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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Advice needed.." 1 2 3 Advice needed.. (26) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Tue 11 Jan 11, 3:09 PM Daddys_Little_Angel UK, 17 mths I'm in such a situation. My Daddy and I have known each other for a long time, and he says that he loves me, and has been saying that for 15 months now. But, Daddy is in a relationship, and although I'm his little girl, I do have a certain amount of rights and I am allowed to speak my mind as around him as long as I'm polite. We fought a few weeks ago, and he promised me that in a year, he would have broken up with his partner, at that I could really be his. I've realised that I can't wait a year for him, and he's arranged things to happen around April. I've never really felt valued by Daddy, and after years of dealing with his bad behaviour and his relationships and still loving him, I've told him that I can't even wait those four months. Now, we've separated until I can really be his. We're being best friends until he can love me publicly. It's killing me. I can't work out where I stand, what to say, what to do. I know I adore him, but it kills me being his second choice. If anyone has any suggestions, they'd be so greatly appreciated. 11 Jan 11, 4:23 PM Valyrian101 US, 18 mths First off, without knowing your full dynamic with him I will give you what 'general' advice I can. Sounds like (and correct me if I'm wrong) his live in partner has no idea about you. Or if she does, she doesn't like it. That being the case (from what I can tell) is that he's cheating on her with you. Anyone who does things behinds others backs will in turn do so to you. That is most definitely not healthy. My advice, stay friends. Move on. Someone who isn't completely open and honest in this type of situation views doing things behind others backs perfectly okay and you'll only be setting yourself up for the wrong kind of hurt later on. Sounds a little harsh, but sometimes the best love is tough love. Valyrian101 Respect is default. Communication is mandatory. Understanding is enlightenment. 11 Jan 11, 5:09 PM SirStrict43 UK, 6 yrs I partly agree with Valyrian101 but because I feel you are much too young to commit fully with so little experience. I am wondering who instigated the separation as I believe that there is much more to this story than posted. SS 11 Jan 11, 6:43 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs So, according to your profile, you are eighteen, and met your "daddy" going on six years ago. i'm going to go out on a limb and say you may have been young and impressionable. Also, your profile mentions your "daddy" is off to college. Good for him. But lets just have a reality check. When boys go off to college and hook up with a girl, its pretty common for them to try to keep that girl back home if they can. Yep. That about sums this up. Wanna have a real relationship with someone where you are not the "other girl"? Listen close and i'll tell you the secret. STOP being the other girl. He isn't going to respect you if you don't respect yourself enough to make sure you are the "one". Move on. Perhaps once you start treating yourself like you have worth, he'll make you his priority. Even if he doesn't come around, someone will. Nothing is sexier and more inviting than self confidence. i've never been lonely, or the other woman. Ever. i'd never even entertain the idea. i know i deserve better, and so should you. Walk away. He'll either make arrangements to be with you, or someone else will. Either way you'll be happy. p 11 Jan 11, 7:02 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs I have to agree with p and Valyrian101. If your "daddy" can't make you his first priority, he doesn't deserve you. You are young, you have so much ahead of you, why wait to see if this fellow will give up the other girl? Why should it take a year? If he wants to be with you, simple, he ends the other relationship. It doesn't take planning or a timeline if he is serious. It shouldn't take a day.... if he was worth his salt, he shouldn't even be in a relationship other than yours. It's never easy at any age ending a relationship but... don't start your adult life by condoning this type of behavior by any man. You deserve more and are worth more than that. IMO, go and be 18. Get what education you want. Have fun with your friends, explore the world around you!! If you sincerely want this lifestyle, research and learn everything you can and when you meet the right one for you, someone who will respect you, make you their priority, you will know. Don't let yourself be anyones second choice. All the best to you. Edited to add a line and spelling. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown Edited 11 Jan 11, 7:05 PM by 333-528-841 11 Jan 11, 8:41 PM petitchat UK, 2 yrs Hmm... I don't know you or your daddy but I would be careful with such promises to be honest. If he wants to be with you, and I mean really, then he'd dump her now. I wouldn't stay in a relationship deeply unhappy if i loved another... good luck either way! xx 11 Jan 11, 8:49 PM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs How old is daddy? My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! Edited 11 Jan 11, 8:54 PM by Lord_Uther 11 Jan 11, 10:10 PM Prolixitys_Saphira US, 16 mths I was in such a relationship for about five months before I met my Owner. Like you, I was young (in college) and pretty much knew nothing about relationships in general, let alone alternative relationships. Which is really beside the point because my relationship was vanilla. I was apparently his "everything," but there was another who lived in his hometown and suddenly he was talking about how great she was and did I really mind that he saw her, too. I would always be his number one, but during summer breaks when I couldn't be there he needed someone who could be, etc., etc. I finally decided that if I was truly "special" to him like he claimed, he wouldn't be looking for someone else to warm his bed. You've done the best thing you can do for yourself even though it can be hard. The right guy will come along. Owned, protected and loved by Prolixity 11 Jan 11, 11:53 PM Kinkypupper 6 yrs Time for you to move on, at first guess he will always keep you as 2nd string Kinkypupper 12 Jan 11, 7:33 AM 913-643-445 UK, 18 mths 15 months is a long part of your life to give up for someone who has no qualms about using lies in a relationship. He has/is not telling the truth to his partner that he is with at the moment by being with you, and it looks like he is trying to use the *carrot* i will leave her for you soon, to control you and therefore not being honest to you. Honesty is a big must in any relationship be it nilla or our lifestyle, and if you can not trust him in this matter what else can you not trust him over. You took the first big step to walk away from the him, keep going and realise that you are worth more than his lies. love and light saffy for Him with my heart , mind , body and soul always . (sorry for some reason my last post did not include what i had written . ) for Him with my heart , mind , body and soul always . 13 Jan 11, 8:12 AM Daddys_Little_Angel UK, 17 mths Thank you so much for your help. I made demands and realised I was worth more than this. He's now promised me that in six weeks time, he'll have sorted his finacial affairs out and I will really be his. I've been in alternate relationships since I've been in relationships and have had some experience, I'm not a complete newbie. And, Daddy is 20. Next page