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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Epic Failure" 1 2 Epic Failure (19) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Mon 3 Oct 11, 2:14 AM Celeste US, 3 yrs (This refers to my previous post: A Master's Responsibilities) Master came home and we spent two incredible days together. He was kind, loving, and more passionate than he had been in months. We read thru the thread and discussed the issues and suggestions each posting contained, which seemed to really connect with Master on a level that I had been unable to reach. We decided to keep conversation open and unrestricted as we worked through our issues. We decided to address one of the issues I brought up and go through the bag of unused toys to try them out. Finally around 9PM last night, he brought out the bag of toys, went through the entire thing... he stuck a vibrating bullet in my bra and giggled a lot, while I sat on the bed playing solitaire. Later, I asked why he had put off until the last minute going through the toys (He had to leave for work at 6AM today). Why he hadn't tried them out as we had planned? He told me he didn't want to interrupt me because he was concerned I might get annoyed. After much conversation, he finally admitted that he "couldn't string this all together". At that point, I realized continuing to try and make a M/s relationship "happen" will only hurt him and further damage our marriage. When I told him it was OK if he didn't want to do this anymore, he was relieved. I am a very lucky woman to have a kind, loving and considerate husband. Many women don't. I do wish he had been honest with his feelings 3 years ago, but I can't change what has happened in the past, only try to move forward. Many thanks to all of you who contributed to the thread. The outcome isn't ideal for me, but having him and the marriage solid is more important than anything else. Best of luck to all of you in everything. Celeste To RWS.... Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.--Hardy D. Jackson 3 Oct 11, 2:28 AM Master_Odin US(KS), 3 yrs Celeste wrote: Epic Failure I am a very lucky woman to have a kind, loving and considerate husband. Many women don't. I do wish he had been honest with his feelings 3 years ago, but I can't change what has happened in the past, only try to move forward. Celeste I am sorry it didn't work out the way you would have like and wish you both all the best in the future. <selah> There is no authority, only responsibility. 3 Oct 11, 2:47 AM rhuafox CA, 19 mths Hello Celeste, I am sorry to hear about the M/s part of your relationship going by the wayside. You entitled your post Epic failure, and I have no doubt it feels that way. Your world has just tilted. But it is a failure if you can hang on to the love you two share, and the marriage? Think of the amount of communication it took to clear the air between you. It isn't a failure, its a different outcome. I do wish you and he the best, and hope love wins out. rhua rhuafox 3 Oct 11, 4:23 AM pet_of_Valyrian101 US, 18 mths Celeste, i have to agree with Rhua - this is definitely NOT a failure. The only way for this to have had the outcome you were hoping for would be for him to have been a different person, and that might have made him not be the man you love today. May you both have the best in your futures. Valyrian101's pet 834-070-573 is Valyrian101's pet - owned and loved, serving Master in every way, there is nothing that makes her happier. 3 Oct 11, 9:10 AM 913-643-445 UK, 18 mths Hugs, i dont see this as a failure either. You still have the man you love, and cared about him enough to notice that there was a problem and have been able to resolve it. In this day and age when people are to quick to run to the "greener grass" how can that possibley be a failure. that says strong relationship to me.... maybe not in the dynamic you would like , but still a strong relationship. hugs saffy for Him with my heart , mind , body and soul always . 3 Oct 11, 3:03 PM DarkDrifter CA, 4 yrs Y! As everyone else is saying this is not a failure at all. you have come out of this with a loving relationship and marriage still intact and maybe even stronger. you have opened up the communication between the two of you which is a victory really as it is such an essential part of any relationship. Good luck to you both. 3 Oct 11, 7:14 PM mistressK CA, 16 mths This is simply the opportunity to have two great and precious things: A loving marriage where he wants what is best for you but won't do it at his own personal cost (the good way). A Master (non-sexual?) who is exactly right for you, and makes you feel even more fulfilled in your marriage. You are a very lucky woman!! - K EDIT: My current weekend/holiday slave is married to a submissive (I've talked to her, she