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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "Stress" Stress (10) This post is on the O&P web board. Sun 21 Nov 10, 8:20 AM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! After two deaths in my family back to back and a series of miscommunications with a sub, I started to let those things eat away at me and found myself passed out in my hall way, well I found out later my heart beats were not in order and had to be shocked, my question is what is a form of release one can do so this will not happen again.I think the only reason I am not dead is heaven dont want me and hell is afraid I will take over...haa 21 Nov 10, 12:42 PM SirStrict43 UK, 6 yrs I wonder if a better person to answer this question would be your doctor? SS 21 Nov 10, 1:50 PM seresse US(PA), 23 mths Y! Just my personal opinion, and what works for me... i think the key is in your post, so you already actually know the answer - which is "don't let those things eat at you." But how? So the real question is what can you do to manage the thoughts and feelings that swirl around making you crazy. It is really simple, but really hard. Think about believing that everything is working out just the way it should be. This is a rough patch that you and your family and sub can and will get through. Ask yourself what you can learn from these challenging experiences that will make you a bigger, stronger person inside. Allow yourself to believe that the family members who passed on are okay, even though you miss them, and ask yourself how you can learn to communicate more clearly with your sub so the misunderstandings don't happen. Most of all, don't close up your heart to the love that is in you and in those around you. Even though it hurts, face the pain and leave your heart open. It is the closing of your heart that will kill you. Again, just my thoughts - take them if they are useful and please disregard them if they aren't. i wish you the best, and even though it may not seem like it, there really is a light at the end. seresse 21 Nov 10, 1:53 PM SeanT70 9 yrs T_M_Q_M_B wrote: Stress After two deaths in my family back to back and a series of miscommunications with a sub, I started to let those things eat away at me and found myself passed out in my hall way, well I found out later my heart beats were not in order and had to be shocked, my question is what is a form of release one can do so this will not happen again.I think the only reason I am not dead is heaven dont want me and hell is afraid I will take over...haa Whilst in medical terms, SS's reply was a good one to be safe, you would be far better looking at techniques to help you through the more difficult times at at all. Dealing with the palpitatios brought on by stress - after the experience, is, well, a bit late, and could lead to other worse things. Dealing with and learning to cope - having a strong coping mechanism in place, will stand you far better. Stress can be a funny bugger; can do all sorts, ther is no exact mechanism by which everyone everyone might cope the same. I'm going through a very stressful time right now too, and frankly food, or the thought of it, makes me sick. I'm eating probably less than one tenth of my normal intake. I'm sleep badly too.. So long as I can get through a day, do some basic stuff, eat whatever, whenever, remembering there's more to life than whatever happened, no matter how significant it or who or the event was, I'll be OK in the end. How to cope, what mechanisms to use? Some are simple - some suggest taking a swim, relaxing hot bath, long walk (with or without pooch)..and a good one is try and find something to find all that pent-up energy into. Learn something new, a skill perhaps, like, I dunno, yry making a cake if you've never done it - point being the cake might not be sood good but your energy you have to put in making it, can be de-stressing. I would suggest, though, that the palpatations, are telling you something; either slow down, calm down (easier said), or try not to get yourself so worked up. Very much easier said than down, I know. I've minor problems with my heart that can involve small palpitations and such. For me, it all comes down to knowing how hard and far I can push myself. That's all part of the management - before - not after it's a problem. Take it easy. Sean. 21 Nov 10, 7:04 PM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! The way that I am programed is that I am a very highy motivated person, I let things weigh heavy on my mind. Like the other day I was elk hunting, thinking while I was walking thru the woods. I noticed on my gps I was 15 miles from base camp. I was trying to let off some steam, then I came home was walking down the hall way and passed out. I drove to the hospital, passed out again and was being shocked. The funny thing there was no pain, no nothing. So I think I am going to plan a trip to europe, just get away for a while, see the sights, look up family members. I just need some one to watch my cat..haa 21 Nov 10, 7:42 PM rhuafox CA, 19 mths From a medic's point of view - - Seek medical attention - have diagnosed what the heck is going on. If you are not concerned for yourself, please be concerned for others - what if you are driving and 'pass out' - taking someone innocent out with you. Sheesh. No joke. Could be something as simple as low blood sugar all the way up to cardiac arrythmias. Have the disaterous stuff ruled out and treated by a doctor. rhua rhuafox 21 Nov 10, 7:47 PM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! 973-030-131 wrote: From a medic's point of view - - Seek medical attention - have diagnosed what the heck is going on. If you are not concerned for yourself, please be concerned for others - what if you are driving and 'pass out' - taking someone innocent out with you. Sheesh. No joke. Could be something as simple as low blood sugar all the way up to cardiac arrythmias. Have the disaterous stuff ruled out and treated by a doctor. rhua Yes the doc said it could be related to my heart mumur when I was a kid, I thought those things go away after time. 21 Nov 10, 9:42 PM SirStrict43 UK, 6 yrs T_M_Q_M_B wrote: 973-030-131 wrote: From a medic's point of view - - Seek medical attention - have diagnosed what the heck is going on. If you are not concerned for yourself, please be concerned for others - what if you are driving and 'pass out' - taking someone innocent out with you. Sheesh. No joke. Could be something as simple as low blood sugar all the way up to cardiac arrythmias. Have the disaterous stuff ruled out and treated by a doctor. rhua Yes the doc said it could be related to my heart mumur when I was a kid, I thought those things go away after time. One of the biggest problems men have is admitting to a doctor that after all they are only human and humans don't have perfect physiologies. It's a big shock to find you have a medical anomaly but did you tell your doctor you drove to see him with an untreated heart complaint? I'm sorry if it looks like I'm having a go at you but I would be so pleased to see you post to say your doctor had successfully treated your problem relieving the stress from your mind. SS 21 Nov 10, 10:12 PM DarkSado 4 yrs 1) Go for a full set of tests: full blood workup, stress test, cardiovascular etc. 2) You mentioned you were 15 miles away from base. Was this in the woods in the cold? Did you walk 15 miles? If so you would have had to walk 15 back. 3) If you have mental stress at work and then you're out hunting (both mental and cardiovascular stress), and if you aren't allowing for rest and proper nutrition, well guess what! I'd already be dead from that. If you answered yes to either #2 or #3, schedule an appointment for #1. If you answered yes to both #2 & 3, go immediately to #1. DarkSado 21 Nov 10, 11:20 PM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! As soon as it quit snowing I will have a doc give me a work over...I think the thing that set me off was the fact that the deaths in my family, getting e-mails for something I did not do and miscommunication issues. I let all those things build up inside and being tight lipped never talked to any one....Thank you all for your input, I will start talking to a close friend is something comes up again in the future.... Edited 22 Nov 10, 1:58 AM by T_M_Q_M_B 22 Nov 10, 4:12 PM mutable 2 yrs Apart from medical advice, learning how to breathe properly (yes, I know it sounds daft but many of us don't do it right, particularly when under stress and engaging in activity) and meditation, if you can sit still long enough, may help you. 'We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are' Anais Nin