Sun 13 Feb 11, 3:37 PM
silverrose
US(IL), 4 yrs
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Ever since we got married my husband isn't interested in the lifestyle like he once was. We've been married almost 2 yrs now and everything has just gotten weird, we just basically exist with each other. Don't get me wrong, we love each other deeply but the sexual connection isn't there. Well, at least on his part and somewhat on mine too cause I'm just tired of always being the one making the first move. I really don't know what to do. Sire's kitten ~silverrose~
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13 Feb 11, 4:39 PM
SeanT70
9 yrs
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silverrose wrote:
No longer practicing lifestyle
Ever since we got married my husband isn't interested in the lifestyle like he once was. We've been married almost 2 yrs now and everything has just gotten weird, we just basically exist with each other. Don't get me wrong, we love each other deeply but the sexual connection isn't there. Well, at least on his part and somewhat on mine too cause I'm just tired of always being the one making the first move. I really don't know what to do.
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I don't see that this post has anything to do with the 'style per se, it has more to do with the loss of what we call 'the honeymoon period' in marriages at all.
Some last longer than other where the attraction on all levels is so strong, so fiery, so fierce, you just can't get enough of each other.
Regardless of your once having practiced the style, this attraction nearly always wanes off, no matter what we do and partners become habits. They just do, and the important factor in any relationship is to maintain that freshness, and attraction within them.
How we go about that is another question and can only be answered by asking some seriously searching questions about yourselves and your relationship (not necessarily here, but in private, perhaps), and being completely honest above all on all levels.
Are you just tired of having to make first move? I seriously doubt that tbh; I'm guessing that's a symptom of covering up for a more rooted problem that you can only find once you start to question it.
Once you do that, the answers you find can only go towards helping you one way or the other; perhaps you need the 'style to be the couple you were, perhaps you didn't need marriage and this poses a threat...perhaps the grass was greener in the field next door to your house..
Who knows.
Ask yourself, and then see where you go, but be sure to keep track of where your answers take you; you might end up with a way stronger partnership than it seems that you have now, or perhaps yu might need to go back and try again with each other - or not.
Good luck with that; feel free to memo if you'd like,
Sean. |