knows and has her own Master), so it can be done if both are willing and carefully respectful. ------------------- "I guess it comes down to a simple choice, really. Get busy living or get busy dying." (Shawshank Redemption) Seeking single gay/straight male or slave couple for 24/7 O&P adventure of a lifetime. Edited 3 Oct 11, 7:15 PM by mistressK 3 Oct 11, 10:12 PM Celeste US, 3 yrs Celeste wrote: Epic Failure I am a very lucky woman to have a kind, loving and considerate husband. Many women don't. Believe me, I know that I am truly fortunate to have a wonderful husband. There was love before M/s and there is love still. I think my reference to things being an Epic Failure, is in that we sat down with the bottle of wine and talked, and talked, and talked...... For now, this is how he wants it. Maybe, someday, we will revisit, because he has already asked if he could still tell me what to do even though he is no longer my Master. So, somewhere in in his soul, my Master may yet still reside. What he doesn't know is that even if he is no longer my Master, I will always be his slave...... Again, thank you for wonderful comments, support and your compassion. Regards, Celeste People say you don't know what you've got till it's gone. Truth is, that you knew what you had, you just never thought you'd lose it. - Author Unknown (stolen from a friend - LOL) 4 Oct 11, 12:26 PM SirStrict43 UK, 6 yrs Celeste wrote: Celeste wrote: Epic Failure I am a very lucky woman to have a kind, loving and considerate husband. Many women don't. Believe me, I know that I am truly fortunate to have a wonderful husband. There was love before M/s and there is love still. I think my reference to things being an Epic Failure, is in that we sat down with the bottle of wine and talked, and talked, and talked...... For now, this is how he wants it. Maybe, someday, we will revisit, because he has already asked if he could still tell me what to do even though he is no longer my Master. So, somewhere in in his soul, my Master may yet still reside. What he doesn't know is that even if he is no longer my Master, I will always be his slave...... Again, thank you for wonderful comments, support and your compassion. Regards, Celeste I see no element of failure here. As I have said before [maybe a little differently] Failure only exists where nothing is learnt from the experience. SS 5 Oct 11, 4:44 PM Miss_Astere US, 2 yrs Have you considered opening your marriage and experimenting sexually with other partners? I think you have a great thing going on with your husband and introducing a new dynamic may help you both get more clarity in your relationship. I just think that your disappointment is not the kind that is just going to go away with time and if not addressed it may build up to something not so desirable at the end. An open marriage may be a great opportunity for both of you to learn what you really want (maybe even just the talk of it). One of those things where I see the "don't put it away, try to solve it" sign. 5 Oct 11, 10:38 PM mutable 2 yrs Celeste wrote: Celeste wrote: Epic Failure I am a very lucky woman to have a kind, loving and considerate husband. Many women don't. Believe me, I know that I am truly fortunate to have a wonderful husband. There was love before M/s and there is love still. I think my reference to things being an Epic Failure, is in that we sat down with the bottle of wine and talked, and talked, and talked...... For now, this is how he wants it. Maybe, someday, we will revisit, because he has already asked if he could still tell me what to do even though he is no longer my Master. So, somewhere in in his soul, my Master may yet still reside. What he doesn't know is that even if he is no longer my Master, I will always be his slave...... Again, thank you for wonderful comments, support and your compassion. Regards, Celeste First @Celeste, I find your honesty in this to be inspriational - for me, at least. Second, if you have found a way to love each other regardless of 'how', then 'epic success' rather than 'epic failure' is what it is and I hope you do not underestimate how fortunate you are, sincerely. I know that things rarely turn out as expected or hoped and, often, there are bumps along the road. I know because I'm experiencing something similar myself and I also know that it kicks away at the tentative/desired foundations one has built. However, you are in a place to build something new and wonderful and unique - all in it's own right, vanilla or otherwise - so maybe not so much a 'failure' afterall, but a new path on your journey, eh? In any case, getting to the point, I hope you both continue to be happy in whatever place you choose. Edited: mouse! 'We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are'. Anais Nin Edited 5 Oct 11, 10:44 PM by mutable Next page