This page sponsored by Madame S, San Francisco    [other banners]

	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Lost unowned slave" 1 2 Lost unowned slave (16) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 7 Sep 10, 12:44 AM The_Vicars_sin UK, 21 mths Try going along to a local munch where you will have a opportunity to meet lots of Masters and other slaves. You can get to know any potential Master and as these are informal occasions you can chat to and ask loads of questions. You may also find other owned slaves recommend a particular Master who they know and trust. After saying all that I met my Master through work. Owned by The_Kinky_Vicar who is all I want and need. 9 Sep 10, 10:49 PM Jondeviant AU, 21 mths Y! dragonflyfairy wrote: Thank you for your kind response. There are no kink friendly counselors here but do go to a therapist who noticed my decline and helped me see what was happening. Hindsight is always 20/20 but definately not jumping into things with anyone for a long while but friends are good to have! Funny you should say that, I've noticed the same thing. This is why I am now training to become a counsellor. I see a huge, neglected population of kinky, poly, queer and alternative lifestyle people suffering when they don't need to. While I'm not qualified yet I am more than happy to try and help people as long as you remember that I'm just practising! As for your predicament, I've known a few people in a similar position recently and one thing I've been saying was to take time for yourself. Get to know yourself and needs and wants properly before rushing into new relationships. You say you know the reasons for the demise of your last relationship and that's great, so take the time to get to know any potential masters as well. Get to know them as people, not just doms. 10 Sep 10, 12:03 AM mutable 2 yrs Jondeviant wrote: Get to know them as people, not just doms. This is excellent advice but, one needs to understand oneself also. Initially, this is about YOU. Understanding yourself will walk the first miles of the journey your dominant will take you on. It will help you find the RIGHT one for you, see you through the highs and lows and make your experience sweeter. To be clear(er), this doesn't mean you need to be a confident person, just confident that you are not (if this applies). Do you see what I'm saying? Any dominant worth their salt will not expect instant submission or abuse you. They will get to know you first, sometimes in ways you can't even see. Just as you need to get to know them, so they will need to get to know you. 'Knowing you' enables them to get the best from you, which helps them get what they want in the way they want it. So, you see that knowing yourself helps you give the right information to your dominant, regardless of your perceptions. Oh... and if you don't 'know', just say so ('mutable' is more than just my nik) 'We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are' Anais Nin 10 Sep 10, 12:29 AM Jondeviant AU, 21 mths Y! mutable wrote: Jondeviant wrote: Get to know them as people, not just doms. This is excellent advice but, one needs to understand oneself also. Thanks, mutable. I totally agree with with. Didn't I just say that? I've always out it like this: you can't love anyone until you've learned to love yourself first. 11 Sep 10, 12:08 AM MarqKDsade US(WI), 2 yrs Y! I feel for you and I have a feeling that the person you were with before was not a true dom... there are a lot of what I call dom wannabees out there (taken from Don Juan). It takes a while to develop a relationship in a vanilla relationship and I believe that it takes even longer in a BDSM relationship. This life is based on trust and without that you have nothing. If you can't trust your Dom you are in real trouble. If you need or want to chat please don't hesitate to contact Me. I wish you My best in your search. MarqKDsade a/k/a Kurt Lord_Uther wrote: dragonflyfairy wrote: I was released because I refused to give up money that would have been more my house payment which keeps my roof over my 'families' head instead of paying his internet bill. There were other issues in the relationship because it turned out that he has narcisstic personality disorder and was very neglectful toward me and caused mental/emotional harm in which was one of the conditions of Ownership. I could not serve at my best at the end because all the neglect had caused trust issues which shook the foundation. He no longer wanted to put in the effort toward ownership and it fell to pieces. I seek to serve One with all my being. When things were right between us there was not one thing that I wouldn't jump to do for him when asked. I want to feel that again. Total Power Exchange. No-one could serve anyone at their best under those conditions, you were being abused. Please do not feel that just because you are a slave that you must accept any treatment that is thrown at you. You have the right to be well treated and cared for. I'm sorry that your experience was so bad, but do not blame yourself. You did nothing wrong, you did not fail, he did. There are many experienced slaves on here that can help you in your recovery and many experienced Masters that you can learn from what a real Master is about. I wish you well and you have found a safe place to be you. 11 Sep 10, 2:20 PM Domkarma11 US, 2 yrs £ Y! Hello again, dragonflyfairyslave I sent you a message already the title bar reads "Something Real and very Special,your service/My Control!" I read your posted forum. As a Master I am extremely Offended by the way this As@$@%# acted!! and to call himself a Dom or Master makes it even worse!! its Shi#%&*@s like him that scare slaves like you to us Masters and Doms that have a Brain and a Heart. Masters and Doms like myself have integrity an honor we would never or even ask a slave to risk the well being or health of herself or her children just so we could have our internet working!!!. What want to know is if he had a slave like "why dose he need to be on the internet anyway?". The other thing that sickens me about your story is fuc%%@#*s like him always seem to get the best slaves or subs and real Masters an Doms like myself cant seem to find a slave like you that so willing to serve and please!. And by the time we do find some one like you, you are so scared and jaded you dont have much left to give. Ok I am done ranting I do want to talk to you!! I have been looking for a slave like yourself for a long time I have a good feeling that if you did become my slave my search would be all over!! . Lets talk Ill be waiting to hear from you have a wonderful weekend. Domkarma11, P.S Read my first message to.