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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "Kobayashi Maru " 1 2 Kobayashi Maru (17) This post is on the O&P web board. Wed 8 Dec 10, 5:04 AM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! I dont like to loose, but it seems to me the harder I try the further away the goal becomes. Has anyone out there in a relationship ever finding themselves getting more distant, and what can one do to counter act the problem. How does one reinvent themselfs to the other party(S) to prove that you are a great asset to have, how would one find there flaws, and inprove there position. Edited Wed 8 Dec 10, 6:01 AM by T_M_Q_M_B 8 Dec 10, 5:44 AM thegildedlili 3 yrs T_M_Q_M_B wrote: Kobayashi Maru I dont like to loose, but it seems to me the harder I try the further away the goal becomes. Has anyone out there in a relationship ever finding themselves getting more distant, and what can one do to counter act the problem. How does one reinvent themselfs to the other party to prove that you are a great asset to have. Wouldn't you actually have to be in a relationship first? Honestly, going by this and a number of your other posts, I think it's probably time to give up and move on, why keep banging your head against a brick wall when the other person is clearly not interested? Also, I'm requesting Admin to move this thread to another board as it doesn't actually appear to be O&P related. i have no need, for such things, but to make you happy... Josh Pyke 8 Dec 10, 5:55 AM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! thegildedlili wrote: T_M_Q_M_B wrote: Kobayashi Maru I dont like to loose, but it seems to me the harder I try the further away the goal becomes. Has anyone out there in a relationship ever finding themselves getting more distant, and what can one do to counter act the problem. How does one reinvent themselfs to the other party to prove that you are a great asset to have. Also, I'm requesting Admin to move this thread to another board as it doesn't actually appear to be O&P related. I guess what my point was, in a future relationship or life in general, how would one start to look for inprovment, reinvent but stay the same. I am looking to grow not dwell. I just want to make a better tommorow That was my point, so sorry for the mix up. Thanx for your honest input, I really respect that. It shows you got character. I have moved on I do not wish to continue wasting my rescorces on a lost cause, and I wish her well. I just want to be able to grow and have a positive inpact in the life of someone that I meet down the road. Those who dont know the past are comdemed to repeat them in the future. (philosopher George Santayana) Edited 8 Dec 10, 7:27 AM by T_M_Q_M_B 8 Dec 10, 11:21 AM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs Why would you want to reinvent yourself for anybody? Why wouldn't you just want somebody who wants you for you? i think the whole sound of this is a bit off. i don't think i've ever wanted to be with someone who didn't want me. The electricity when it is mutual is awesome. Why would you want less? Sorry to answer your question with a questions... but i think your time would be better spent with some self evaluation of a different sort. p 8 Dec 10, 4:32 PM seresse US(PA), 23 mths Y! When you love someone, open up your heart and let them go. Should they return to you, you were meant to be together. What the others said - be content with yourself as you are, follow your heart's path, what feels right in the moment. The one who matches you will come when you are ready. Have trust. The hardest gift one person can give another, and the most precious, is to silence your own agenda and listen, truly listen with your open heart. From that place of listening will come the answers you seek. Good luck. seresse 8 Dec 10, 6:04 PM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! seresse wrote: When you love someone, open up your heart and let them go. Should they return to you, you were meant to be together. What the others said - be content with yourself as you are, follow your heart's path, what feels right in the moment. The one who matches you will come when you are ready. Have trust. The hardest gift one person can give another, and the most precious, is to silence your own agenda and listen, truly listen with your open heart. From that place of listening will come the answers you seek. Good luck. seresse Has any one ever told you that you rock, I consider you a valued rescource, if not a national treasure...Thanks 9 Dec 10, 12:55 AM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! property_of_MacCain wrote: Why would you want to reinvent yourself for anybody? Why wouldn't you just want somebody who wants you for you? i think the whole sound of this is a bit off. i don't think i've ever wanted to be with someone who didn't want me. The electricity when it is mutual is awesome. Why would