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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Sister Slaves" 1 2 Sister Slaves (19) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Mon 18 Apr 11, 8:05 PM 289-896-841 US(IL), 14 mths Y! Master has expressed great interest in having multiple slaves, and as of late, He has suggested looking for another. W/we have had an online girl with U/us before, but that is far different than having another slave actually living with U/us. I was wondering if there were other slaves or Masters even that have had a poly situation before, and what advice they could give to a young slave just starting out with it. Thank Y/you all for Y/your time, and I appreciate any and all advice that can be given. P.S. I have spoken with Master about this all before, but He is new to the situation as well. 19 Apr 11, 9:15 AM naughtyslave US, 2 yrs i know very little of poly but i hit the search button on the subject and there are some really good posts. Might try there. Also there is alot of activity at fet with poly families. i would for sure do my homework on it and make sure it is something you can handle because there is a huge difference on being able to shut the cam off and sharing your Masters bed with another. good luck.. Take care, naughty 19 Apr 11, 2:55 PM Beardedknight US(AR), 2 yrs Y! Greetings, Yes, there is a lot of information out there that you can research. But speaking from experience, "IF" being a polyfamily is something that YOU really want then you need to make sure that whomever comes into the household is below you. That you stay "first girl". And that is something that you and your Master have to talk about. You need to have completely open communication not only between yourself and your Master but also with the new person. And if Master wants to bring in another girl just for his pleasure and kicks then it will never work. There is a lot more to it than that. Like Naughty said, Research, join groups and ask lots of questions, but honestly he should be doing this at the same time. Hope this helps. With respect, Sir Tim With respect, Sir Tim the Beardedknight 19 Apr 11, 3:57 PM Malkinius US(IL), 5 yrs Greetings..... There are a lot of people who have had more than one slave at some point. Some have that for a long time and some don't. Being one of those who has had more than one for a decent part of the time I have owned slaves, I have a bit of a clue. <grins> The key thing is that all the slaves must want it to work or it won't work. Jealousy and envy are what kills most poly or multi relationships. I use multi to include multiple slave households where the emphasis is not on everyone loving each other as in true poly families but on one person owning more than one slave and the focus of each slave is on the owner. The main thing you have to understand is that when you bring a new slave in, your Master will have New Toy Syndrome. He will want to spend most of his time for a while playing with his new toy. You should expect this and work with it. You should not complain because you are not getting your share of his attention. You will never have all of his attention again as long as there are other slaves in the house. Get ready for that. The amount of time he spends with each of you will balance out over time. How it balances is up to him, not you. Your Master is going to have the hard part of the relationship. He has to balance both of you and allocate his time and energy that will now be split into two directions and both of you will be trying to have most of his attention most of the time. He will also have to find things for both of you to do to occupy your time. That is not as easy as it sounds. If he sleeps with both of you I think the best solution, unless you really like all three of you in the same bed every night, is to rotate nights after the first week or two and the new toy has lost some of its luster. Yes, that means let him have her every night the first week. Get that bonding going. Can he decide after a while that he only wants one slave and that slave isn't you? Yes. Will he? Impossible to say. Will he decide he only wants you after all? Still impossible to say. Will you bond with each other like sisters or even lovers? Same answer. You will never know until you try it. You can try to find others in your area who have multiple slaves and both of you should talk to them about how it works. I know that there are some even here on this board. The one thing that I will guarantee is that it will not turn out like you expect. It never does. <grins> Be well..... Malkinius 19 Apr 11, 5:27 PM 289-896-841 US(IL), 14 mths Y! Thank Y/you all for Y/your input, I do appreciate it greatly. I'll do my best to read all I can on the topic, as well as seek out others in my area in the same situation. I'm hoping that this will work out well, as it is something that Master and I are both wanting. Thank Y/you again for Y/your input! 289-896-841 20 Apr 11, 5:31 PM GerardVanDam NL, 4 yrs Thank you, Beardedknight and Malkinius. Malkinius wrote: ......Your Master is going to have the hard part of the relationship. He has to balance both of you and allocate his time and energy that will now be split into two directions and both of you will be trying to have most of his attention most of the time. He will also have to find things for both of you to do to occupy your time. That is not as easy as it sounds. If he sleeps with both of you I think the best solution, unless you really like all three of you in the same bed every night, is to rotate nights after the first week or two and the new toy has lost some of its luster. Yes, that means let him have her every night the first week. Get that bonding going....... .....Can he decide after a while that he only wants one slave and that slave isn't you? Yes. Will he? Impossible to say. Will he decide he only wants you after all? Still impossible to say. Will you bond with each other like sisters or even lovers? Same answer. You will never know until you try it....... A long time ago I had more than one girl on several occasions. And we knew many more threesomes and foursomes. I learned that: First: If your relationship is not VERY good, don't try to build something with a third person. Don't fool yourself. I have seen this happen many times, resulting in devorces and even suicides. Second: You, #1, should at least like the third person. Third: See the first quote (This is where I went wrong 