP was nothing more than a parodist and that is a mockery of the beauty BDSM relations possess. Unfortunately this is reminiscent of the beautiful unsalable pet store parrot due to profanity. To keep things accurate I will post the original memo and the reply titled “your Visualization of a dream...” (in reference to the profile picture of a woman on all fours ass in the air bearing all, with the caption “welcome home Sir Aldric”). I will also provide a snippet depicting the disclaimers from the profile in question as I was going to reply earlier. Master_SL wrote: ...is My reality In an effort to be a gentleman, I elected to send you a memo rather than publically chastising you and derailing a post. I had read your posts previously and sensing the academic undertone I didn't bother to investigate the tenure of your M/s relationship. It has been brought to my attention that you have NEVER actually experienced a D/s or M/s relationship and all of your so called opinion is by reference only. There is a great danger in handing guidance even when one is a subject matter expert let alone with your fabricated propensity. You have some tenacity tossing words of wisdom amongst those that actually live as they preach and I hold great contempt towards you for spewing insight at as if the verse were real life mantra. “Smile.. I'm always very upfront, honest and clear in my profile. It is not my problem that you never read it and that it had to come to your attention before you realized my situation, you can't blame me for that.. So your memo doesn't say anything I didn't tell myself, it just mentions that you were badly informed yourself. I had to smile as well at your profile. Your reality seems a bit empty.. Indeed, I think, others do.. Jedem das Seine.. in the end the wisdom makes the difference.. I hope you will be just as succesfull as I am in the reality of your relations & life. Smiling at you, Sir Aldric P.s. if what I state in posts is wrong, please state that in public. I like a good discussion. In the end others will judge the wisdom of the words, we should not judge our own words.. (1) I know most women here are looking for an unattached man, so just to avoid misunderstandings: I'm very happy vanilla married to a sweet woman in real life. I don't cheat. I'm not looking for a slave, neither in real life nor online. I'm just here to read, learn and chat. (2) Although I consider myself to be a true Master I never had a slave in real life and I completely lack any practical M/s experience. When it comes to M/s I simply consider myself to be some sort of a philosopher in the shadow, an observer from the side-line, a pure theoretical thinker about all aspects of M/s. (3) The length of this profile is ridiculous (I'm fully aware of this problem and I'm deeply sorry..). This has to be by far the longest Master profile in this community so be warned if you want to read on: this will take a considerable part of your life.. (excerpt from the previously known Sir_Aldric profile) Master_SL 6 Nov 11, 6:08 PM 820-047-985 US(NY), 7 mths Master_SL wrote: Seeing as I am not one to hide in the corner, I will manifest and declare myself the “phantom of the memo”. (snipped for space) I apologize, Sir. I admit to responding using my emotions. In the future, I will refrain from posting hasty responses on the boards, and will instead take time to actually think about my actions. In this way, I hope to understand more about the M/s, D/s, O/p dynamic. Thank You for Your clarification on this matter. Cheers! 6 Nov 11, 7:03 PM Master_SL CA, 5 yrs 820-047-985 wrote: Master_SL wrote: Seeing as I am not one to hide in the corner, I will manifest and declare myself the “phantom of the memo”. (snipped for space) I apologize, Sir. I admit to responding using my emotions. In the future, I will refrain from posting hasty responses on the boards, and will instead take time to actually think about my actions. In this way, I hope to understand more about the M/s, D/s, O/p dynamic. Thank You for Your clarification on this matter. Hi 985, We must have posted very close in time and you possibly felt I responded due to your participation on this thread, not the case so don't worry I have no problem with you posting your position on things. Don't feel as though you have to recant words in fear of persecution. Speak your mind, as you may have seen I do and expect my slave to do the same. Master_SL 6 Nov 11, 7:44 PM 622-312-731 US(NV), 14 mths and once again SL wins the douchebaggery award .... property of gar 6 Nov 11, 8:06 PM tigerlili 3 yrs I've read a similar discussion on this topic previously, so I'm not sure why Sir Aldric seems so surprised that someone has taken issue with his theoretical musings. Personally, I'm interested in reading about the experiences of people in real life M/s relationships, not what people MIGHT do if they were in one, or what others SHOULD do in the opinion of one who has never been in one. It would be different if he had been seeking knowledge, but it doesn't appear he was. From memory I believe this is the reason he left last time. I'm sure he'll be back http://www.slaveregister.com/posts/181082/ http://www.slaveregister.com/posts/181401/ 6 Nov 11, 9:13 PM Master_SL CA, 5 yrs 622-312-731 wrote: and once again SL wins the douchebaggery award .... awww…731 such words of love to spread about. If you feel I have pilfered the beloved crown of “douchebaggery” you have adorned for all this time then please