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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "What would your reaction be?" 1 2 3 What would your reaction be? (25) This post is on the O&P web board. Tue 7 Sep 10, 5:46 AM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs There are a couple of recent threads that have been running through my head for the past couple of days, due to information given to me. One was about contacting Masters to ask for opinions on issues. The other was on whether unowned slaves should ask particular Master's/Mistress's to take possession of them. The theads in and of themselves, have me thinking and wondering. I personally think it's great, if s types feel comfortable and are able to contact Masters asking for advice. There doesn't have to be any agendas, simply a friend for advice, someone you know will not guide you in the wrong direction intentionally. As far as unowned slaves asking particular Masters to take possession of them... I am of the mind that if you both are looking, which would be evident from adverts or posts that gives that info, then go for it. How else would some people find each other? I have also posted in the past that Master and I found each other through an ad on a vanilla site, I emailed him so, if it works why not? What though, do you think about an s type, contacting a Master out of the blue, knowing that particular Master is in a relationship (linked prifile, no ad), asking if he is interested? Do you think it is OK, because being unowned means having the right to do what you want and to hell with what people think or about the other half of the dynamic? Or, do you think it shows a blatant lack of respect for that particular Master and his sub/slave and the lifestyle in general? How would the Masters here react to this scenario? How would the subs/slaves here react to finding out that your Master had been asked? I ask and wonder about this because my Master received such a memo a week or so ago. Master told me about this a couple of days ago. He didn't wait to tell me because he was being cautious of my reaction or emotions over it. It had simply slipped his mind, he has been extremely busy lately and it wasn't something important to him. He remembered when we were discussing some threads the other day. So... my initial reaction to this? I said "Are you serious?" "No,shit!"... yes exact words .....then I laughed and said "Really? What did you tell her?" Needless to say, Master reponded to this memo saying that he was not interested and was very happy within his current relationship. I admit, I was curious to know who it was. Maybe it was someone just curious if Master exsited. Maybe it was someone new, who may not know proper etiquette regardless of what lifestyle someone is living, or...maybe it was just some poor misguided scrag who didn't give a hoot. Master logged on to show me tonight but he hadn't saved it and the 7 days was up. lol,Oh well! Actually, I am secure in my relationship with Master, my trust in him is complete so I don't worry about someone trying to create trouble between us. Jealousy has never and will never be an issue. I am very interested though, to find out what others think about this and what your reactions would be. Thanks 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 7 Sep 10, 6:26 AM 124-498-094 US, 21 mths I don't know. My situation is different from yours. A 'master' contacted me knowing I was collared and saying he frequently trains 'girls like me' (whatever that means. lol) and asking if I was 'interested.' At the time I found it highly offensive to Master and to our lifestyle. But it's kind of backwards from what you're describing... but I thought it was relevant. I see the trends in the posts you are describing. You pose a difficult question. This isn't a social networking site at its core, it's a forum from what I understand. Therefore there are no features like checking the "enslaved but whoring" box. Or the "I have a slave but want another" box right there on your profile like you might find on sites like fetlife or whatever. You just have to rely on ads, I guess, and respect what is on people's profiles and in their posts. Otherwise, tread very carefully and with respect. 7 Sep 10, 7:01 AM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs 124-498-094 wrote: I see the trends in the posts you are describing. You pose a difficult question. This isn't a social networking site at its core, it's a forum from what I understand. Therefore there are no features like checking the "enslaved but whoring" box. Or the "I have a slave but want another" box right there on your profile like you might find on sites like fetlife or whatever. You just have to rely on ads, I guess, and respect what is on people's profiles and in their posts. Otherwise, tread very carefully and with respect. The fact that most on here know that this isn't a social networking site at it's core, is one of the reasons I am interested in what everyone thinks. Neither Master or I have time for most other sites although like most, we are members of Fetlife, picking our groups with care. Lol, I must remember the "enslaved but whoring". Hilarious!! 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 7 Sep 10, 9:19 AM 124-498-094 US, 21 mths The more that I think about it, the more I think that IF (BIG IF) a recipient were contacted in a highly respectable way, TSR would be a great place to meet people, because this has been described multiple times as a dysfunctional family: we're not blood related (no incest: ew), but we got all the issues. WHY? Because we all feel free to say what's on our minds. (Or so it seems.) (BTW I LOVE YOU ALL FOR THAT) So a person could theoretically get to know many personal aspects of someone via TSR (threads, adverts, profile) and contact them respectfully. They would probably be making a more informed decision than someone on matchbook or fetlife or collarme or whatever those online dating/social networks are called. Keyword: Respect. I would have totally NOT been offended by that 'master' who contacted me if he'd have done it in a respectful manner. 