Open Air Bondage - the best outdoor BDSM shoots    [other banners]

	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "confused" confused (9) This post is on the O&P web board. Sat 18 Sep 10, 6:47 AM 983-993-228 21 mths When i first came to this website, i was thinking that i was finally amonst people who understood how i felt, and were living the same way i was. The thing that gave me that impression was the statement to almost every single board here which states (Online relationships are off-topic for this board.)" The only problem i have found is that if anyone was to read, i mean actually read the postings, they will find that most of the relationships are discussed are online ones. i was wondering if there was any real life relationships here. i know that there must be, but i was wondering how many. When i say real life, i mean how many people actually live with their Owner(if slave) or slave(s)(if Owner). Like for me, if i want to see my Owner, i walk out of my bedroom walk down the stairs and knock on Her bedroom door. if You do live like i do, can You please give me some tips on how Y/you get through everyday trials( for instance, how do Y/you deal with the stress of being around vanillas and having to deal with vanilla problems, like bills). As much as W/we might want to live this lifestyle 24/7, that is not always possible. just wanting to have something to discuss with my Owenr, who is my best Friend and Mistress. 18 Sep 10, 7:02 AM 250-140-386 US(NV), 20 mths i am living with my Master and have been for the last 8 years. i am new to the lifestyle but Master has said that certain responsibilities that have always been mine, will still be that way. i take care of the bills while Master looks over everything to be sure that i am not being wasteful with the budget. As far as Vanilla issues, i very rarely go out so that isn't an issue for me. i am new here but have seen many M/s couples who live together and post here. Granted i have only been looking around on here for a week so perhaps i am mistaken. i have found a lot of great information and helpful advice here so i hope you are able to find the same. Edited 18 Sep 10, 7:03 AM by 250-140-386 18 Sep 10, 12:33 PM seresse US(PA), 23 mths Y! i live with my Master, except when He is away on business. We started out vanilla, so many of the arrangements we had as to bills and vanilla responsibilities that were working before, He has left in place. i have taken an accounting course so i can be of more use to Him in keeping the books for His business, and it helps with the household finances as well. i am a stay at home slave, so all the home-keeping falls on me, except the outside maintenance that He likes to do. i have access to bank accounts so i can write checks for groceries and stuff, but He has final say over what/if i buy something. As for dealing with the vanillas, we are not finding that too difficult. We just act like vanillas when out, for the most part, except that i am obedient and respectful and when He makes a request i will say "Yes, Sir." It is subtle enough that the vanillas haven't noticed. We keep our M/s fairly discrete, especially considering we still have a teenager in the house. For me i had similar questions at first, but realized that the slavery is really an inner experience, a surrender to another's power and authority over my life, but that it did not necessarily mean it had to be expressed outwardly, as in being kept naked and chained, etc. That is a great fantasy and when we can we do that, but i am never not His slave, even if i am acting like a regular vanilla person. It is what is in my heart and His heart. Hope that helps you in some way. seresse 18 Sep 10, 2:28 PM slave_emma US(OK), 6 yrs Y! My Master and I are together in real-life. We are married, we own a house, and we both work. From the outside our lives look pretty normal. I live in the Bible belt so the fact that I obey my Master in public doesn't even raise an eyebrow. He also phrases his orders so they sound more like a question rather than a command. Instead of saying, “Get me a fork.” He will say, “Could you please grab me a fork?” Even though it sounds like a question. I know it is really an order. Aside from that, most of what I do like cooking dinner, paying bills, and cleaning the house falls under normal wifely duties. I get through every day by having a schedule and after a few weeks the schedule just feels natural to me. I am on medication that causes me to have to eat my meals at certain times, so my day is pretty regimented. The main thing I use to keep myself organized is Excel. I have my schedule on Excel along with what chores need to be done on any given day. I work full-time so it isn't possible for me to clean the house from top to bottom like I want to everyday. (My Master told me I have to pace myself.) It also includes the due date of our bills so I can ensure everything is paid on time. I also have a page for meal planning. This way I look and easily see if I have everything I need for the week before I go shopping. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 19 Sep 10, 3:55 PM Dagobert US(WA), 21 mths slave_emma wrote: He also phrases his orders so they sound more like a question rather than a command. Instead of saying, “Get me a fork.” He will say, “Could you please grab me a fork?” Even though it sounds like a question. I know it is really an order. Aside from that, most of what I do like cooking dinner, paying bills, and cleaning the house falls under normal wifely duties. That is exactly how cunt and I live. I do enjoy sometimes pushing that envelope when we are out in public. Maybe something like grabbing her by the hair, but gently so one watching may have a hard time determining if I am simply running my fingers through it. Last night was probably one of the funniest moments. We had some people (mostly vanilla except for one person who has dabbled and knew that I was about to collar cunt) over to the house and were playing pool. cunt walloped my ass in the game (the only time she is allowed to do such things ) and I protested (as a man is wont to do) and she asked me: "When is the last time you beat me?" obviously in reference to the pool game. My response: "Last night. Don't you remember?". We were very amused by it all but the people around us were oblivious. I am the proud owner of dagoberts_cunt. She lives to serve me in all ways until the end of her days. 19 Sep 10, 6:45 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs Yup, another one living with Master. There are quite a few of the members here that are 24/7 RL. As far as not being able to always live your lifestyle 24/7, maybe you should consider how you are looking at your life. I mean, why do you see it as living a lifestyle? You are simply living your life. It's not a part you are playing, you are Who you are, your Mistress is who she is and everyday life carries on around you 24/7. Life entails bills, it means work, it means family and friends, stress, traffic etc, etc, etc...... It is all a part of the whole parcel. You don't change who you are because you have bills to pay right? You just live your life the way you do. In your case it means you are also a slave. I have many vanilla friends, I work with vanilla people. So what? You give and take out of live what you choose. You don't have a sign on your forehead showing others you are a slave. If you choose to tell others fine, if not it's not their business anyways. Just be yourself, you'll be fine. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 19 Sep 10, 6:57 PM 983-993-228 21 mths 333-528-841 wrote: Yup, another one living with Master. There are quite a few of the members here that are 24/7 RL. As far as not being able to always live your lifestyle 24/7, maybe you should consider how you are looking at your life. I mean, why do you see it as living a lifestyle? You are simply living your life. It's not a part you are playing, you are Who you are, your Mistress is who she is and everyday life carries on around you 24/7. Life entails bills, it means work, it means family and friends, stress, traffic etc, etc, etc...... It is all a part of the whole parcel. You don't change who you are because you have bills to pay right? You just live your life the way you do. In your case it means you are also a slave. I have many vanilla friends, I work with vanilla people. So what? You give and take out of live what you choose. You don't have a sign on your forehead showing others you are a slave. If you choose to tell others fine, if not it's not their business anyways. Just be yourself, you'll be fine. the only reason why i stated it the way i did was becuase when Her friends are around, i cannot mention anything about being owned. For instance, i cannot call Her husband Master. i get way with calling Her Miss Maggie because She is older and i use the excuse i was raised in the south to respect my elders. just Her friend expects me to call her Miss Debbie, which kind of takes the meaning away from my Mistress. Edited 19 Sep 10, 7:43 PM by 983-993-228 19 Sep 10, 7:02 PM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs One way to think about this is that as her friend is a freewoman that by calling her Miss Debbie you are asserting your slave (inferior?) status to her without her realising. Kind of like a mental frottage...how horny? edited to add: This way the term 'Miss' become a respectful way of addressing non-slaves while 'Mistress' remains something special and unique between you & your owner. In the same way I don't like being called 'Master' by slaves that I don't own but prefer to be called 'Sir' by those that wish to show me that respect. My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! Edited 19 Sep 10, 7:06 PM by Lord_Uther 23 Sep 10, 10:17 AM bastets_daughter 2 yrs Master and i are 'RL', but we're only started our living together journey, which will be awesome. Two sleeps left til we move out together, im so excited XD I guess i am fairly discreet, but Master is happy to call out, 'hey, slave!' in public just as much as he would be calling my name. Sometimes i think he does it to make me feel awkward, but i just smile and wander over to him. Either way, as you can probably tell from that, our 'dealing with vanillas' isnt exactly low-key. We are what we are. As for everyday living, paying bills and whatnot? I dont distinguish it as seperate from my dynamic at all. I'm not less his slave at any point. We do what we must to survive. I think LordUther's suggestion about considering the other lady a Free Woman is a good one. Whatever works for you will help. 23 Sep 10, 1:04 PM 898-443-818 US, 5 yrs It's all real life here sister, it has been for 5 years (ish) since we met and shortly after my Owner moved me to His state to live with Him. Bills... a sore subject i used to do the bills with minimal help from my Owner but it turned out to be more responsibility than i could handle (we have complicated stuff)... and one month went a bit wrong. Now Master does the bills. We are pretty much ourselves around vanilla's except we censor the blatant me asking for permission. After all these years the people we hang out know "how we are" and they just figure it's us being us! 898-443-818 i am a slave-i have no rights, no safewords, i do not say "no" to my Master. i do not have "limits". i have entered into consensual slavery, so that may help explain the views in my post.