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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "would like input from Doms/Master's/Mistresses" 1 2 3 would like input from Doms/Master's/Mistresses (23) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board (moved from Website help). Fri 4 Nov 11, 2:38 PM 647-070-616 US(IA), 20 mths i know what i feel like when I am...not getting what i need. But, what i would like to know is, what does a dominant type feel like when their sub/slave refuses a request or command? Im not really looking for just the, "I wouldn't tolerate it" response, I'm looking for feelings. Yes, i recently screwed up, and I'm bring punished for it, harshly. Any input is welcomed, thank you in advance. -and, I just realized this posted to a board that makes no sense. Crud. Lol...wish I could figure out how to move it! Anyone that can help, please do. Edited Fri 4 Nov 11, 5:17 PM by 647-070-616 4 Nov 11, 3:20 PM 913-643-445 UK, 18 mths 647-070-616 wrote: would like input from Doms/Master's/Mistresses i know what i feel like when I am...not getting what i need. But, what i would like to know is, what does a dominant type feel like when their sub/slave refuses a request or command? Im not really looking for just the, "I wouldn't tolerate it" response, I'm looking for feelings. Yes, i recently screwed up, and I'm bring punished for it, harshly. Any input is welcomed, thank you in advance. - im not a Mistress/Domme , nor do i want to be one... but i think that one of things in your situation , that i would do if i wanted to know, would be to communicate to your One and ask them, not other people, as it is their feelings that you should be considering... As a human being we are all different..and maybe by knowing how your Owner feels rather than other Owners/Master etc you can use that imformation not to mess up again. i hope you do not take offence by this post because none is intended. good luck saffy taking time out to grow strong again and let my body recover.. . 4 Nov 11, 3:26 PM 647-070-616 US(IA), 20 mths I have and do communicate, that's not why I asked. I want to know how others feel. But thank you. 4 Nov 11, 4:07 PM SIR_Conwolf US(MA), 14 mths Frustrated. SIR 4 Nov 11, 4:19 PM 647-070-616 US(IA), 20 mths SIR_Conwolf wrote: Frustrated. SIR Thank you for your reply. Yes, i can understand that. Is that all you feel? 4 Nov 11, 5:37 PM SIR_Conwolf US(MA), 14 mths 647-070-616 wrote: SIR_Conwolf wrote: Frustrated. SIR Thank you for your reply. Yes, i can understand that. Is that all you feel? I guess it would certainly depend on the situation. As mentioned in my posts and my profile this lifestyle is an extension of my already happy marriage. So as any person I could feel an array of emotions. Anger, betrayal, disappointment, indifferent, anxiety, really anything. I certainly don't want to speak for anyone else, but people are people. Sorry to be vague, <SIR 4 Nov 11, 5:43 PM 647-070-616 US(IA), 20 mths Thank you 4 Nov 11, 8:03 PM Sir_Aldric 5 yrs 647-070-616 wrote: would like input from Doms/Master's/Mistresses what does a dominant type feel like when their sub/slave refuses a request or command? My strongest feeling would be disappointment. It would not be my slave in the first place if I would doubt if she wouldn't be obedient always. I would always wisely ask for something which in all reason could be done, keeping safe within mutual accepted or agreed boundaries. So refusing a request or command would be a true disappointment unless there would be very clear and understandable reasons why she refused. But still, within M/s I don't like the sound of 'refuse'. If the reason for the refuse is not valid enough in my eyes it might be enough for me to end the relation, because else we both would just be wasting our time on the wrong partner. Sir Aldric 4 Nov 11, 9:20 PM Valyrian101 US, 18 mths Frustration. Anger. Depending on what, a betrayal of trust. Respect is default. Communication is mandatory. Understanding is enlightenment. Est Solaris Oth Mithas! 5 Nov 11, 3:56 PM kittenzmaster CA, 10 mths This will vary from M/D to M/D I believe. As no two people are alike so no two Master/Dom's will be the same in all ways. Disappointment definitely but if the refusal was not due to health/safety concerns then it would call into question the dedication of the slaves desire to serve their Master/Mistress I think. 5 Nov 11, 5:56 PM Master_SL CA, 5 yrs 647-070-616 wrote: would like input from Doms/Master's/Mistresses i know what i feel like when I am...not getting what i need. But, what i would like to know is, what does a dominant type feel like when their sub/slave refuses a request or command? Im not really looking for just the, "I wouldn't tolerate it" response, I'm looking for feelings. Yes, i recently screwed up, and I'm bring punished for it, harshly. Any input is welcomed, thank you in advance. -and, I just realized this posted to a board that makes no sense. Crud. Lol...wish I could figure out how to move it! Anyone that can help, please do. As with any contrary result, a person may feel many emotions at varying levels such as disappointment, frustration, anger, betrayal etc… I would however attribute the exhibition of like emotions when antagonized as that of an unrefined Dominance. I define not attaining what I want as a lack of the accomplishing the desired result. Common challenges would be; I have not made enough money to acquire what I desire I wish to be held at a higher social regard in my vocation It's not so much that the obstacle exists, as a mature Dominant I will resource the necessary skill-sets and resolve the issue at hand. Solutions for both of these examples would require thorough preparation and most importantly execution. In other words, things for the most part don't just land in your lap. There are prerequisites of desire, practical skill and the knowledge necessary to acquire what one wishes. May that be the examples above or an obedient slave. In our relationship precious has challenged the maturity of my inherent Dominance. My response has been to deliberate if required or correct on the spot if it was insignificant in nature. I am a firm believer that a seasoned Dominant when focused and applying themselves can get most things they desire and should be in control of their respective lives before governing another. So to the OP…How do I feel? I will answer you in three words. Consciously in control. Master_SL Next page