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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "First Meeting by Skype?" 1 2 First Meeting by Skype? (12) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Fri 15 Apr 11, 5:55 PM mistressK CA, 16 mths I'd been thinking (we're having the crap of all springs where we've had three or four snows so bad travel has been impossible for days) about doing something 'coffee' meetings through Skype. My reasoning is, I like that first meeting to be short and on 'equal footing'. If a slave lives more than an hour or two, I meet halfway because the only meeting I'm willing to have first is coffee. Now I'm not talking about inter-continentals, but those maybe 2 - 5 hours away where meeting for longer periods would be easy and feasible in the future. As a way of meeting sooner, would doing it over Skype work? Go on at a certain day and time, give them the hour, say thank you, hang up, decide if you want to meet in person, say for a meal or afternoon stroll in the park? Anyone done this before? Positives? Concerns? -K ------------------- "I guess it comes down to a simple choice, really. Get busy living or get busy dying." (Shawshank Redemption) 15 Apr 11, 6:29 PM BelovedMaster US, 13 mths I'm guessing that with the Domme/Male Sub imbalance, that your prospective guys would be thrilled to get a Skype invite. Thinking hard, I can't think of a single concern that might arise. 15 Apr 11, 6:31 PM saltine 15 mths i think its a great idea I want to take away your dignity, Wash away your mind - Replace it with my own - Inflict my love upon your body, Bruised and battered pain. Rip you open wide- See it in your eyes, As it dribbles down your thighs. Oh okay!! 15 Apr 11, 6:44 PM SL_precious CA, 3 yrs I think this is a very good idea as well, it would allow you to have a " face to face " so to speak in order to get an initial feel for the person. Sometimes it can be pretty evident immediately if it's not a good fit. If that is the case there is no feeling of obligation to continue or prolong the conversation just because both parties took time and tarvel to make the in person meeting. It would be easier for either party to bow out gracefully if it wasn't going well. I don't see anything wrong at all in using Skype. Wishing you the best of luck in your search SL_precious 15 Apr 11, 7:07 PM SeanT70 9 yrs SL_precious wrote: It would be easier for either party to bow out gracefully if it wasn't going well. I don't see anything wrong at all in using Skype. I don't see anything wrong with it either, except to say that I know of people who have used Skype to communicate with others, either using the voice-chat, or video functions, saw the person they understood to be talking to or had an interest in, got on like apparent house on fire, and when 'they' met up, it was, in fact, someone else (or not the person or persona they thought they were, in the least), using the person (or persona) on Skype under a pretense, because they didn't have the balls to front it for the first show. I'm not suggesting you shouldn't use it, or that it's not a good idea; it can be a good resource, especially in a situation like you describe, all I'm saying is, it would be easy to then forsake the usual RL alarms if you don't necessarily meet who you signed up for. A little caution along with the optimism is good here . Regards, Sean. 15 Apr 11, 8:21 PM sweet_dragon US(GA), 17 mths Y! Greetings Mistress K Ma'am, if i may.. when Master and i first started talking i lived 12 hours away, and meeting wasn't an option then. so we did chat a lot, talk on the phone and we also used skype to video chat. i loved getting to see Master and talk to Him, hear His voice and see His expressions. i liked seeing Him and knowing i was attracted to Him. i looked forward to our video chats everyday, He took the time each night to talk to me and even tucked me into bed at the end of our chats and watched me sleep for a moment. i cherished those times and they helped me to understand Him and know He was who He said He was and for Him to know me as well. And when i came to see Him, He met me and picked me up halfway and brought me home with Him. i have never been happier, and do not regret taking the risk. skype is a great tool and i think that it can be used to break the ice so to speak. yes there is a risk of the person not acting like themselves or not being whom they are, but that risk will be there with or without video chats or skype. seeing Master and interacting with Him, like i mentioned, was something i cherished. thank You and i wish You well rya 15 Apr 11, 8:31 PM SL_precious CA, 3 yrs SeanT70 wrote: SL_precious wrote: It would be easier for either party to bow out gracefully if it wasn't going well. I don't see anything wrong at all in using Skype. I don't see anything wrong with it either, except to say that I know of people who have used Skype to communicate with others, either using the voice-chat, or video functions, saw the person they understood to be talking to or had an interest in, got on like apparent house on fire, and when 'they' met up, it was, in fact, someone else (or not the person or persona they thought they were, in the least), using the person (or persona) on Skype under a pretense, because they didn't have the balls to front it for the first show. I'm not suggesting you shouldn't use it, or that it's not a good idea; it can be a good resource, especially in a situation like you describe, all I'm saying is, it would be easy to then forsake the usual RL alarms if you don't necessarily meet who you signed up for. A little caution along with the optimism is good here . Regards, Sean. I hadn't thought of that, I was thinking of a video chat and assumed the person was honorable in their intention. As you say, a little caution never hurts, maybe spontaneously have them hold a photo ID to the camera to verify identity if there is concern. There is always a degree of risk in meeting someone new, RL or online some are very crafty at presenting themselves to be something they are not. Common sense and instinct are your best friend....I am sure Mistress K has no shortage of either. SL_precious 15 Apr 11, 11:27 PM mistressK CA, 16 mths SeanT70 wrote: SL_precious wrote: It would be easier for either party to bow out gracefully if it wasn't going well. I don't see anything wrong at all in using Skype. I don't see anything wrong with it either, except to say that I know of people who have used Skype to communicate with others, either using the voice-chat, or video functions, saw the person they understood to be talking to or had an interest in, got on like apparent house on fire, and when 'they' met up, it was, in fact, someone else (or not the person or persona they thought they were, in the least), using the person (or persona) on Skype under a pretense, because they didn't have the balls to front it for the first show. I'm not suggesting you shouldn't use it, or that it's not a good idea; it can be a good resource, especially in a situation like you describe, all I'm saying is, it would be easy to then forsake the usual RL alarms if you don't necessarily meet who you signed up for. A little caution along with the optimism is good here . Regards, Sean. Yes, true! Like that movie "Must Love Dogs" where she sends the attractive friend's picture and talks to him herself only on the phone. Another thing could be, how big is my audience? Are there others in the room? I've got a feeling if they make it to the 'skype chat' stage I'll have picked ones who at least value their own privacy. All that talk about web/traditional cctvs made me remember I have a laptop cam (which is always covered with black tape!) but it's there. -K ------------------- "I guess it comes down to a simple choice, really. Get busy living or get busy dying." (Shawshank Redemption) 16 Apr 11, 12:04 PM EligibleOwner UK, 7 yrs I think using Skype is an excellent idea. 16 Apr 11, 1:24 PM sassybutt UK, 4 yrs Skype is wonderful, i have actuall;y done that. *sending private mess. ~Slave to The Dark Saint. 17 Apr 11, 10:29 AM DrakaMaster UK, 2 yrs I heartily recommend Skype. I use it to stay in touch with my slaves (who basically attend in person at weekends) on a daily basis. It is an excellent tool for ensuring slaves are behaving themselves when not in my actual presence. You can pretty much do anything you like, including have the slave punish itself if required. Not as good as me doing in here, of course, but a useful interim sanction nonetheless. If you do form a relationship with someone, I can also recommend webcams. These are pretty cheap these days and they allow a Master to monitor a slave in its home location. All in all, technology is both a Master's and slave's true friend these days! Edited 18 Apr 11, 4:14 PM by DrakaMaster Next page