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	TSR : Web boards : Website help : "new slave" new slave (4) This post is on the Website help web board. Fri 14 Oct 11, 10:06 AM 941-301-942 UK, 2 yrs Y! hi i been on this site 4 some time and enjoye reading the feed back from other users but i have a bit of a problme which is i have just en - slsved my female partner like myself she has done some of this be4 but not as much as i have.i was a slave on and off 4 some time and have learned a lot over the years but now i found that i have run out of things i can get her todo i have chained /dressed/done some whipping/spanking which she dosent realy like i ordered her about but i carnt think what eles i can do with her i am worryed about going 2 far or being 2 hard with her in case it puts her off this algether can anybody help thanks privea 20 Oct 11, 8:17 AM 980-390-129 UK, 3 yrs Y! Whilst I agree with the above I would suggest that you as a Master show example and cease writing in text form.Each sentence begins with a capital letter, it is not be4, it's before. I don't wish to go on, however standards have to be maintained. 20 Oct 11, 8:41 AM Sir_Lochland US(GA), 18 mths I tend to agree, as an Owner/Master you must mold and shape your creation by example. Learning to use proper grammar would be a great place to start. Having said that. So many think a M/s relationship is nothing more than S&M or BDSM. While to most it may very well be, I know of several Owners who have never raised a cane or flogger to their slaves. It was more of psychological understanding between the two. I urge you before making any major descisions to really search within and understand what your ideal slave is. Set and establish goals, but do not set too high at first. Baby steps are the key. Also, remember training is a lifetime regimen for your slave as well as yourself. You two as a couple will always be learning and exploring new dreams and ideas. So, before you start make sure this is a commitment you can handle, as it is a living human's life and emotions that are being manipulated. After you cross a certain point it is hard for a slave to return to a previous state. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck on your journey. 20 Oct 11, 8:49 AM NobodyKP GR, 3 yrs fuckmunki wrote: ...that slavery is not only about a bit of slap and tickle but is much more Thats the ticket! I fully agree. M KOstas Its impossible for someone to learn what he thinks he already knows... 20 Oct 11, 9:13 AM 766-003-205 US(CA), 11 mths Y! You might try Erotic Slavehood as a starter just to get ideas and a direction. There are many other books via amazon and their kindle app for PC as well. The various websites, here and the Internal Enslavement sites also have recommendations. try adding in 1-2 things at a time. Some "M"'s have actually had the slave write up some things and reviewed them. It can give you an idea of where they are at so you know where to start. i know what you mean, you don't want to them to just leave because you were too rigid, too fast or they didn't know how to talk to you. Have them keep a journal that you read, tell you their fantasies. Start a protocol. All good things take time. TPE is a process not an event. You BOTH have to train for it. YOU need to learn it is okay to dominate. In the "olden" days people were not Masters/Mistresses before they were subs or slaves. It was like an initiation sort of. They had to learn it from the slave side before anyone would consider them worthy of being a Master or Mistress. You have done that. It could be you aren't a dominant which is why you are having trouble thinking, or just having trouble transitioning. You need not rush- just do a bit at a time. we slaves have to learn to deepen our submission. we have to get over social rules and goals that we were brought up to think we should follow. Maybe they are good for others, but for us slaves, they aren't. we have to earn to obey and trust our Owners who have all of our rights in their hands. This takes time to build as trust is not overnight. Mistakes get made, trust sometimes gets challenged and hopefully both learn and do better. The Owners have to learn how important it is to be trustworthy, safe and caring and that is is perfectly okay and desirable to dominate us.The Owners too have social rules to overcome as they are taught not to whip, hurt (not HARM), or restrain other people (even if consensual). Wading through all of that takes considerable time and learning. It is not easy to be a slave, and it is not easy to be a Master or Mistress. It takes a HUGE investment for both positions. Just take your time. Edited 20 Oct 11, 9:16 AM by 766-003-205