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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "questioning" 1 2 questioning (20) This post is on the O&P web board. Fri 17 Dec 10, 8:38 PM 468-960-547 UK, 17 mths Is a questioning slave a welcome slave in your opinion? What does this say to you about an -s type? 17 Dec 10, 11:06 PM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs I would be more suspicious if they didn't ask questions. In fact I have ceased contact with prospectives on that very reason. NB: I assume you mean asking your (future)Master questions not questioning (ie second guessing) your Master. My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! 18 Dec 10, 5:26 AM slave_emma US(OK), 6 yrs Y! I ask questions when it is appropriate. There is a time and a place for everything and public is not the time or place to question my Master in less I need clarification on an order. If we are in private then I may inquire of him, but it is up to him to answer. His favorite answer is, “It just is.” Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 18 Dec 10, 5:42 AM Valyrian101 US, 18 mths It depends on the question and how it's asked. My pet is required to ask questions if she doesn't understand an order. I do want her to do things correctly. If she questions me in an inappropriate fashion, like she's prone to do when she's dead on her feet, then she gets reprimanded or punished at an appropriate time. I hope this helps. Valyrian101 Respect is default. Communication is mandatory. Understanding is enlightenment. 18 Dec 10, 5:55 AM Celtic_Sir US, 17 mths Valyrian101 wrote: It depends on the question and how it's asked. My pet is required to ask questions if she doesn't understand an order. I do want her to do things correctly. If she questions me in an inappropriate fashion, like she's prone to do when she's dead on her feet, then she gets reprimanded or punished at an appropriate time. I hope this helps. Valyrian101 Same here. The reason "Why" is often "Because your Master said so". Service isn't about understanding an M's motive. So I would say respectful inquiry for clarification is most definitely welcomed... Questioning a direct and clear command is welcoming a severe punishment. , Celtic Sir. 18 Dec 10, 11:30 AM 468-960-547 UK, 17 mths Lord_Uther wrote: I would be more suspicious if they didn't ask questions. In fact I have ceased contact with prospectives on that very reason. NB: I assume you mean asking your (future)Master questions not questioning (ie second guessing) your Master. Thank you for this response Lord Uther. It is interesting to see that you find it imperative. I do mean asking questions as to getting a greater understanding. Not questioning him. 18 Dec 10, 11:32 AM 468-960-547 UK, 17 mths slave_emma wrote: I ask questions when it is appropriate. There is a time and a place for everything and public is not the time or place to question my Master in less I need clarification on an order. If we are in private then I may inquire of him, but it is up to him to answer. His favorite answer is, “It just is.” Best wishes, slave emma Thank you for your reply Slave Emma. I can see that you have specific "rules" in place and things have been though through at this level. 18 Dec 10, 11:35 AM 468-960-547 UK, 17 mths Thank you all for your replies. They have gone a long way to explain how your dynamic's work and given me more of an insight of how and when to question. Although, I suppose everyone is different and it will depend upon the Master. 18 Dec 10, 11:45 AM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs entortiller wrote: Lord_Uther wrote: I would be more suspicious if they didn't ask questions. In fact I have ceased contact with prospectives on that very reason. NB: I assume you mean asking your (future)Master questions not questioning (ie second guessing) your Master. Thank you for this response Lord Uther. It is interesting to see that you find it imperative. I do mean asking questions as to getting a greater understanding. Not questioning him. For me it is imperative, esp in the early days of contact. To gain trust you need to ask questions, gain understanding and have faith in each other. For me there can be no trust without understanding and no understanding without questions. I always tell any prospective that they will never be punished for asking a question, I just require they accept the answer. Not that they can't ask further questions for greater understanding but that if my answer is 'It just is' accept that, or if the answer is something they don't like & they try to manipulate/cajole/argue to get the answer they do like then yes action will be taken against them. With those prospectives that fail to ask questions I feel they don't have a proper realisation of what this life is about and see this as a game. Either that or they don't have a mind of their own, which is not something I look for in a slave. My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! 18 Dec 10, 11:48 AM thegildedlili 3 yrs slave_snowy wrote: Celtic_Sir wrote: Valyrian101 wrote: It depends on the question and how it's asked. My pet is required to ask questions if she doesn't understand an order. I do want her to do things correctly. If she questions me in an inappropriate fashion, like she's prone to do when she's dead on her feet, then she gets reprimanded or punished at an appropriate time. I hope this helps. Valyrian101 Same here. The reason "Why" is often "Because your Master said so". Service isn't about understanding an M's motive. So I would say respectful inquiry for clarification is most definitely welcomed... Questioning a direct and clear command is welcoming a severe punishment. i quite agree with you...but there were times i couldnt understand the reason of the order...not because i dindt want to do it....but sometimes certain orders are easier to be understood if we ask WHY. Questions are important to build trust. If it is an order that unfamiliar to me and it is my 1st time i usually request Master to say me WHY although He may well refuse me an answer of course. After that even if i dont like the task i will do it no matter what because i trust, but usually knowing WHY and knowing that pleases Him and why it pleases Him makes me accept more with open arms the task. Master usually says to me: " When in doubt, OBEY" Here, you make it sound like you think it's your Master's job to make it easier for you, or that you somehow have the right to have it explained to you. Neither of those things fit with my philosophies around M/s, and sometimes the point is simply to trust, without questioning the whys or wherefores. I would have thought that was a bigger test of trust than trust as a result of being told the reason for a particular order. i have no need, for such things, but to make you happy... Josh Pyke 18 Dec 10, 12:08 PM chrystal_HMLK US(IL), 5 yrs entortiller wrote: questioning Is a questioning slave a welcome slave in your opinion? What does this say to you about an -s type? Greetings: chrystal's Master has no problems with her asking questions, of all types. He even required lots of questions when we first got together while getting to know each other. She must admit, He was the first Master that not only encouraged her questions, but required her to ask questions. chrystal Next page