take the time to proliferate the reasons why. I am unable to justify your cheap insult with a retort when there is no content. If you are going to shoot one-off's it will only illustrate you as one that is unable to construe a formidable quarrel. Master_SL 6 Nov 11, 11:34 PM isolai AU, 16 mths Master_SL wrote: 622-312-731 wrote: and once again SL wins the douchebaggery award .... awww…731 such words of love to spread about. If you feel I have pilfered the beloved crown of “douchebaggery” you have adorned for all this time then please take the time to proliferate the reasons why. I am unable to justify your cheap insult with a retort when there is no content. If you are going to shoot one-off's it will only illustrate you as one that is unable to construe a formidable quarrel. Perhaps i can clarify. You stir the pot. Consistently. You cause trouble where it isn't needed. You judge as if you sit upon some sort of golden throne erected by others in pure fear of your constantly-wagging tongue. You hold pissing contests....as often as you can find other silly male dominants with which to hold them. It's ludicrous. But people tend to be like that online, i imagine, so i wouldnt go so far as to gift you the crown of douchebaggery (because there are far too many others out there far more worthy of it) however, i wonder that all your years of experience hasn't resulted in the capacity to hold your tongue. Farewell Sir Aldric, it's unfortunate that intolerance has a way of rearing its ugly head so often. I wish you well in life, and please feel free to return when the mood strikes you. 7 Nov 11, 4:29 PM rhuafox CA, 19 mths tigerlili wrote: I've read a similar discussion on this topic previously, so I'm not sure why Sir Aldric seems so surprised that someone has taken issue with his theoretical musings. Personally, I'm interested in reading about the experiences of people in real life M/s relationships, not what people MIGHT do if they were in one, or what others SHOULD do in the opinion of one who has never been in one. It would be different if he had been seeking knowledge, but it doesn't appear he was. From memory I believe this is the reason he left last time. I'm sure he'll be back http://www.slaveregister.com/posts/181082/ http://www.slaveregister.com/posts/181401/ I have to agree with you here tigerlili. Dramatic entries and exits to be sure. A bit sad really for Sir Aldric - many M/s musings but no way to actually put them into practice. rhua He is the Artist, my flesh His canvas; His dominance, my submission; His intelligence/knowledge/experience, my ability to learn; His strength, my flexibility. I am a work in progress, being recreated by a Master Craftsman. 8 Nov 11, 2:38 AM Master_SL CA, 5 yrs isolai wrote: Master_SL wrote: 622-312-731 wrote: and once again SL wins the douchebaggery award .... awww…731 such words of love to spread about. If you feel I have pilfered the beloved crown of “douchebaggery” you have adorned for all this time then please take the time to proliferate the reasons why. I am unable to justify your cheap insult with a retort when there is no content. If you are going to shoot one-off's it will only illustrate you as one that is unable to construe a formidable quarrel. Perhaps i can clarify. You stir the pot. Consistently. You cause trouble where it isn't needed. You judge as if you sit upon some sort of golden throne erected by others in pure fear of your constantly-wagging tongue. You hold pissing contests....as often as you can find other silly male dominants with which to hold them. It's ludicrous. But people tend to be like that online, i imagine, so i wouldnt go so far as to gift you the crown of douchebaggery (because there are far too many others out there far more worthy of it) however, i wonder that all your years of experience hasn't resulted in the capacity to hold your tongue. Farewell Sir Aldric, it's unfortunate that intolerance has a way of rearing its ugly head so often. I wish you well in life, and please feel free to return when the mood strikes you. Hi isolai, Well boo-hoo…I have been challenged…I am going to promptly delete my profile and declare sweet good byes only to return in a couple of months. You are correct, I do stir the pot, consistently. Cause trouble? I would say raise awareness. My intentions are to question, not judge. I would venture to say that the only ones that show signs of fear are those that blow a deceitful trumpet. I welcome challenge and cannot be held accountable for the lack of available skilled prose. For example our recently departed, Aldric. I would hardly call sending a private memo an efficient method of fear mongering or tongue wagging. Again you are correct, I do target primarily Dominants you refer to as “silly”… Syrox most certainly falls into that category but would that include Aldric and Odin? Those are the only D-types I have debated with as of late. I don't jump at the opportunity to post, usually my slave presents topics questioning my opinion and I share them publicly. I am still seeking the pissing contest as it seems as soon as I open my fly they run away like little boys. Those that know me realize I am no different in person than online. So as for holding my tongue, it will lash those that call for it. Possibly instead of ranting you could provide some words of wisdom in tandem with your criticism. Otherwise take the time to read the many words of wisdom on this board and learn. Master_SL Next page