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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Mistress for a night?" Mistress for a night? (3) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Tue 31 Aug 10, 2:02 AM 854-245-906 US(TX), 2 yrs Firstly I would like to say, if this is in the wrong place, I apologize. I've never posted a topic before, so if I messed up I'm very sorry. Secondly, this is extremely long, and apologies for that, but I felt I needed to be clear --- Hello all I am a lurker on the boards, and recently had something come up in my relationship with my Master, and I'm seeking advice. My Master and I are very secure in O/our relationship, and recently a friend of His (and also mine) expressed that she was the dynamic of M/s but does not get that out of her boyfriend. She and him are swingers, and she very plainly asked if she could join U/us for a night, specifically with me. A little surprised, my Master informed her that it was my decision to make, and that if I chose it, she and He would have no contact physically at all (other than Him tying the two of us up and flogging us, a favorite pasttime of His ) and she said she was percfectly fine with this. When He told me, I was at first confused - I thought she perhaps was asking if I would be her Mistress! But He clarified that it would be more of a "Mistress for the night" sort of deal and that it was up to me what I wanted to do, and either way He didn't mind. Part of me is very interested in adding a third person, but another part of me is a little hesitant - I was honest with Him when I said I would feel as though I'm being a little unfaithful to Him, even though it's consensual. Also, I have never been a Dominant with someone before; Master has told me that He would love to see me Dom another female (and that I have the qualities to do it if I want), and on the one hand this excites me, but on the other I'm not entirely sure if I have it in me to be a Dom - I'm so used to being a slave! My question to you all is this: have any of you been in similar situations? If so, could you perhaps tell me about them and offer me any advice? It would be very much appreciated. Thank you in advance for taking the time to read and reply. 854-245-906 31 Aug 10, 9:40 AM slavegirl_nima FR, 2 yrs Hello, my first post too I'd recommend you to check "first girl" on a Gorean website (or google a bit), I think this could be a setting you feel more comfortable with than calling yourself a "Dominant". It means that you are still a slave but as you are the slave of your Master and she is a guest, you are the first girl in the house and guest slaves have to subordinate (of course Masters can take their slave out of this chain but as she has none and wants you to guide her it should be fine ). You know what is going on in your Master's household, what he likes etc. and can guide your slave sister. This can include giving her orders, chores and punishing her but you are still your Master's slave. As first girl you can show her how a slave behaves etc. and I'm sure it will help her very much, as she can take you as role model, imitate you a bit and at the same time get corrections from you. I hope it helps and sorry if I made mistakes, this is not my native language nima 31 Aug 10, 6:48 PM Missus US(TX), 2 yrs As you know me Girly, many people make the mistake that it takes an overbearing personality to be dominate. It's why when some people in our (our friendship lives) find out that i'm submissive with Sir they're surprised as when with them i'm very loud, rude, and make myself known. Yet with Sir i'm pulled back and there to do as He asks even if W/we are in public. On the same note Sir being the VERY strong silent type doesn't make Him any less dominate. If You go into it believing You can't do it, or that You wont have control than You wont come out of it pleased with what you've done. To make it some what more enjoyable for you, you could have Him tell you what to do. This way He'd still be giving you orders, you'd still be serving, and yet doing to her what she's requested. At the same time you should set down with her, make sure she has her own safeword in case it gets turned around and she doesn't like it so much. But also talk about things she might want done. Maybe there's a certain something she'd enjoy being spanked with or a certain way she'd be interested in being tied up or even a certain level she'd like to be brought to. She could be wanting just very simple small steps of only being tied up and spanked or maybe she feels she wants to be degraded and yelled at and made to kiss your shoes. (which is something missy here has to also decide) Sir has requested something similar of me, He wants to switch to being tied up and torn apart as He does me and this girl has to determine what level it is Hes wanting to be brought to as Sir has obviously never been on the other end. In the end it could be a very enjoyable experience for everyone involved as long as there is good communication before hand. i'm here if you have any other questions! women in her greatest perfection was made to serve and obey Man. 31 Aug 10, 11:42 PM 854-245-906 US(TX), 2 yrs slavegirl_nima wrote: Hello, my first post too I'd recommend you to check "first girl" on a Gorean website (or google a bit), I think this could be a setting you feel more comfortable with than calling yourself a "Dominant". It means that you are still a slave but as you are the slave of your Master and she is a guest, you are the first girl in the house and guest slaves have to subordinate (of course Masters can take their slave out of this chain but as she has none and wants you to guide her it should be fine ). You know what is going on in your Master's household, what he likes etc. and can guide your slave sister. This can include giving her orders, chores and punishing her but you are still your Master's slave. As first girl you can show her how a slave behaves etc. and I'm sure it will help her very much, as she can take you as role model, imitate you a bit and at the same time get corrections from you. I hope it helps and sorry if I made mistakes, this is not my native language nima Thanks for your reply! I will show this to Him and explain to Him that I think I would feel more comfortable doing this as opposed to trying to step into the role of a Mistress without knowing how. Now, off to google to look up "first girl" 854-245-906