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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Children & teachings..." 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Children & teachings... (96) This topic is now full - if you want to reply, please make a new post on the board itself. This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Tue 26 Jul 11, 1:48 AM Mistress_Rebekah CA, 10 mths Y! Do any of you, who have children, gently try to form them in certain ways, beyond the "normal" right v. wrong, etc. (just as an example: if you are a male sub, do you try to teach your male children "sub tendencies" or if you are a female domme do you try to teach your female children to be strong, independent, dominant...)? I've noticed that my sub gently teaches his sons great respect for females in any form (he encourages them to choose women based on their minds/ personalities rather than looks)... he also teaches his sons to respect a woman's say... if she says "no" is means no (so, in relation to sexual activities, the minute a girl says "no" even if all of her body language and prior actions have screamed "YES", you stop straight away)... he teaches his boys that there is nothing wrong with women controlling the finances and there is no shame in handing over your paycheque to a woman in order for her to make sure the bills are paid and the savings increased... he teaches his boys that it is O.K. to be emotional, to show emotion (even cry, if they feel the need)... he shows them that a man can do domestic chores, such as cleaning and cooking and he can even get his wife a drink or rub her feet in the evenings... He tells them all that they need a "strong woman" to help keep them on the straight and narrow path in life... a woman that can make decisions and look after things... I've only just started noticing this, but it appears as if he is shaping his lads to be submissive towards women... I was just wondering if anyone else is gently passing down the traits they most admire either in themselves or their respective partners because that is the type of lifestyle or mentality they would like their children to have? I'm not saying my sub has told his boys to "be subs"... not in so many words... but it certainly wouldn't surprise me if any of them did tend towards that type of personality as they grow older because of their upbringing now and the life-lessons they're receiving... (just as I saw my own mother be dominant and controlling... those were behaviours I learned and grew to admire)... Just wondering. Any comments? 26 Jul 11, 2:15 AM slave_torianna US(GA), 15 mths Daddy and i have not started having children yet...we are hoping to have a bundle of joy 2013 (wish us luck) we have already discussed when we do have a child, "how will we raise them?!" here's what we have come up with...we will teach the way Daddy was raised (Daddy turned out pretty great so we hope the same for our future children) - first off, some households are not run like ours and just bc we believe one way doesnt mean i think any other household is wrong, like with a woman being head of the house...i say Go Girl, but not how we have chosen to live - Daddy and i believe the man is to be the head of the house and make final decisions...M/s or not, this is how we believe the order should be, Man is superior to a woman. we would teach our children, not to necessarily let a man "boss" them around or EVER mistreat them but that the man is the leader and in charge of finances, labor of keeping up a house and vehicles and make sure the family is provided for and woman is to follow by taking care of chores (cleaning/laundry), taking care of children, and being submissive to her man. when the time comes and our children are older (young adults), we may tell them of our M/s lifestyle and let them choose their own path in life and with their relationships. i dont see any reason in hiding it as they grow up, aside from punishments and bedroom activities bc that has nothing to do with planting the foundation of what we feel is the natural order of males and females. to add, we would def probably influence our children with our best traits...Daddy is a very "take charge" kinda guy, very strong and a great role model...me on the other hand, i am more of the laid back one. i dont worry about finances or any forth coming events, just take everything a day at a time. i hope i havent offended, to each his own. as long as everyone is happy then who am i to judge?? ...prayer, Please God let my children have Daddy's smarts lol jk i dont walk in front or beside Daddy, i walk a step behind in my place, but close enough to grab His shirt tail if i ever get scared. i'm thankful to my Master that never leaves me behind. Thank you for loving someone like me Daddy. Edited 26 Jul 11, 2:19 AM by slave_torianna 26 Jul 11, 2:43 AM SL_precious CA, 3 yrs I think that I have probably done the opposite. I allowed my ex who was vanilla to make decisions for our family that were not in our best interest because I didn't have the strength to stand up to him. I gave up the dreams that I had for myself too young and grew to resent him for that. I have daughters and I have brought them up to be strong and self sufficient ... They understand that it is important for them to discover who they are as individuals and to follow their dreams. I have told them not to compromise their goals for any man, that life was long and the right person will accept them for who they are. I don't want them to feel submissive, unless of course it is what they want and what makes them happy. ... I have one daughter who is clearly Domme material.. But I am not going to sway her..lol...I'm sure she will find her way. As far as our home life, Master and I show all of our children what a loving adult relationship should look like. We respect each other, we take care of each other...and we are happy.... This is what I want most for them, be they Domme or sub or vanilla...I think this is the greatest gift we can