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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Stress" 1 2 3 Stress (27) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Wed 21 Jul 10, 5:06 AM 793-434-515 US(GA), 21 mths Y! I do not live with my Master but He stays with me on the weekends. Recently alot has happened in my life where I have to find a new job so I can afford a place to live since my lease expires soon. I'm trying to finish school and am trying to get a loan so I can finally pursue a degree in a field of my dreams which will in turn allow me to be at home 24/7 when I do live with my Master.I've been overwhelmed, stressed, and depressed and I feel like these are all selfish emotions. I just feel like an extremely selfish person right now. It's all put a strain on the relationship that I have with Master. I am curious about how other submissives/slaves deal with personal stress or is this just un-natural? "Here is a painting of a harbor. I will call you Captain, there is your ship, I will begin to feel safe." -Jillian Weise from BODY as HARBOR 21 Jul 10, 5:30 AM slave_Heather77 US(MO), 2 yrs I don't feel that you are having totally selfish feelings, you do have a lot going on it seems. If this were me, I would find some time each day to de-stress. Journaling, a soak in the tub with hot water, candles like lavendar that soothe, yoga, going for a walk. These seem to help me when I am overwhelmed. I also keep a daily checklist of things I must get done in the day and I take the top 2 or 3 and do those for that day. The rest can wait until tomorrow. Also, keep the lines of communication open with you and your Master. Let him know what is going on and keep him in the loop, this way he will know why you are acting as you are for the time being. I hope this helps and good luck! Faithfully and patiently awaiting her Master... 21 Jul 10, 5:34 AM slave_emma US(OK), 5 yrs Y! You're not being selfish at all. Stress is a normal part of life; we all have it no matter what your role is. When I get stressed and I don't know what the correct path to take is, I turn to my Master for guidance. Sometimes my Master will see things differently than me and come up with a solution that I would have never thought of. His solutions have a track record of working out favorably for me, so I feel his judgment is sound. Being a student, unemployed, and nearly without a place to live is enough to make anyone stressed out. I know when I was living by myself and I had a job change it was stressful; because there was always the uncertainty of being able to make enough money to cover the bills and if the new employer will work around the school schedule. Somehow things always worked themselves out, but things just may not work out the way you had hoped. If you need to talk, feel free to memo me. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 21 Jul 10, 5:56 AM mamabear NL, 2 yrs 793-434-515 wrote: Stress I do not live with my Master but He stays with me on the weekends. Recently alot has happened in my life where I have to find a new job so I can afford a place to live since my lease expires soon. I'm trying to finish school and am trying to get a loan so I can finally pursue a degree in a field of my dreams which will in turn allow me to be at home 24/7 when I do live with my Master.I've been overwhelmed, stressed, and depressed and I feel like these are all selfish emotions. I just feel like an extremely selfish person right now. It's all put a strain on the relationship that I have with Master. I am curious about how other submissives/slaves deal with personal stress or is this just un-natural? Unfortunately, life is overwhelming for us all sometimes. I think its perfectly natural to have these emotions. Stress is an unfortunate fact of life I'm afraid and affects us all one way or another. Just like any relationship stress can have a negative effect on it. The best part, in my opinion, about this lifestyle is the ability to communicate. That communication can help relieve the stress a bit. I have my own stresses as does my Master. I vent those stresses with him, as he does with his own stresses to me. It actually helps us both in that we can share and talk about those stresses and work on them together. Sounds like you have an awful lot on your plate and even if you don't want specific help (financial or otherwise), letting him know what is going on...communicating... might help relieve some of the strain on the relationship. I don't think it's a bit selfish to have these emotions, life is life. Personally, what I would see as being selfish is not letting your Master know how you are feeling. Truthfully, it would probably even add more stress to the situation for you if you did try to hide the stress. I'm one of those that used to try to keep it all bottled up inside...I was miserable and so were the people around me...it wasn't healthy in my opinion. You have enough to worry about right now, don't make your stress level any higher by worrying about letting out your emotions 21 Jul 10, 6:51 AM 898-443-818 US, 4 yrs Just wanted to say, be sure to talk with your Master, which i think you are already doing Hang in there! Things will get better. Be glad you have your Master to turn to, trust in Him and take one day at a time. Hugs! 898-443-818 i am a slave-i have no rights, no safewords, i do not say "no" to my Master. i do not have "limits". i have entered into consensual slavery, so that may help explain the views in my post. 21 Jul 10, 10:29 AM 978-291-889 2 yrs Sometimes life gets in the way - its that thing that happens when we are busy making plans - and it can be horrific!! You are going through many things that are stressful on their own, when lumped together, they become compounded (i've been there recently, in fact, i might still be there, just coping with it better!) Stess and depression are not selfish. They are real, they are part of who you are... and they will not last forever. I agree with what other have posted. Talk to your Master. Look at