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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Slave Needing Help" 1 2 Slave Needing Help (14) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Mon 24 Oct 11, 7:56 AM 515-707-354 8 mths I am a slave who has been in this master/slave relationship for only two months. I am having a problem totally submitting to my master. I get an attitude out of this world when i do not get my way. I am not supposed to be acting like that. My master calls me pretty pretty princess which is not a good thing.. i need advice on this.. How do i finally get myself to a point where i can submit fully. We are in a 24 TPE relationship. I want nothing more than to please master fully and i need advice on where to go.. Edited Mon 24 Oct 11, 7:59 AM by 515-707-354 24 Oct 11, 8:21 AM rhuafox CA, 19 mths Well, while we are here for you, I would suggest you speak with your Master about that - he is the only one who can take you in hand and straighten out the problem. rhua He is the Artist, my flesh His canvas; His dominance, my submission; His intelligence/knowledge/experience, my ability to learn; His strength, my flexibility. I am a work in progress, being recreated by a Master Craftsman. 24 Oct 11, 8:29 AM slave_emma US(OK), 6 yrs Y! Why is being called a 'pretty pretty princess' a bad thing in your relationship? In my relationship, my Master says that to me when he is being playful and giving me a hard time. It's not something to be taken seriously. A few of questions to ask yourself: What is it that upsets you about not getting your way? Why is getting your way more important than giving your Master what he wants? Have you reacted the same way in the past with authority figures when you did not get your way? If so, in the past when you acted out did you end up getting your way? Most importantly, are you still doing whatever it your Master wanted you to do even if you have an attitude? This is going to take time to work through and it will not go away overnight. This is something, you and your Master will have to work on together. I think it is normal to react against the Master's authority at the start of a relationship. Whenever, I didn't see things the same as my Master, we would talk it through. Later after the task is complete, he would show me how his way is better than my way. Even though, I have always obeyed my Master; I have not always initially agreed with his train of thought. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 24 Oct 11, 8:45 AM OphiUchUS_Master US(NJ), 2 yrs Y! It sounds like you have the wrong Master! You have be 100% submissive without even thinking about it! Being someone slave has to come natural and fit like a glove! It also has to feel like skin, nice and soft, but strong! OPHIUCHUS( {'} )MASTER Is waiting to become your Master. 24 Oct 11, 8:55 AM Prolixitys_Saphira US, 16 mths OphiUchUS_Master wrote: It sounds like you have the wrong Master! You have be 100% submissive without even thinking about it! Being someone slave has to come natural and fit like a glove! It also has to feel like skin, nice and soft, but strong! Interesting profile there OphiUchUS_Master ... I really have to disagree with you there. Being 100% submissive means having 100% trust in your master. Trust has to be built over the beginning of the relationship, it just doesn't happen on day one. Barriers have to be broken down and the sub has to let the dom in. While trust is being built, there may be moments of doubt with the sub and this can lead to problems that need to be ironed out. The best thing the couple can do is communicate and work on ways to get past the disobedience so submission can occur. Owned, loved and protected by Prolixity. 24 Oct 11, 1:25 PM SL_precious CA, 3 yrs OphiUchUS_Master wrote: It sounds like you have the wrong Master! You have be 100% submissive without even thinking about it! Being someone slave has to come natural and fit like a glove! It also has to feel like skin, nice and soft, but strong! Oh my...if only all were so perfect, I dare say you will be waiting a very long time for that perfect fantasy slave. It takes a lot of time and trust to grow into complete submission and I dare say nothing is 100% ...all humans have thoughts whether they express them or not. To the OP... As the others have said, no one but you and your Master will be able to sort this problem out. @emma asked a lot of important questions. You have a lot to think about. SL_precious "Amazing what happens when we let go, surrender all and embrace the painful changes that are necessary to bring wholeness, and a brighter tomorrow." Suzanne Sondberg 25 Oct 11, 6:01 PM SavannahDom US(GA), 8 mths 515-707-354 wrote: Slave Needing Help I am a slave who has been in this master/slave relationship for only two months. I am having a problem totally submitting to my master. I get an attitude out of this world when i do not get my way. I am not supposed to be acting like that. My master calls me pretty pretty princess which is not a good thing.. i need advice on this.. How do i finally get myself to a point where i can submit fully. We are in a 24 TPE relationship. I want nothing more than to please master fully and i need advice on where to go.. From my personal experience with slaves in the past, the attitude is usually a result of a lack of trust, or, in some cases, there's something about the relationship that's sticking in your mind. You may not be consciously aware of it, but it's there. The solution? Well, there are two: A) You can talk about it with your Master, or B) You can run away. Of the two, I highly recommend option A. If he's a good (this is my personal experience speaking) Master, open communication will be very important to him, and therefore you should be able to raise the issue without fear. My sub and I have extremely good communication - but it doesn't come without work. We're even to the point now where (according to her) it's like I can read her mind when somethings not right. This takes time and willingness to develop, however, but if this is who you want to be with, then it's definitely worth the effort. 25 Oct 11, 7:11 PM 913-643-445 UK, 18 mths As has been said above i think that you have to express your fears to you One. If you are thinking that you are going to fail, and can not express the reasons why you can not submit totally to Him then there is a wall there that already needs to come down. He will know the best way to help you . hugs good luck saffy taking time out to grow strong again and let my body recover.. 25 Oct 11, 8:35 PM 825-768-571 US, 5 yrs I want nothing more than to please master fully and i need advice on where to go well that being said ....my advice to you ....... let go , let go and fall into place...fall into Your Masters will, and wishes. it is a process,submission , true submission takes time . the intial flurry and talk "i am His " " i will serve His will " is wonderful. but this takes work . well worth it but its work to have trust in each O/other .with trust comes true submission . dont beat yourself up {hmm.. }time is a valuable asset, paired with open honest talk with Your Master about Your concerns about service . enjoy the journey the tighter the ropes , the softer the kiss ... 29 Oct 11, 3:53 AM 515-707-354 8 mths I have appreciated everyones help.. It has given me alot to think about.. Master told me i need to change.. so this slave is going to change.. This slave wants to please her master more than anything. 29 Oct 11, 8:11 AM 766-003-205 US(CA), 11 mths Y! It is a process not an event. Change takes time and dedication. No one is perfect just because they say they should, it takes work. i spend a great deal of time reviewing my day, and future scenarios to submit better, more "purely" more completely. Still not perfect, but improving. Just today i gave up a hard limit that was a hard limit since the 1970's. Most would probably agree that i should keep the limit- but i am working on TOTAL submission and NO rights and it had to go as a part of that, regardless. He is right you must change. It won't happen overnight. You have to try to control your impulsiveness and "knee jerk" reactions. Being raised in these times is good for many, but those of M/s orientation because it is often mistaken for being "throwback" and unliberated, weak and ignorant rather than an orientation. Don't be negative to yourself or you will talk yourself into giving up. You have to tell yourself Yes, you CAN submit to Him and obey His orders. One thing i used to slow my initial reactions is -"Is it fatal, maiming, arrestable , illness or disease causing, nonconsensual to other people (includes public issues,children, lack of INFORMED consent? IF not- (and they mostly aren't)then having thought through that list gives you a sort of time-out to regain perspective. A responsible Master is NOT going to kill, maim, get you arrested or involve others non-consensually. So you get that 10 seconds to reset yourself to obey. It will get easier. In times when you are not interacting with him try to remind yourself, it is consensual, it is your heart's desire and your orientation. It is a turn on. You deserve to be happy serving and submitting. It IS contrary to popular opinion and mores BUT it is YOUR liberation. There is nothing more liberating than being who you really are. Next page