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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Trouble coping/dealing" 1 2 Trouble coping/dealing (13) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Mon 9 Aug 10, 7:45 PM 788-766-713 2 yrs I am a young,new slave and have read the rules and papers about the lifestyle and i am having trouble with not being jealous...i dont show it but i get withdrawn and 'moody' but not sure how to bring up my feelings to master or how to suppress it. can any one help me or give me advice? masters slut 9 Aug 10, 7:58 PM 793-434-515 US(GA), 2 yrs Y! Honestly, the best advice I can give is…..tell your Master when you are feeling this way. If you get withdrawn and moody and hold your feelings in then it could cause problems. Maybe you and your Master could sit down and talk about how you are feeling and why you are feeling the way you do. Telling your Master works but how you two handle it is up to you and your Master and what works for y'all. 9 Aug 10, 8:40 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs You have read the rules and papers about the lifestyle? I don't quite understand. Do you mean you have read the rules that your Master has set out for you, or what his expectations are? Is your Master poly for you to be jealous? The rules can vary greatly for this lifestyle. It depends on the dynamic you are in. Please elaborate more. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown Edited 9 Aug 10, 8:42 PM by 333-528-841 11 Aug 10, 3:13 AM Will_Anderegg US(CO), 22 mths Y! I'm assuming, based on your profile, that you are jealous of your Master's wife and the time he spends with her. My first impulse is to suggest that you and his wife become friends and lovers, but that may not be possible if one or both of you is not bi. In any case, you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. As others have said, bottling up these feelings can lead to much more serious issues down the road. 11 Aug 10, 3:42 AM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs You have had some very good advice over the past few months regarding various issues you seem to have within your dynamic. It may be helpful for you to re-read some of your earlier threads. I have to wonder if you are suited for the type of relationship you are in, or maybe you are not ready to be in this type of dynamic. Putting all the threads you have posted, in sequence, it seems to me that there is a pattern developing. It might be an idea for you to start some research on the lifestyle, read and learn. You might help yourself too by realling thinking about what your needs and wants truly are and then decide if this lifestyle is for you. All the best to you. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 11 Aug 10, 9:10 PM hadrian US, 2 yrs Your profile says you quit your job on his orders after he quit his? And now you're living with your Master and his wife and you're becoming jealous? This sounds like an extremely unsteady foundation. You need to talk honestly with both of them about how you feel as soon as possible. Letting it fester isn't going to help anyone. Close your eyes and surrender to your darkest dreams Purge your thoughts of the life you knew before Close your eyes, let your spirit start to soar And you'll live as you've never lived before... 11 Aug 10, 9:50 PM 973-661-939 US(NJ), 23 mths Y! this was in your profile: i entered this lifestyle with hopes of gaining more knowledge, making friends with other slaves who my master will approve, and can help me become a better slave far be it for me to speak for other subs/slaves but i'mm not aware of any slaves who enter the lifestyle in the hopes of gaining more knowledge or making friends. usually subs enter enslavement for the primary purpose of serving the Master. if your Master is not able to teach you what you need to know, i doubt you are going to learn it from message boards like these. 17 Aug 10, 3:50 PM sweetgirlincville 21 mths So like everyone else said, talk to your Master about it. I'm new to M/s relationships, but I have a lot of experience with polyamory. People feel jealous when they feel insecure about something. The best thing to do is to try to identify what it is you feel insecure about. Even if it sounds crazy. Are you afraid that your Master will run away to become a shoe cobbler in Italy with someone else? If you can figure it out and talk to him about it, then you have the opportunity to work through it and feel better. And then the next time that feeling arises, you can remember your conversation about it and how it made you feel. Just trying to suppress it or make it go away will make it worse. <3 17 Aug 10, 4:06 PM sweetgirlincville 21 mths far be it for me to speak for other subs/slaves but i'mm not aware of any slaves who enter the lifestyle in the hopes of gaining more knowledge or making friends. usually subs enter enslavement for the primary purpose of serving the Master. if your Master is not able to teach you what you need to know, i doubt you are going to learn it from message boards like these. I'm sorry but I very much disagree. What is the purpose of these forums if not to learn from each other? Certainly you can live your life however you would like to, but personally I think that information and understanding add value to people. And isn't it at least commendable that the original post came out of a desire to become a better s? 20 Aug 10, 9:56 PM petitchat UK, 2 yrs I think honesty is the best policy and look at the root causes of jealously... Most people I know who are jealous are so because they either fear being discarded, are lonely, feel they are treated differently to others or maybe feel inadequate in themselves in some way. But honesty always best or it will build up and overspill... xx 20 Aug 10, 10:16 PM 910-023-776 US, 2 yrs For me when I am feeling jealous or insecure about anything I have to talk to my Master. Even if it is hard. Sometimes I even write it in a email to Him. He always listens to me and always makes me feel better, it is better than letting the negative feelings build up. My Master is my whole world and if I could not talk to Him I would be so lost..... Next page