the changes as improvements you're making for his benefit, this may take some of the stress out of it. Deal with one thing at a time if you can, prioritise. Is it possible you can start your degree later, in a year or so when things have calmed down and you are more stable in your work/living conditions? Take time to look after yourself on a daily basis, if you dont already, make time for a hobby or sport... That might sound like added stress, but it will reduce overall stress. Make time to see friends. Failing that.. as someone very wise told me... when feeling overwhelmed by it all, take a deep breath and say 'this too will pass' Take care and good luck with it all. 978-291-889 The cuffs and ropes might have to be removed in the morning... but the bonds of love stretch as far as 2 people can roam. 21 Jul 10, 12:41 PM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs 793-434-515 wrote: Stress I do not live with my Master but He stays with me on the weekends. Recently alot has happened in my life where I have to find a new job so I can afford a place to live since my lease expires soon. I'm trying to finish school and am trying to get a loan so I can finally pursue a degree in a field of my dreams which will in turn allow me to be at home 24/7 when I do live with my Master.I've been overwhelmed, stressed, and depressed and I feel like these are all selfish emotions. I just feel like an extremely selfish person right now. It's all put a strain on the relationship that I have with Master. I am curious about how other submissives/slaves deal with personal stress or is this just un-natural? If I'm reading this right then I think your feelings that you're not making your Master the centre of your world admirable, but I also feel you are looking at this from the wrong perspective. You're not looking at the bigger picture. Everything you are doing is so that in the long run you can make yourself the the best slave you can be. You are ensuring that when the time is right everything is in the right place for you to be the perfect slave when you go 24/7. So while I feel your emotions are admirable they are possibly misplaced, you have nothing to worry about, and your Master should be pleased that He has such a considerate slave. My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! 21 Jul 10, 1:38 PM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs Lord_Uther wrote: So while I feel your emotions are admirable they are possibly misplaced, you have nothing to worry about, and your Master should be pleased that He has such a considerate slave. Having reread this I don't mean to belittle your problems, just that re your feelings of selfishness you have nothing to worry about Your not being selfish by dealing with these issues. My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! 22 Jul 10, 2:36 AM 395-431-646 21 mths slut can completely and TOTALLY relate slave sister. slut has felt this way as well, but has been doing much better the last few days. slut is indeed a work in progress, but slut will get there. slut has started doing a variety of things to help slut deal with the physical and emotional effects of the stress and that "out of balance" issue...Meditation, brain exercises, keeping up with work-outs,music, playing piano, studying and taking notes, working on slave skills, etc. slut has an amazing Master that works with slut, listens, gives advice, but at the same time He is molding slut to be an even better slave that pleases Him in every way, and won't let slut stay the same. One must always be growing, developing, and evolving, especially in this lifestyle. slut allowed the stress of family, home improvement needing to be done on apartment,the unexpected water bill for $300 which came from a massive leak, looking for a job, and as of today not finding one yet, and slut has applied everywhere for everything. slut is no good to Master without a job. "Rome wasn't built in a day", and slut is doing the absolute best slut can in every area of slut's life for not just Master and our commitment, but for slut. So hang in there...slut is right there in the boat too. "This too shall pass" slut KNOWS slut has been driving Master up the wall, and my God He is so patient with slut. 22 Jul 10, 5:01 AM 793-434-515 US(GA), 21 mths Y! Thank you all! Y'all have really made me feel better about the whole situation and thank you Lord Uther for your kind words. I use to paint a lot and baths were my favorite thing. I always called them “fun baths” because I would use bath confetti or bath bombs and bubble bath. I tried to start a journal too. However, as things got busier I quit doing things. I take just showers instead of my random baths because they are quicker for me. I never really realized how important those things were to my well-being. Also, I am going to try a list of to-do's with the important things first. I use to do a daily checklist but it was a massive blob of things. I think numbering them would be a perfect idea. If it comes down to it, I can also hold back on school for a bit until I'm situated at least. Your responses made me feel better about what I'm going through right now. I am sure Master would not disagree with having a talk this weekend. I have been holding a lot in and it's been giving me headaches and it's probably the reason I feel so drained all the time. "Here is a painting of a harbor. I will call you Captain, there is your ship, I will begin to feel safe." -Jillian Weise from BODY as HARBOR 22 Jul 10, 8:47 AM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs 793-434-515 wrote: I use to paint a lot and baths were my favorite thing. I always called them “fun baths” because I would use bath confetti or bath bombs and bubble bath. I tried to start a journal too. However, as things got busier I quit doing things. I take just showers instead of my random baths because they are quicker for me. Slave must remember to look after herself when Master's not around to do so My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! Next page