This page sponsored by JT's Stockroom    [other banners]

	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "Miss Tara's plee" Miss Tara's plee (6) This post is on the O&P web board. Mon 6 Dec 10, 3:13 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs i sincerely hope Miss Tara doesn't mind, but i've started this thread in hopes that someone could help her situation. Miss_Tara wrote: Hello P, I thank you for your reply. What I need help with is: My puppy and were in our dynamic FULL time but because of our work now we can't. I am finding adjusting to this VERY hard and hoping to get insight from some others to help me deal with this. Miss Tara i'd like to start by asking what you've tried-like have you tried instituting a transitional ritual to get you both in the mindset when returning from work? Having a special greeting or something? p 6 Dec 10, 3:41 PM 169-158-526 US(TX), 2 yrs Who is having the harder time? you could try a phrase or something I suppose if you find it difficult to switch back and forth from outside to inside. but I would think that if you're owned you're owned, or if you are the owner you're the owner. I used the analogy before with a friend to explain how I see it - we own horses, and our ownership doesn't change just because they're out in the field grazing during the day not directly under our supervision. They are still restricted to where we say they can go and what they can do. They could technically jump any fence they really wanted to or just walk through it, but they don't and they willingly perform their tasks even if we want them at a non-routine time of the day. If you have rules and guidelines and they are 24/7 then it shouldn't change anything. Walking in the door at the end of the day isn't enough? Is it just the change in routine? if yes then you will both get used to it 6 Dec 10, 3:52 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs Please excuse my ignorance at how the puppy slave thing works, if i'm off the mark i mean no offence. When MacCain arrives home from work, i'm to greet him appropriately (this has changed many times throughout the years but a good example would be me kneeling at his feet and saying "thank you Master for your work") having dinner ready to be plated, removing his shoes and replacing them with slippers. Now in your case you could modify that to be your own ritual- perhaps having puppy bring you your slippers? Having him spend a period of time in his puppy crate to get in the mindset? i don't really know what puppies do... but i'm sure you understand my meaning. p 6 Dec 10, 3:58 PM Slick66 UK, 21 mths I know it sound very boring but I use a text to my sub who lives in. Simply yes or no Yes and she will be waiting by the door in an outfit I will have picked out usually the night before. Dinner will ready whatever the text reads but yes means that we will be going downstairs 6 Dec 10, 8:55 PM Miss_Tara 19 mths I thank you P for the post you put forward to my problem. I discussed this with my puppy and he has made us a puppy plan which i am very happy with. I realise now as an owner I need to get back into thinking as such even though our situation has changed. My puppy has pointed out to me that i was trying to switch back and forth which was what was doing my head in, he was so right. I am Miss Tara which is who i want to be and always will be, she fits me like a glove. Regards. Miss Tara. 6 Dec 10, 9:21 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs i am so happy things worked out! Just let us know if you need anything! p 7 Dec 10, 9:12 PM Miss_Tara 19 mths Thanks again P. What I would like and if anyone is interested is contact with an owner or a puppy. I have written a document of how I became Miss Tara and my life with my puppy and what I would like to know of others would share their lives. Is it a big ask? Miss Tara