7 Sep 10, 9:55 AM chrystal_HMLK US(IL), 5 yrs 124-498-094 wrote: The more that I think about it, the more I think that IF (BIG IF) a recipient were contacted in a highly respectable way, TSR would be a great place to meet people, because this has been described multiple times as a dysfunctional family: we're not blood related (no incest: ew), but we got all the issues. WHY? Because we all feel free to say what's on our minds. (Or so it seems.) (BTW I LOVE YOU ALL FOR THAT) So a person could theoretically get to know many personal aspects of someone via TSR (threads, adverts, profile) and contact them respectfully. They would probably be making a more informed decision than someone on matchbook or fetlife or collarme or whatever those online dating/social networks are called. Keyword: Respect. I would have totally NOT been offended by that 'master' who contacted me if he'd have done it in a respectful manner. Respect is usually the key in any first time communication, but I have seen quite a few Masters that don't seem to think a slave deserves any. What they don't realize is that they probably won't find a slave or get the reaction they want if they are disrespectful from the start. Just like I get add requests on yahoo without so much as a conversation. I usually send a message back saying sorry, no conversation means no add. kallisto 7 Sep 10, 9:55 AM GerardVanDam NL, 4 yrs I can't see what is wrong with unowned slaves asking some particular Master, unless of course this Master has specifically stated he does not want any more slaves. Asking an owned slave if she wants a sister, without consulting her Master, is somewhat impolite. There is nothing wrong with a Master asking another Master for cooperation, ie a DD/(s) partnership. This is not the vanilla world where all partners of a partnership should be asked. English is not my first language. For many here it is difficult to express their feelings. If I make mistakes, please tell me. 7 Sep 10, 11:19 AM mr_dave UK, 3 yrs Y! Hi, My situation is different from many on this site in that I have two part time slaves who for various reasons cannot become 24/7 so I am still “seeking” the one. Now I was contacted recently by a girl who wanted to run away/disappear from her current life for whatever reason “I didn't pry too deeply”. I thought her manner of contact perfectly reasonable as my personal does state I am seeking and although I had to suggest she either rethink her plans or find another potential owner I was impressed with the way she presented herself and was willing to pursue her goals. Dave. 7 Sep 10, 12:11 PM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs To me it would depend on how the question was phrased and what the enquiring slaves intentions were. If the question was phrased in such a way as to show respect for the existing relationship and was to enquire if I wanted multiple slaves, then I wouldn't have a problem with the request, as long as they respected the answer. But if the slave was intent on replacing the existing slave that would show such disrespect for myself and my slave that my response (if any) would definitely not be very ozone friendly. My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! 7 Sep 10, 1:03 PM 898-443-818 US, 5 yrs <What though, do you think about an s type, contacting a Master out of the blue, knowing that particular Master is in a relationship (linked prifile, no ad), asking if he is interested?> i think it is a tad distasteful, but i also think as much as some people want to, we really can't compare the interweb to the real world. So while it is... a bit distasteful... it is really a small blip on life's radar. Not a biggie <Do you think it is OK, because being unowned means having the right to do what you want and to hell with what people think or about the other half of the dynamic?> i think people will be people, i also think 99% (ok maybe not that many LOL) but many people on the interweb aren't real. i know some of them are-some are real, serious about slavery, etc, but so many of them are just playing. That is hard to get upset over it. i guess this kind of links back to the first answer. <Or, do you think it shows a blatant lack of respect for that particular Master and his sub/slave and the lifestyle in general? > Yes, it does, but again, the chances of this coming from a genuine person are small. i wouldn't do it, but i understand many would. <How would the Masters here react to this scenario?> it happens to my Master all the time (not on this site). He will befriend someone online and answer their questions & discuss the lifestyle with them and generally converse, but it is online only. i have been trained that what happens online is not a threat to me, and because of that, it doesn't bother me. <How would the subs/slaves here react to finding out that your Master had been asked? > i'm fine with it, i think this one links in to my above answer too 898-443-818 i am a slave-i have no rights, no safewords, i do not say "no" to my Master. i do not have "limits". i have entered into consensual slavery, so that may help explain the views in my post. 7 Sep 10, 1:34 PM MeluthTur US(TN), 6 yrs £ Y! Every once in a while I get an e-mail from a sub that I am not familiar with. Because of my background more are asking for help than wanting Me as a Master. A few inquire about training, or being Mentor/Guardian. Most are polite and respectful so in most cases I will respond either with the help the needed, or an e-mail of a freind which can help them. **There are tho, a handful of subs, (5-7), that seem to pop up every 6 mos. that have known me, or remember me from somewhere and will pester the snot outta me about wanting me to accept them into the fold, (which I no longer have btw). caoimhe, used to get a bit nervous at times because of this because in most cases, she is also familiar with them. But over time she understands that it is always going to happen, and I always reply the same way. I recently put in my profile that I was interested in adding another slave, and low and behold, less than 24 hours later I got several responses from these same subs. So I removed the request. But as a whole, if anyone I am not familiar with contacts me , I am usually happy to help, provided that if owned, their Master is aware and gives his permission. Respectfully MeluthTur Edited 7 Sep 10, 1:36 PM by MeluthTur 7 Sep 10, 2:32 PM 258-321-589 US, 4 yrs i believe that contacting in a respectful manner is not harmful if there is a question or concern with no undertones or alternate intentions. Communicating at different levels is wonderful in the learning and growing process as it gives you more objective and subjective information, feedback and support. To ask to be taken in by one who already has possession is not only disrespectful to both parties it is self centered which is unbecoming a submissive/potential slave. There was a girl who approached several Masters on different sites fully aware that they had slaves asking to be theirs with the guise of mentoring although her intent was to ease her way in and push the other girl out. All but one Master refused her request. The one who conceded found her intriguing as he had never met someone as she, he had been very conservative in demeanor in the vanilla world, and was smitten to the degree that he ignored the slave whom had devoted herself to him completely. It created not only hurt but distrust and a wound that never seemed to quite heal. There is unknowingly speaking with a Master/Mistress without realizing the implications of what is being sought as inappropriate, which is rare, vs speaking with or seeking the wisdom of another who may have a different view being outside of the situation. It is game to some, it is a competition which is wrong. i am glad your Master treasures you and did not concede. ") respectfully Master David's kahlan my body, my mind, my soul given to be nourished and to feed Master David of AZ's hunger and desire Next page