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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "What would you do?" 1 2 What would you do? (18) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sun 17 Apr 11, 5:35 AM MasteringHerWill US(UT), 14 mths So my pet has anxiety and is starting a new medication. The problem is she has really gotten an attitude and has been very fussy. The dom part of me wants to slap it out of her and remind her of her place. However the loving husband part of me wants to give her time to adjust to the medicine. I have asked her if she needs me to be more master than husband or vice versa. She says that she wants me to be more the master. How do I do this without having to punish her almost the entire day? I don't want to be weak but I am no sadist either. Your advise would be appericiated. Living to Master 673-216-620 17 Apr 11, 10:47 AM naughtyslave US, 2 yrs i suffer with an anxiety as well. i have tried a few medications and decided that i would fight the attacks without medication. However some of the medications i tried triggered more attacks. Maybe she should go to the doctor and tell them of her mood changes.They might try something different if its not agreeing with her.Pretty hard to punish her if its the meds making her change. Hope she feels better anxiety is an awful thing to live with. Good luck Take care, naughty 17 Apr 11, 12:06 PM SirStrict43 UK, 6 yrs MasteringHerWill wrote: What would you do? So my pet has anxiety and is starting a new medication. The problem is she has really gotten an attitude and has been very fussy. The dom part of me wants to slap it out of her and remind her of her place. However the loving husband part of me wants to give her time to adjust to the medicine. I have asked her if she needs me to be more master than husband or vice versa. She says that she wants me to be more the master. How do I do this without having to punish her almost the entire day? I don't want to be weak but I am no sadist either. Your advise would be appericiated. It is so difficult to comment helpfully with no information on the type of medication she has been prescribed, other medication she already takes and any pre-existing conditions. Several comments I will make though are that psychotropic drugs can have mood altering effects and you should both visit her doctor as mentioned above by NaughtySlave. Secondly I always see a Masters role as not an instrument just of punishment but more of discipline. Sometimes that discipline can be of the self in determining where to draw the line and I commend you for your realisation of this. Sometimes it becomes necessary to relax the roles you both fill to care for either partner and this to me is true D/s-M/s-O&P in it's purest form as it cements the union between you. I get the feeling you are half way there as you sound a very empathic Dominant and I can only state that at times the humility offered in caring will make your Dominance stronger. 17 Apr 11, 12:07 PM Sir_Aldric 5 yrs Support is always the best answer. If she wants you to be a Master, be a guiding Master. Talk and explain more and punish less. Make her feel safe under your wings. Try to figure out what triggers the anxiety and deal with that within the M/s relation without increasing it. Hope she gets better soon. Sir Aldric 17 Apr 11, 12:48 PM SeanT70 9 yrs In situations like this, threads like this, and at all on TSR - or anywhere for that matter it has to be made clear that whilst members of a forum can make opinions on medications or conditions (etc), there are perhaps very few (if any) that are actually qualified to do so, and as such, it is always best to seek medical advice from a practitioner in your area, after all, we wouldn't want anything to go wrong for you (generic), if at all possible, would we.. As to your current problem, OP, in this situation, whilst the medication takes effect, life can be very strange indeed (we all know that one well on various meds), but consider that although M/s can make for an interesting life when being the Dom over a fully functioning 'toy', it can be damned hard playing/using a broken one. In dealing with things like this, we need to allow time for our toys to be fixed. Simply using empathy, being careful in your choices at this difficult time may prove to be more useful than anything else. Good luck, Sean. 17 Apr 11, 6:00 PM MasteringHerWill US(UT), 14 mths Thanks for your advise everyone. It might help with a liitle more back ground. The medication is very new and it is the first time that she has been on any medication in or relationship. we just went to see the doctor on thursday and she warned that it will take time. so the problem is that she wants me to treat her the same as I did before the meds but she is acting different. How do I help her along while making sure that no bad habits are formed? Living to Master 673-216-620 17 Apr 11, 6:23 PM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs I think this is one of the problems others have talked about. When loving husband tries to over-ride the Master. My perception is at the moment she needs you to be a constant in her life during a time of change. If she does something wrong that would've required punishment before her medication, then punish her also now. Like a child she needs boundaries & rules. She's aware that the medication may cause behavioural changes, and she's wanting you to keep her anchored as the slave that she is. I think that if you don't it's possible you may damage the dynamic, even if that means you have to punish her all the time until her internal chemistry settles back down again. My mother used to say to me, whilst tanning my backside, 'this is going to hurt me more than it is you' this could be possibly one of those moments. Obviously if the problem continues you may have to consider going back to the doctors and getting the meds re-assessed. My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! 19 Apr 11, 2:36 AM MasteringHerWill US(UT), 14 mths Lord_Uther wrote: I think this is one of the problems others have talked about. When loving husband tries to over-ride the Master. My perception is at the moment she needs you to be a constant in her life during a time of change. If she does something wrong that would've required punishment before her medication, then punish her also now. Like a child she needs boundaries & rules. She's aware that the medication may cause behavioural changes, and she's wanting you to keep her anchored as the slave that she is. I think that if you don't it's possible you may damage the dynamic, even if that means you have to punish her all the time until her internal chemistry settles back down again. My mother used to say to me, whilst tanning my backside, 'this is going to hurt me more than it is you' this could be possibly one of those moments. Obviously if the problem continues you may have to consider going back to the doctors and getting the meds re-assessed. Now I see why my pet likes your posts so much Lord Uther. That is very wise and I believe that is the right way of looking at this. thanks a lot. Living to Master 673-216-620 19 Apr 11, 3:30 AM lil_one_anjuli 20 mths Lord Uther is always fantastic....i might adopt him as my counsellor one day! LOL. Anyways to add something.....as it is a bit deja vu not bcs of medication but more bcs of external triggers. Punishing all the time it wont work either. I would suggest to adopt non physical punishments and at extreme going to physical...even if it is the same broken rule. At the end of the day or the week.....you can have a list of the broken rules and how many times she broke the same rule and you can punish her adjusting the quantity. Maybe not good idea...since she suffers anxiety to punish her right away after the broken rule. At the end of the day, have her sitting and medidating what she did wrong....have her write what rules she thinks she broke....and then you can compare the lists.... You will be surprised she will add rules you didnt put...and other rules she didnt even noticed she broke and you put in your list ( which is normal with the medication and other irrational anxiety moments). Then ....it is all about the virtue is in the middle ground. Hugs 19 Apr 11, 3:35 AM Celtic_Sir US, 17 mths You are quite wise in your responce , Lord Uther. I agree 100% with His Grace. , Celtic Sir. Gra,Onóir,Dilse Love, Honour, Loyalty 19 Apr 11, 3:53 AM Kaycee US(UT), 14 mths Thank you everyone My collar is the best gift i ever recieved! My name is pet i belong to MasteringHerWill forever. Next page