25 years ago. In those days I was still vanilla.). Fourth: See second quote. Expect difficult and unexpected situations. Fifth: Even if all works out fine, your relationship with Master will change. English is not my first language. For many here it is difficult to express their feelings. If I make mistakes, please tell me. 21 Apr 11, 5:33 AM Eammon1066 US(OH), 6 yrs Y! I can tell you from a very recent experience of my own, this is a LOT of hard work. This means testing every part of your relationship. If you can make it work it is a very rewarding way of life. If you find that it is not for you as a couple and indivudaly it will not work. Communication is key! Before you bring another into your lives talk and listen to each other. As was stated before this can end in divorces ( witch is were mine ended) I can speak from experience. Just be very careful and know/understand what is instore. What is instore is that the dynamic WILL change, it may be some good and some bad but it will not be the same as it was before. I can only hope that no mater what you decide you and your master will be happy. Best wishes, Master Eammon 21 Apr 11, 8:44 AM lil_one_anjuli 20 mths Some good advices. Well i dread of poligamy relationships although i have lived in it. 1st...i do disagree with Beared when he says whatever comes after you...you must stay the 1st. Being a headslave is lot of responsibility. 2nd... there will be fight....IF one of you or both of you are jealous. As soon you or Master detects jealously then you dont have the right personality to be in a poligamy relationship.... Now....if such things happen....one of you must leave the relationship...and here who decides is solely the Master. 3rd....playing new toy syndrome exists and it is hard for a Dom to control this syndrome. It happened to me as a 1st slave and as a new slave....and it is NOT pleasant for either of them. Although everything was online but if things are like this online imagine in RL... When i was head slave and i accepted with open arms another submissive i knew Master would be busy with the new toy...so i kept cool and wait until the honeymoon fever would pass. When i was the new slave....i was constantly attacked by the 1st slave demanding me to tell her if i had spend time with the master or not. I was very unsure if i should tell master or not this situation...until one day wanted to have a meeting with both of us. I have to say the meeting was painful...i kept myself quiet and not get into troubles...but i would get constant comments from her in how to behave in a meeting. The master of that time said something very useful: "No matter how unfair he divides the time, our duty was to make him happy. And if he was more happy with one then the other one has to accept it." Well...i cannot say if that is wrong or not. I just felt sorry for her because he clearly showed preference. 1 week later he released her. I think some doms if they cannot be fair they have to be wise to not get into poligamy. To be in poligamy it requires a master with strong sense of fairness and justice. I dont want to sound pessimistic and i didnt want to post....but that is my experience. Not everything was bad....2 of the ex- subs of my ex master turned out to be my best friends ever and i am grateful for that. Other ex subs of my ex master....turned out to be completely ** sorry to say** bitches, in my own view of course. In here i have to say....soometimes if you are lucky and you have a good relationship the bond between sisters slaves is sometimes stronger than the bond you have with the master. It is amazing! Now i am gonna quote someone's blogs regarding to this subject and in where she gives some heads up: To share or not to share your Master About this....i just have 2 words: Know yourself. If you are by nature a jealous, insecure submissive then dont give your submission to a polygamist master. Really it wwill never work!!!!!!!!! If you have the fetish of harem and serving and pleasure master while playing with your sisters, by all means do it. My experience: With time and a steady relationship you build a strong bond with your sisters. And there is a point this bond is sometimes stronger than the one you have with your Master, specially if the Master is not taking care of your needs or paying attention to you or is away and busy in RL. All masters should be happy if this bond happens, so dont be ashamed to tell you love your sisters. If a master doesnt like you to be closer to your subs then something is terribly wrong. I refer to this situation above. My very 1ST advice is to always check Master's background. If a Master is interested on you, ask other subs what they think about him. If he is a wanna be....very seldom a sub will recommend that person, even if they dont know you. Your Master should cherish you. That means he cannot talk ill about you to others. He cannot say lies. If he has other subs...and says....you are better than them....WARNING!!!!! No true master does it. He should cherish each sub in its each way. They are all different and he should love them all. If he says you are better than others....there is 99% chance that he says to the others that you are not better than them. Instead treating you like family he is playing with all your feelings to get the sisters against each other. If you are in such situation i recommend you to ask release without second thoughts....It will hurt...but he is the one who looses. hugs and good luck! Edited 21 Apr 11, 8:45 AM by lil_one_anjuli 21 Apr 11, 9:12 AM His_sweet_nothing AU, 15 mths In my first year as a slave, my Master took in another girl, and i didn't get along with her too well. In front of our Master, we were simply obedient slaves (we were often made to kiss each other, and both spent all our time naked), but behind closed doors, were both extremely jealous of one another. It can be difficult sleeping with another slave in your Master's bed, especially when He's having sex with her while you're chained to the bed watching. 21 Apr 11, 3:57 PM 789-513-736 US(NY), 13 mths Potential problems increase exponentially with the number of people in a relationship. That will never change! 21 Apr 11, 10:59 PM 622-312-731 US(NV), 14 mths His_sweet_nothing wrote: .... especially when He's having sex with her while you're chained to the bed watching. i'm fairly sure that would rip my heart out, but i'm a bit on the sensitive/unstable side :P property of gar (dEliri) Next page