give them. Best Regards, SL_precious "Amazing what happens when we let go, surrender all and embrace the painful changes that are necessary to bring wholeness, and a brighter tomorrow." Suzanne Sondberg 26 Jul 11, 2:58 AM Mistress_Rebekah CA, 10 mths Y! SL_precious wrote: As far as our home life, Master and I show all of our children what a loving adult relationship should look like. We respect each other, we take care of each other...and we are happy.... This is what I want most for them, be they Domme or sub or vanilla...I think this is the greatest gift we can give them. Best Regards, SL_precious Simply... I think that's excellent. Well put. M. Rebekah 26 Jul 11, 3:14 AM 821-145-536 US(NY), 14 mths Y! my children are all older, and i'm not sure if i should or want to tell them the lifestyle path that i have discovered has been within me my whole life. my children have always seen me as a strong mother that has been both mother and father to them. i'm afraid to loose there respect by telling them that i am a submissive. i no this is a little off topic and for that i am sorry but any help would be greatly appreciated 26 Jul 11, 4:08 AM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs Mistress_Rebekah wrote: SL_precious wrote: As far as our home life, Master and I show all of our children what a loving adult relationship should look like. We respect each other, we take care of each other...and we are happy.... This is what I want most for them, be they Domme or sub or vanilla...I think this is the greatest gift we can give them. Best Regards, SL_precious Simply... I think that's excellent. Well put. M. Rebekah I think so too!! My mother taught me to be a strong, independent woman and yet I grew up in more a a fifties style family. My mother stayed home, looked after the home, children and my father. Although they discussed everything, my father had the last word and still does. I learned to look after myself through this. Even though these lessons are not my preference or my personal life now, they certainly helped in my career on the work front where I have to be strong as I deal with many men on a daily basis. The words SL_precious shared above brought back wonderful memories of what my parents as a couple, taught me and my brother. They still set that example in their daily life together. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 26 Jul 11, 4:32 AM slave_emma US(OK), 6 yrs Y! My Master let his children be their own person. He didn't steer any of his children in any particular direction relationship wise. He was the head of household, because he's the father and I am the step-mom. It worked out well for us. When we were trying to have children of our own, we were going to follow the same model. I did take time to show my step-daughter how to be lady like. Teaching her how to walk correctly in heals was no small feat. She learnt domestic duties as well as some things that were considered more masculine like woodworking. She could spend hours in the shop with my Master making something. I think we both gave her different tools that she could have used in her life. We knew that she had to know how to cook, clean, pay the bills, deal with people, and etc in day to day life as an adult. My Master and I both worked so she was shown a world were both parents worked outside the home. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 26 Jul 11, 8:09 AM Prolixitys_Saphira US, 16 mths I think you also have to teach to the child's personality. I have one who acts so like her father that in no way is she going to think of herself as submissive to a man or that her place is doing chores on the house while he brings home the bacon. (Not insulting anyone's views on gender roles, just stating this stubborn, independent child would give you no end of grief if she was in such a household.) I think it's a better fit for her personality type to teach her to be strong and independent instead of butting heads with her. If there is submission in her future, she sure as hell is not going to be the one doing it. I don't teach any of my children to be either dominant or submissive. I try to instill in them our morals, a work ethic and some manners while teaching to their individual personalities. If they choose to be dominant or submissive in a future relationship then more power to them. Owned, protected and loved by Prolixity 26 Jul 11, 9:04 AM CandyJones 10 mths Just leave kids out of this forum please 26 Jul 11, 9:23 AM Syrox73 UK, 2 yrs Y! I am not sure that it is intentional, but my 10 year old is showing dominant traites and my 4 year old girl is developing the skills (such as persuasion and flat out manipulation) that would serve her well as a mistress. the other 2 are not showing leanings in any direction though. It could equally just be the way they were born though. It has never actually been taught to them, other than My ruls stick and that they will only ever get as far as the line.. if they cross it there are consequences Its a tough question that hits heavily on the Nature vs. Nurture debate. Im interested to see where this thread goes. You're amazing, yes it's true, but without me, you're only you. I done a blog! Check profile for details 26 Jul 11, 11:38 AM Mistress_Rebekah CA, 10 mths Y! CandyJones wrote: Just leave kids out of this forum please There really was no need for this comment as it is unhelpful and off topic. Those of us currently raising young families often have many concerns regarding our lifestyle and our children (some have told their children, some have not, some want to tell their children but don't know how, some want to be able to hide it from their children but are worried they'll find out, etc.). Children were not brought into this discussion in a sexual way and therefore I do not feel that this thread is in any way inappropriate. Those who have posted are merely sharing the way they raise their children and the things that they are teaching them. How do you have a problem with this?! Next page