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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "How to break it to the family..." 1 2 3 4 5 How to break it to the family... (41) This post is on the O&P web board. Fri 15 Oct 10, 4:58 AM 610-217-666 US(CA), 20 mths Forgive me if this is a topic that has been addressed and I have not found the answers I am seeking... I am a girl to whom the rest of the world sees as a very headstrong woman...and yet it would seem that the realization of who I may be at my inner core is working it's way to the surface. Already people close to me are seeing a shift and I find it difficult to explain why. This has been a bit of a shock because I am not even aware of carrying myself in a different manner. It isn't even that I feel in any way ashamed but I do not know how to cross this bridge and could use a hand or some sincere words from the heart to assist. Thank you in advance for sharing... 610-217-666 15 Oct 10, 12:32 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs 610-217-666 wrote: How to break it to the family... Forgive me if this is a topic that has been addressed and I have not found the answers I am seeking... I am a girl to whom the rest of the world sees as a very headstrong woman...and yet it would seem that the realization of who I may be at my inner core is working it's way to the surface. Already people close to me are seeing a shift and I find it difficult to explain why. This has been a bit of a shock because I am not even aware of carrying myself in a different manner. It isn't even that I feel in any way ashamed but I do not know how to cross this bridge and could use a hand or some sincere words from the heart to assist. Thank you in advance for sharing... 610-217-666 How to break what to your family? Sorry, but your post is vague. Why are you acting different? Is it because your in a new relationship which requires you to be less headstrong? If it is because of a new relationship, just say your seeing someone new and he/she is wonderful. Nuff said. If it is because you found out this lifestyle exists, and you think you won't fit in because you're brash, knock it off. People from all walks of life prefer people who act like themselves. If it is because you just read some fantasy novel...well... i live on earth... my rules are earthbound. If it is because you got religion- tell your family it's a GOD thing. Frankly, my family just knows i respect MacCain. My mom asked where the collar came from- i told her MacCain, she dropped the subject. She has asked why i wait on him hand and foot... i have said he works hard, she dropped it. It is easiest to give short obvious answers. Give answers that can't be argued with. Don't offer extra explanation that isn't asked for. If you are short with your answers, chances are your family will take your cue that it isn't up for discussion. p 15 Oct 10, 12:46 PM 250-140-386 US(NV), 20 mths From what i have seen a good portion of 'vanilla' people react very badly to a M/s relationship. i agree that short quick answers without giving details would be the best bet. i think i will be using that advice soon myself. 15 Oct 10, 1:00 PM 610-217-666 US(CA), 20 mths property_of_MacCain wrote: 610-217-666 wrote: How to break it to the family... Forgive me if this is a topic that has been addressed and I have not found the answers I am seeking... I am a girl to whom the rest of the world sees as a very headstrong woman...and yet it would seem that the realization of who I may be at my inner core is working it's way to the surface. Already people close to me are seeing a shift and I find it difficult to explain why. This has been a bit of a shock because I am not even aware of carrying myself in a different manner. It isn't even that I feel in any way ashamed but I do not know how to cross this bridge and could use a hand or some sincere words from the heart to assist. Thank you in advance for sharing... 610-217-666 How to break what to your family? Sorry, but your post is vague. Why are you acting different? Is it because your in a new relationship which requires you to be less headstrong? If it is because of a new relationship, just say your seeing someone new and he/she is wonderful. Nuff said. If it is because you found out this lifestyle exists, and you think you won't fit in because you're brash, knock it off. People from all walks of life prefer people who act like themselves. If it is because you just read some fantasy novel...well... i live on earth... my rules are earthbound. If it is because you got religion- tell your family it's a GOD thing. Frankly, my family just knows i respect MacCain. My mom asked where the collar came from- i told her MacCain, she dropped the subject. She has asked why i wait on him hand and foot... i have said he works hard, she dropped it. It is easiest to give short obvious answers. Give answers that can't be argued with. Don't offer extra explanation that isn't asked for. If you are short with your answers, chances are your family will take your cue that it isn't up for discussion. p I am a little surprised by the tone of your reply and do appreciate your parting words. 