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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "Online Vs Face to face" 1 2 3 4 Online Vs Face to face (31) This post is on the O&P web board. Thu 4 Nov 10, 3:56 AM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! I have always wonder if you can make a judgement of someones character by chatting on-line, or is it best to do it face to face, before making the final action to withdraw. 4 Nov 10, 4:17 AM bastets_daughter 2 yrs T_M_Q_M_B wrote: Online Vs Face to face I have always wonder if you can make a judgement of someones character by chatting on-line, or is it best to do it face to face, before making the final action to withdraw. Im not sure if this is what you're asking, but if someone gives you the heebie jeebies online, i wouldnt risk going to a face-to-face meeting. Better to be safe than sorry. 4 Nov 10, 4:27 AM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! Well want if miscommunication was the issue, could you past judgement then. If the other person is reading you wrong, does not know your true character in a social interaction... 4 Nov 10, 4:39 AM bastets_daughter 2 yrs T_M_Q_M_B wrote: Well want if miscommunication was the issue, could you past judgement then. If the other person is reading you wrong, does not know your true character in a social interaction... 'Passing judgement' sounds so harsh. People arent always the same online as offline - in fact, its a rarity. There's something rather freeing about being able to write/post your thoughts with no consequences, which none can achieve in the 'real world'. If theres an incompatibility with your thinking, i'd say its just as evident online as RL. Between losing my previous Master, and the happy event of finding my present one, i must have talked to about 30 Masters or Dominants online. Only about three of them made it to the face-to-face meeting. I dont feel guilty for not choosing the others, if theres something not aligned in what we were after then its better for both parties not to continue. In some situations, there can be compromise, but if you can't agree, wont ever agree, i dont personally see the point. 4 Nov 10, 4:41 AM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs Although you may get to know a person online, depending on the circumstances and how long you have been chatting online, I personally don't feel you can really know anyones true character in a social interaction without seeing it. I mean, how do they treat a server in a restuarant and carry themselves? How do they act around family and friends? Do they show respect and are they polite around others? How would you really know this online? Of course, as I said, depending on the circumstances and the length of time you have been chatting, you can get to know what some people are like but as has been discovered by many over the years the WWW has been around, there are those who are not who they say they are. Scammers, players, fraudsters etc. I guess you could compare some online corespondence with penpals of old. You write about your day to day life, likes, wants, dreams and such. Those who eventually get to meet their penpals feel like they have know the person forever. Like an old childhood friend in a sense. If while chatting with someone online, there are red flags popping up, questions unanswered or you are scratching your head over inconsistencies, chances are..... well, you know what I mean. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 4 Nov 10, 4:53 AM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! Well I dont want to throw a person to the wind without first meeting them, to me that is always fair. Then again I am the type of guy that pays my bills in person and believes in a strong handshake and eye contact. You cant always judge a book by it cover, you got to read a couple of chapters first right.....Because the experience in real time can be 180 degrees. Assumptions are the mother of all !@#$ups.” Edited 4 Nov 10, 5:00 AM by T_M_Q_M_B 4 Nov 10, 5:48 AM stella_rose US(OR), 20 mths sometimes, one must learn when to walk away gracefully than persue something distastefully... 4 Nov 10, 6:01 AM T_M_Q_M_B US(WA), 2 yrs Y! I think one must first dicuss the problems out in the open, be the bigger person instead of hiding behind a computer screen. I am not a rabbit looking for a hole to jump into hide. I face my fears my enemys and my problems, I never jump to conculsions, I always take into concideration the human element before I judge, I never past judgement on my fellow man....I am fair, I dont live with hate in my heart only compassion....lead by example!!! Edited 4 Nov 10, 6:16 AM by T_M_Q_M_B 4 Nov 10, 7:36 AM number_7 10 yrs Yes, one can make a judgement online but it might be the wrong one. That said, one has to make A judgement of one kind or another. 4 Nov 10, 8:32 AM NeilansLittleMoon 2 yrs People make mistakes about other people's character online and offline. I have misjudged people online by assuming they were of good character only to find out they were not who they were online in real life. I also have met people in real life that I was quick to judge as bad people who ended up being some of the kindest people I've ever met. You can't really tell either way. Now, if after talking to someone online, you already feel that you and this other person are incompatible (as friends or a potential relationship), there is no need to continue by meeting them in real life. Just like in real life when you meet someone a few times and things just aren't working out, you don't have to be his/her friend/be in a relationship with them. It's not like meeting someone in real life will really change the lack of chemistry going on online. It's rare that the chemistry magically appears when meeting someone face to face after talking online. ~I am Coco, the collared slave girl and kitty owned by her Master/Daddy~ 4 Nov 10, 9:20 AM DarkSado 4 yrs Just hearing their voice and how they say things, speaks volumes. The tone of their voice, the emotion. It's something you just can't pick up on through text. DarkSado Next page