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	TSR : Web boards : Other Topics : "Need advice..." Need advice... (5) This post is on the Other Topics web board. Sat 23 Apr 11, 11:51 PM Rygel_16th US(VA), 15 mths I think this is the best board to post this on, as it is a need for more general advice... I made an account on ALT.com. Where you have to either pay or work at getting points to do stuff. Compared to TSR, it sucks - and I think many of the accounts are fake, acting as bait. BUT I got a mail from somebody in my area (like 2 miles away) that was interested in me and wants a long term relationship with somebody who understands her needs - she wants to explore her sub side. Which means I have more knowledge and skill than her, but barely, when it comes to the lifestyle. I replied, was honest the whole way, and she gave me an email address to write to her outside of ALT (which sucks). I did and sent her some photos - most of the same as on here. She replied, thought I was cute, and in the letter were photos of her. Now, look at my photos. I have been told I have nice eyes and one girl told me I have a nice butt. Not bad for the ego. She is a beauty. I mean swimsuit, PlayBoy Model, if she was in a cheerleading outfit she could pass as a living Barbie with a better figure. I replied, mostly just background about myself, asking her what she likes, stuff like that. Think babble turned into type. I feel a mixture of happiness at finding somebody so honest, eager, and lovely. And fear that I will SCREW it up because I can't stop looking at her breasts if we meet. I know I have a lot to give to a relationship... Yet I am a mature 39 year old and I feel like a teenager again! Advice. Any advice. Is my reaction a good one? Should I hit my head against the wall and calm down? Thanks! "Dogs Can't Kill Me." 24 Apr 11, 9:50 AM 268-499-766 US(DE), 13 mths I'm not familiar with ALT.com though I am a firm believer in taking the time to get to know someone before falling in like or lust with that person. Perhaps she may not be who her photos portray her to be but you'll surely find that out for yourself in due time. Don't overthink the situation, simply be yourself. If she turns out to be who she says she is, don't drool over her breasts in the first meeting. Compliment her and make her feel comfortable around you. Certainly as a Dom, you can conjure up some self-control/respect. I wish you the best of luck (: 24 Apr 11, 11:47 AM Rygel_16th US(VA), 15 mths Thanks folks! A couple of cold showers should help...well, maybe not. Frankly, they have never worked in the past. But I will take it slow, think about being her friend, building trust, and go from there. "Dogs Can't Kill Me." 24 Apr 11, 12:08 PM Sir_Aldric 5 yrs Rygel_16th wrote: She is a beauty. I mean swimsuit, PlayBoy Model, if she was in a cheerleading outfit she could pass as a living Barbie with a better figure. STOP! I'll take it over from here to make sure nothing goes wrong. Just give me her email address.. Lol, nah, just teasing as usual.. Just a few remarks: a Master should first and foremost control himself. You will mess up in the momemt your ego or blind sexual desire takes over. She expects to see a Master, so BE a Master. Listen carefully to what she says, needs, hopes to find in a Master. If you think you can be that Master give it your best shot. Be responsible with what you do. On the other side: if it sounds to good to be true, unfortunately it usually is.. Be careful with making financial commitments or whatever. And for the rest: enjoy & happy hunting! Sir Aldric 24 Apr 11, 6:32 PM naughtyslave US, 2 yrs Rygel_16th wrote: Thanks folks! A couple of cold showers should help...well, maybe not. Frankly, they have never worked in the past. But I will take it slow, think about being her friend, building trust, and go from there. Cold showers...nah. Maybe a marathon of masterbation might help before you meet her. This way You will be relaxed and calm when meeting her. The fact that she has a awesome body is a bonus, but what is her mind like? After all You cannot bond with her tits. You can bind them, not bond with them <winks>.When its all said and done You will need to connect with her. You wont know if You do if You cannot control Your mind to not focuss on her body. i really do hope she turns out to be what You are looking for. Please be careful...i try to remind myself when meeting someone that i need to protect myself from myself. What i mean by that is this...i know i have powerful needs to submit. i stuff those deep down inside me so that i can actually pay attention to the person i am meeting and not let my own desires cloud my judgement. good luck...crossing my fingers for You! Take care, naughty 8 May 11, 5:47 PM 000-790-441 US(WA), 10 yrs Y! Many of the best sites will cost, yet will allow a "standard" member to answer any mail sent them even if it will not allow you to be the iniator. Butt yes, it likes this site as it is open and free for all. When answering my best form has been to use caution in what it says and sends until you have a feeling for the other person. If it is good, go forward. If it is bad, cut it off quick. Never give out personal info unless you r sure of the other parties intentions. Caution is the name of the game in this community.