15 Oct 10, 1:12 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs 610-217-666 wrote: I am a little surprised by the tone of your reply and do appreciate your parting words. Sorry, did i have a tone? i blame the early hour and lack of coffee. Normally i'm quite pleasant. Which reminds me- any odd behavior can be explained away with lack of your personal vise. p 15 Oct 10, 1:13 PM 610-217-666 US(CA), 20 mths property_of_MacCain wrote: 610-217-666 wrote: How to break it to the family... Forgive me if this is a topic that has been addressed and I have not found the answers I am seeking... I am a girl to whom the rest of the world sees as a very headstrong woman...and yet it would seem that the realization of who I may be at my inner core is working it's way to the surface. Already people close to me are seeing a shift and I find it difficult to explain why. This has been a bit of a shock because I am not even aware of carrying myself in a different manner. It isn't even that I feel in any way ashamed but I do not know how to cross this bridge and could use a hand or some sincere words from the heart to assist. Thank you in advance for sharing... 610-217-666 How to break what to your family? Sorry, but your post is vague. Why are you acting different? Is it because your in a new relationship which requires you to be less headstrong? If it is because of a new relationship, just say your seeing someone new and he/she is wonderful. Nuff said. If it is because you found out this lifestyle exists, and you think you won't fit in because you're brash, knock it off. People from all walks of life prefer people who act like themselves. If it is because you just read some fantasy novel...well... i live on earth... my rules are earthbound. If it is because you got religion- tell your family it's a GOD thing. Frankly, my family just knows i respect MacCain. My mom asked where the collar came from- i told her MacCain, she dropped the subject. She has asked why i wait on him hand and foot... i have said he works hard, she dropped it. It is easiest to give short obvious answers. Give answers that can't be argued with. Don't offer extra explanation that isn't asked for. If you are short with your answers, chances are your family will take your cue that it isn't up for discussion. p One of the reasons I joined this board was to learn and come to terms with the feelings I have. Another huge component was the hope that I would find female friends who would be kind enough to assist me in this journey. 15 Oct 10, 1:15 PM 610-217-666 US(CA), 20 mths property_of_MacCain wrote: 610-217-666 wrote: I am a little surprised by the tone of your reply and do appreciate your parting words. Sorry, did i have a tone? i blame the early hour and lack of coffee. Normally i'm quite pleasant. Which reminds me- any odd behavior can be explained away with lack of your personal vise. p One thing I know to be true...here or elsewhere is that one should never blame their behavior on another. 15 Oct 10, 1:32 PM pirate528x US(LA), 6 yrs Y! Why break it to anyone? I doubt that you'll be naked and/or in chains when your family&friends come around.It's your life and nobody else's business.I agree with property of McCain's postings on this matter. MT 15 Oct 10, 1:37 PM 610-217-666 US(CA), 20 mths pirate528x wrote: Why break it to anyone? I doubt that you'll be naked and/or in chains when your family&friends come around.It's your life and nobody else's business.I agree with property of McCain's postings on this matter. MT Full disclosure or explanations is not really my intent. The challenge that I seem to be facing is a bit odd... Thoughts are things and they seem to have a clear way of manifesting in our attitudes and actions. Like I said earlier, it has been a bit of a surprise that comments have been made about shifts in my demeanor. 15 Oct 10, 1:49 PM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs People change whenever they settle down into a longterm relationship. The wild party animal meets their heart's desire and turns into the socially respectable spouse. Sometimes these changes are more dramatic than other peoples and people who care about you may worry. Just find a way to let them know that you're settling into your new relationship in a way that makes you both happy, and maybe find someway to tell them that they don't see what he does for you (nudge nudge, wink wink), but most importantly reassure them you're still the same person. If there worried that you're not as independent and 'headstrong' as you once were then tell them you don't need to be because your partner has taken some of the stress of life off of your shoulders and it's nice for you to let someone else do that My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! 15 Oct 10, 1:59 PM 610-217-666 US(CA), 20 mths Thank you Lord Uther... Next page