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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Multiple Slaves" 1 2 3 4 5 6 Multiple Slaves (52) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sat 28 Aug 10, 3:08 PM DrakeKing125 US(GA), 21 mths Y! Hello I was recently contacted by a slave who wants me to be her Master, I have already discussed this with my wife (current slave) she is fine with it as long as she is first to me. I want to hear from the other Masters and thier slaves as to how multiple slaves and/or having a wife and slave has affected their life. New to this life, but I know some mean little tricks. Edited Sat 28 Aug 10, 5:22 PM by DrakeKing125 28 Aug 10, 4:22 PM MeluthTur US(TN), 6 yrs £ Y! DrakeKing125 wrote: Multiple Slaves Hello I was recently contacted by a slave who ants me to be her Master, I have already discussed this with my wife (current slave) she is fine with it as long as she is first to me. I want top hear from the other Masters and thier slaves as to how multiple slaves and having a wife and slave has affected their life. Tho I am heading out for a bit and do not have much time for a response, I shall return this evening with a bit more for you. But some initial thoughts. I have to go back and look at Profile, however if I remember you may be relatively new to the livestyle. In which case tho this may be something you desire, I would suggest working on your relationship within your house first. Multiple slaves can be quite a handful even for us oldtimers. And especially when one is your wife. With that comment out of the way: Giving specific advice is hard atm without some additional information. Will your new slave be a live in? If not, how much time will be given to your wife, then new slave? If slave will be live in, what expectations do you have of both wife and slave as far as housework, chores etc. and are they aware of your expectations? These are just a few of many questions which must be asked and answered to have a healthy multiple slave dynamic. Personalities become very important. For instance does one or both feel they should be more the alpha slave? This is one of those situations that you do not want to learn as you go. So keep with the thread to hear from others. **** there may be more here as well, but there is "Master Firemaam" which you can contact by memo. I do know she would have some great advice as far a prep work for receiving additional slaves into the household. She may just pop in if she sees thread as well. Edited to correct Masterfiremaam's name, I apologize deeply for the mistype. Respectfully MeluthTur Edited 29 Aug 10, 2:21 AM by MeluthTur 28 Aug 10, 4:34 PM 898-443-818 US, 4 yrs Saying someone is "fine with it" seems like a flippant way to start a poly life (perhaps you are just paraphrasing....). If someone is poly i would think that would be something they have known for a long time, not just something like, hey want chicken for dinner? OK i'm fine with that. You have many, many questions to answer, a few of which are written above. i am not saying you shouldn't do it but i do think you need to realize the gravity of the situation. Perhaps, if you haven't already, playing with a third party would be a good start. Just a suggestion, this way that person leaves and you and your wife have time to discuss how it went & feelings involved. 898-443-818 i am a slave-i have no rights, no safewords, i do not say "no" to my Master. i do not have "limits". i have entered into consensual slavery, so that may help explain the views in my post. 28 Aug 10, 5:08 PM DrakeKing125 US(GA), 21 mths Y! Will your new slave be a live in? On the long term yes What expectations do you have of both wife and slave as far as housework, chores etc. and are they aware of your expectations? Each will be given a daily list of chores to acomplish. And the new Slave is full submission. Does one or both feel they should be more the alpha slave? Wife feels she is to be alpha. On a similar note Wife is slave only to me while the new one would be more towards household, with me as primary Master. Hope this helps clear things up. New to this life, but I know some mean little tricks. 28 Aug 10, 5:32 PM MeluthTur US(TN), 6 yrs £ Y! ACK! maybe a rewording would be order. Or rethought. I am sure there will be posts regarding your last few lines. Darn job...gotta go but be back tonight to check in... Your wife FEELS she should be alpha....that is common to hear for obvious reasons....but does not always work thata way. BTW If you are the primary Master? Who would be the secondary? I think I know what you mean tho. But those things are what can end up having a Master living out of His car for a bit. *smiles* Respectfully MeluthTur Edited 28 Aug 10, 5:39 PM by MeluthTur 28 Aug 10, 6:34 PM pet_ka_MJ CA, 2 yrs There is much to be considered in a poly situation... much more than has been pointed out thus far. What about communication... not just between you and your wife/slave, but how about between you and your new slave and the communicationt that will take place between the slaves themselves? Have you considered how you will deal with conflict resolution? jealousy? competition? expections? Just to name a few. You might want to use the search mechanism (sidebar below "web boards") to access the archives and see what has been said about poly-relationships previously... particularly about what caused them to meltdown. A poly-relationship is not something to enter into lightly... you will be responsinble for the emotional and physical well-being of the new slave(s) that come into your home... and that of your wife/slave. With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate, and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity. - Keshavan Nair Edited 28 Aug 10, 6:35 PM by pet_ka_MJ 29 Aug 10, 3:20 AM 535-513-706 US(GA), 21 mths MeluthTur wrote: BTW If you are the primary Master? Who would be the secondary? The way it works is that my wife is secondary, yes I know it's a little odd, and third and least is my room mate. 29 Aug 10, 3:39 AM DrakeKing125 US(GA), 21 mths Y! Sry last post was me. My wife didn't log out when she was done. New to this life, but I know some mean little tricks. 29 Aug 10, 4:47 AM MeluthTur US(TN), 6 yrs £ Y! 535-513-706 wrote: MeluthTur wrote: BTW If you are the primary Master? Who would be the secondary? The way it works is that my wife is secondary, yes I know it's a little odd, and third and least is my room mate. So if I understand correctly, You are the Primary Master, then your wife I assume is a slave will also be a secondary Master, after this you have a room mate who is not in the lifestyle? Also a Master of sorts? Of your wife as well? This is starting to sound like a nightmare, or at least a bdsm soap opera. I think your best bet in all honestly and as respectfully as I can, suggest that you halt all action and again as I mentioned, work on stabilizing your D/s relationship with your wife before adding another that might at the very least be disappointed in the decision to enter an unstable dynamic. She has no chance to survive this arrangement. Starting to sound like You all are looking for free maid service with getting alittle on the side. Respectfully MeluthTur Edited 29 Aug 10, 4:53 AM by MeluthTur 29 Aug 10, 5:02 AM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs Yes, I agree with Meluth Tur. I'm just sitting here blinking, too many scenarios jumping around my head. DrakeKing125, maybe you could clarify the situation a bit better to help us understand, otherwise, there are a few who will end up holding the wrong end of the stick. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 29 Aug 10, 6:03 PM DrakeKing125 US(GA), 21 mths Y! This seems to have strayed alittle from my first question. It's turning into an interview. New to this life, but I know some mean little tricks. Next page