you want less? Sorry to answer your question with a questions... but i think your time would be better spent with some self evaluation of a different sort. p I guess the term reinvent is not correct, what I meant to say is where and how would you find faults with the way you carry yourself. Would you ask a friend a family member, a x-girl friend on how they view you. As people we are brash and vain. I want to remove that and inprove myself, I just need to know what too inprovement. I have a habit of coming off a little strong and blunt, charge with out looking, and a never give up attitude. I am trying to correct that problem. I dont want to make a habit of a being alienating towards people because of my personality. I dont and will never believe in a no win situation, I show my face and never hide behind a profile.... Edited 9 Dec 10, 1:52 AM by T_M_Q_M_B 9 Dec 10, 9:15 AM ColdHarbour UK, 4 yrs Y! T_M_Q_M_B wrote: Kobayashi Maru I dont like to loose... Nor I but sometimes you just have to accept that you can't win. Or rather, sometimes you have to go right back to basics and ask yourself what you mean by winning and losing. What is it about a relationship that is so important? Is it about just being able to say that you have a relationship, or is it about being true to yourself and being with someone who would have you no other way? Now getting old, I've been around the block a few times and I have never known the former to work in the long-term. Truth outs eventually. That is not to say we shouldn't change. Life changes us all and, in relationships, ideally those concerned change in harmony. Adapt and survive is the name of the game. But, in terms of D/s relationships especially, it is us as we are that others give themselves to — or not. It is a rock most submissives want for their anchor, not shifting quicksand. And, being that rock — living true to yourself — you just have to accept that not everyone is going to love you or even like you. That's just how it is. But I don't see that as losing, even though it may feel like it at the time. It's winning — just winning a different battle to the one you thought you needed to win in order to win the war. You cannot run away from what is inside you — African proverb Edited 9 Dec 10, 9:29 AM by ColdHarbour 9 Dec 10, 10:42 AM bastets_daughter 2 yrs ColdHarbour wrote: T_M_Q_M_B wrote: Kobayashi Maru I dont like to loose... Nor I but sometimes you just have to accept that you can't win. Or rather, sometimes you have to go right back to basics and ask yourself what you mean by winning and losing. What is it about a relationship that is so important? Is it about just being able to say that you have a relationship, or is it about being true to yourself and being with someone who would have you no other way? Now getting old, I've been around the block a few times and I have never known the former to work in the long-term. Truth outs eventually. That is not to say we shouldn't change. Life changes us all and, in relationships, ideally those concerned change in harmony. Adapt and survive is the name of the game. But, in terms of D/s relationships especially, it is us as we are that others give themselves to — or not. It is a rock most submissives want for their anchor, not shifting quicksand. And, being that rock — living true to yourself — you just have to accept that not everyone is going to love you or even like you. That's just how it is. But I don't see that as losing, even though it may feel like it at the time. It's winning — just winning a different battle to the one you thought you needed to win in order to win the war. thats very true, and very beautiful, thankyou for posting it 9 Dec 10, 12:28 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs T_M_Q_M_B wrote: I guess the term reinvent is not correct, what I meant to say is where and how would you find faults with the way you carry yourself. Would you ask a friend a family member, a x-girl friend on how they view you. Faults? See, thats the difference right there. i don't have "faults". i have things that make me an individual, that some people may or may not like. Those things that made me impossible for some to live with, are the same things that made me perfect for MacCain. It is not you who needs to change, it is your company if they find fault with you. p 9 Dec 10, 1:29 PM 902-660-194 US(PA), 6 yrs property_of_MacCain wrote: Faults? See, thats the difference right there. i don't have "faults". i have things that make me an individual, that some people may or may not like. Those things that made me impossible for some to live with, are the same things that made me perfect for MacCain. It is not you who needs to change, it is your company if they find fault with you. p i love what you wrote.. best thing i have read in awhile the sting of His whip~ the welts from His crop~ the warmth of His kiss~ the click of the lock~ assures me i am His most cherished possession.. Next page