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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Asking and Telling" 1 2 Asking and Telling (18) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 9 Sep 10, 3:16 PM Adela_Rosa US(VA), 21 mths I just ask if he thinks I am slacking he says so and I find a way to do it but mostly I am asking him to do things I can't because it will make my back flare up so I get a pass. 10 Sep 10, 2:20 AM mutable 2 yrs I'm a great believer in people being 'true unto themselves' ('themselves' - is that correct?) This means that while I wish or express that they behave in a certain way (such as going to the Dr's), once I have stated my opinion, it is then up to them. I rarely nag (I think). This is because of the above but also because I rely only on myself. I know I have his support, but I do not take it for granted. I know he relishes my needs, but I never overwhelm him with them. Frankly, I say what I think needs saying and then that's it. Oh, except for my son... damn, I'm a nagger afterall 'We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are' Anais Nin 10 Sep 10, 2:47 AM Jondeviant AU, 21 mths Y! The way I see it, there are jobs that need doing, some are mine. Sometimes I forget and she reminds me and that's ok. 15 Sep 10, 1:56 AM Deviants_slave AU, 21 mths Jondeviant wrote: The way I see it, there are jobs that need doing, some are mine. Sometimes I forget and she reminds me and that's ok. i try to be respectful about it though, and i always try to do it myself first! 16 Sep 10, 2:12 AM MeluthTur US(TN), 6 yrs £ Y! Gets out notepad and begins to take notes in case caoimhe reads these and tries a few things. And yes I am as bad as the rest of the Dominants, I will cough up a lung before going to the Doctors despite My caoimhe's pleas. What can I say it;s a thing! Respectfully MeluthTur Edited 16 Sep 10, 2:16 AM by MeluthTur 18 Sep 10, 3:36 PM karmakitten US(WI), 20 mths Y! Master and I constantly find ourselves going back to the basics of communication, honesty, and trust in our relationship. Because of this, and because I am "so precious to Him" (a direct quote from Master, I gleefully add) I am encouraged to speak up with all of my ideas and thoughts. Of course I do so in a very respectful manner. What Master *does* with my ideas and thoughts is entirely up to Him. I do indeed reiterate an idea or thought if He does not place the same weight upon it that I do, but I do not nag...because part of being slave is letting go and letting Master handle things. If I wanted to run the show I would not be His slave. I am grateful I have a voice in the relationship, but I am also grateful for being able to leave it at that and letting go and letting Him make the ultimate decisions. MastrJ45's slave, karmakitten 19 Sep 10, 5:11 AM number_7 10 yrs My training teaches me that the Mistress is never wrong. i am also likely to be in trouble if i speak without being spoken to. Perhaps the way to do this is wait for a invitation to speak and then ask a respectful question, perhaps offering to do whatever needs to be done, or asking where the equipment is for a particular task, knowing it's not there. With doctors etc it might be best to offer to make the appointment on Her behalf - as a service to Her. Hopefully then the Mistress will know what needs to be done without Her initiative being insulted and/or receiving the impression that the slave is directing Her or offering unsolicited advice. Edited 19 Sep 10, 5:14 AM by number_7 20 Sep 10, 4:44 PM Nisaa_slave AU, 22 mths Slave would ask Master if it was ok to place a list somewhere of Master's choosing the jobs that slave cannot physically do herself, requiring Master's strong handsome muscular body or extremely intelligent brain to solve. Hoping that makes sense it's time for slaves bedtime lol.