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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "new slave looking for help" 1 2 new slave looking for help (18) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sun 31 Oct 10, 9:06 PM Dons_lil_slut US(OH), 19 mths i have just started serving someone for the first time in my life and im not sure how to go about it. we are doing online before we get to real time. but i have a few problems. i still live with my parents and two brothers and none of them know that i am into this lifestyle. i would love to move in with my new Master right away so i dont have to worry about my family finding out but im not sure if that is a good idea yet or not. 162-780-090 31 Oct 10, 9:39 PM Lord_Kevin UK, 20 mths I would wait a while and make sure everything is as you want it.. Lord Kevin 31 Oct 10, 10:00 PM mia UK, 11 yrs You must wait until you're sure, before you decide to do something as big as move in together. Have lots of face-to-face meets and make them as safe as possible at first, including a safe call to someone if this is possible. You could say it's someone you met off a more vanilla dating site, if your parents are worried as to who it is. You don't have to tell them about the lifestyle in order for you to be a part of it. However, i'd suggest you get to some munches or BDSM events and meet people in the lifestyle so you have some kink-aware friends you can confide in and chat to about this. Good luck with your relationship and stay safe! m, x 31 Oct 10, 10:06 PM blade1954 US(NM), 19 mths I would definitely agree with Lord Kevin. Do wait in fact you may wish to wait a very long time? Looking at your profile he claims to already have complete control over you. You live in different states have the two of you ever met RT? Not sure if he controls you the way he states on your profile. How you are "allowed" to make this post? Best of luck but PLEASE be careful. 31 Oct 10, 10:22 PM SirSeven 3 yrs Dons_lil_slut wrote: new slave looking for help i have just started serving someone for the first time in my life and im not sure how to go about it. we are doing online before we get to real time. but i have a few problems. i still live with my parents and two brothers and none of them know that i am into this lifestyle. i would love to move in with my new Master right away so i dont have to worry about my family finding out but im not sure if that is a good idea yet or not. 162-780-090 I think moving in with someone you've only interacted with online would be a very bad idea. I know this probably isn't want you want to hear but you asked for people's opinions and this in my opinion. To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing. -Elbert Hubbard 31 Oct 10, 11:13 PM seresse US(PA), 23 mths Y! i agree with everyone else's advice; wait and see how this relationship goes. On-line is different than real life and it is so easy to misread and misunderstand what is sent through the web. It is awfully easy to fill in the blanks with your greatest fantasy and get fooled. It happens to the best of us. i totally sympathize with the awkwardness and anxiety of trying to live such an exciting life in secret under the noses of your family. It would indeed be so much easier to just move in with your Master - but so often it is a mistake to take the easy road just because it seems to offer relief from pressure. It usually, in my experience, may well relieve you of the immediate pressure, but then creates all kinds of more and different and worse pressure for you to deal with pretty soon. Have patience and be strong. You will make a better slave in the long run that way. Good luck to you. seresse 31 Oct 10, 11:33 PM DarkSado 4 yrs your reason to move in right away with MasterDon1 should not be based soley on your family situation. DarkSado 31 Oct 10, 11:41 PM Dons_lil_slut US(OH), 19 mths thank you all for the wonderful advice. im a little impatient because i have been looking for 3 years now.not to mention my parents are big on being mormon. 31 Oct 10, 11:56 PM seresse US(PA), 23 mths Y! Yes, i can see how that would indeed try your patience. Still i think it would be good to hang in there until you are GOING TO something good, rather than RUNNING AWAY from something bad - if you follow my meaning... seresse 1 Nov 10, 1:20 AM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs I have to agree with all the other posters. Think of it this way. Would you move in with anyone else you had never met? I agree that you should meet and get to really know each other. Make sure you are compatible in RL before commiting to a move to another state. As was said, ensure it is for the right reasons. All the best to you. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 1 Nov 10, 7:04 PM pet_ka_MJ CA, 2 yrs Why don't you discuss this topic with your Master... as he is 53 to your 20, I am sure he has been around the block a few times and will know how to proceed on this matter. As much as you wish to proceed in all haste, I would suggest taking a deep breathe to make sure your are going to the right Master, not the first Master that came along. Your desire to be a slave will not help your situation should there be huge combatibility issues. Good luck. "With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate, and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity." ~ Keshavan Nair Next page