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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Masters request" 1 2 3 Masters request (21) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Wed 21 Jul 10, 4:23 AM 788-766-713 22 mths Master says he has taken it easy on me punishment wise.... and that there are alot of masters and slaves who use more effective ways and forms of punishment.. he is trying to break me of my free will and has began to punish me again being i have been owned since january... i talk to one slave daily and realize there are hasher punishments but i would like to hear from masters and and other slaves what punishments you give/recieve please it would be greatly appreciated! and a good eye opener for this hard headed stubborn slave Master davids lil slut 21 Jul 10, 5:09 AM naughtyslave US, 2 yrs Silence...it was terrible when He was silent! Take care, naughty 21 Jul 10, 5:20 AM slave_emma US(OK), 5 yrs Y! I think punishments are better looked at from the perspective of what is effective rather than what is the harshest or most extreme. The end result of a punishment should be conditioning for the person not to do X again. If punishment becomes a competition to be the harshest then the entire concept of punishment has been lost on the person. Effective punishments are different for each person and there is no perfect answer. For example, if someone gets a thrill out of baiting an argument or back talking and you want to stop that behavior arguing with the person or physically punishing them to any extent probably won't be effective. Shunning, ignoring, giving meaningless tasks, and removing privileges, maybe more effective for this person. In my Master's home, his preferred method of punishment is shunning and ignoring. It is quite effective for me. I am masochistic and service oriented, so spanking me and/or giving me more chores would not be effective. However at this point in our relationship, all my Master has to do is look at me a certain way and I know I am on notice, so things typically don't escalate into a need for punishment. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 21 Jul 10, 5:23 AM slave_Heather77 US(MO), 2 yrs With a past Master that I had I had read about "figging" and for some reason it really turned on this slave. So Master decided to give me the figging and OMG! I understand why they call this punishment and/or torture!! He only let me suffer for 2 minutes but he also told me to expect this when I do misbehave to exact this punishment. For him my response was "Master I will be Your best slave ever!!"... Faithfully and patiently awaiting her Master... 21 Jul 10, 5:29 AM 793-434-515 US(GA), 21 mths Y! Shunning and ignoring also work for me as well. It's the worst for me!! "Here is a painting of a harbor. I will call you Captain, there is your ship, I will begin to feel safe." -Jillian Weise from BODY as HARBOR 21 Jul 10, 6:06 AM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs slave_emma wrote: I think punishments are better looked at from the perspective of what is effective rather than what is the harshest or most extreme. The end result of a punishment should be conditioning for the person not to do X again. If punishment becomes a competition to be the harshest then the entire concept of punishment has been lost on the person. Effective punishments are different for each person and there is no perfect answer. I have to agree with what slave_emma has said. By punishing you the harshest he can, you could end up behaving the way your Master wants, to avoid punishment rather than changing any behaviours. To me, that seems negative, not guiding you to be the best that you can be in your service. Would depend on the situation, the dynamic, limits etc. There are many threads on here regarding this topic which can be found through the search function. Only your Master knows what he wants to accomplish and how he feels is the best way to achieve that. Having others tell you what they do, may not necessarily be the best thing for you. If the punishments are more enjoyment for play, or in the bedroom, well that would not really be punishment then. IMO, real punishment should fit the "crime", behaviour or transgression. So it could come down to the question of are you looking for punishments to actually correct behavior, discipline, or more scening ideas? 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 21 Jul 10, 7:24 AM valhalla 19 mths 788-766-713, I agree with Owned & Loved and Slave emma. The punishment must fit the infraction and be intended to prevent future occurrences by creating a desire to change the behavior. Not refraining out of fear. I am very new to the active living of/in this "way of life", having a Dom/Master.I have learned though, and very quickly I might add, that to have my Master not talk to me is almost the worst punishment I can endure. I love to laugh. I am always laughing. But recently, in talking to a Friend, I laughed at a time He thought inappropriate. There was never any disrespect meant by my laughter, I laugh when I am happy and even clap. But disrespect is not in the mind of the speaker but in the mind of the hearer. He was not pleased. He ceased talking to me for a short time but it felt like ages. I have a very deep ingrained need to please and in this new way to live, to please my Dom/Master. To know that I have made my Friend angry is almost punishment in itself. I am devastated at the thought I have caused Him displeasure. His cutting me off from His words is a painful and sure way to get His point and displeasure across to me. When He spoke to me again a short time later, I noticed two things. First, I was deeply grateful He had not made me wait any longer. I was beside myself with upset at not hearing from Him. To let me go any longer may have had a backfiring effect. I am thankful I will never know. Second, He thought enough about me in that time of silence, to find away to give me an outlet for my laughter in such circumstances. This way I would not be jeopardizing my ability to be seen as being respectful. Instead of lol (laughing out loud) I would now type,,,lwj (laughing with joy). He kept intact my ability to express myself in my most natural way, yet made certain I had a new way to behave that conformed to His desires. So. Punishment and Correction (two different actions). One to make displeasure known and infraction "paid for", the other to insure the infraction does not happen again. I am curious though, why is your will so stubborn? Or "hard headed"? Is your Master moving faster than you are comfortable with? Or do you seek greater attention by resisting? Perhaps, along with any discussions you have with your Master regarding punishment, you might look inside your Spirit to find out why you find yourself in such a place as this. There is most certainly a reason your Spirit is causing you to behave in ways your Master finds worthy of punishment. I hope the answers come quickly and you find some measure of peace. Best of luck to you...................v *yeah, I change and edit often after I post (LOLOLOL) Edited 21 Jul 10, 7:27 AM by valhalla 21 Jul 10, 8:24 AM Sir_Aldric 4 yrs slave_emma wrote: ..all my Master has to do is look at me a certain way and I know I am on notice, so things typically don't escalate into a need for punishment. I completely agree. In fact to my personal opinion it is meant to be this way. Punishment is just a way to bring the relation in to balance again, but it should never have gone out of balance in the first place. A Master should question himself first why it did happen and if he himself was to blame for not anticipating it would happen. Besides that, silence and ignoring always works, since they need the attention so much. Sir Aldric Relax, life is too short to get upset. 21 Jul 10, 11:29 AM Master_Graves UK, 19 mths slave_emma wrote: I think punishments are better looked at from the perspective of what is effective rather than what is the harshest or most extreme. The end result of a punishment should be conditioning for the person not to do X again. If punishment becomes a competition to be the harshest then the entire concept of punishment has been lost on the person. Effective punishments are different for each person and there is no perfect answer. This I completely agree with, as every slave is different, for example one time as punishment I used a restraining bar to keep a slaves arms suspended and raised and cained her for every task she couldn't complete and this worked, however the same treatment on another slave had very little affect. Some slaves physical treatment is the worst others it's the silent treatment. I guess what I'm trying to get across is find whats harsh to you. 22 Jul 10, 4:43 AM charlotte AU, 22 mths 541-836-721 wrote: With a past Master that I had I had read about "figging" and for some reason it really turned on this slave. So Master decided to give me the figging and OMG! I understand why they call this punishment and/or torture!! He only let me suffer for 2 minutes but he also told me to expect this when I do misbehave to exact this punishment. For him my response was "Master I will be Your best slave ever!!"... please may i ask what "figging" is, i have never heard of this before, thanks Edited 22 Jul 10, 4:44 AM by charlotte 23 Jul 10, 1:18 AM slave_Heather77 US(MO), 2 yrs charlotte wrote: 541-836-721 wrote: With a past Master that I had I had read about "figging" and for some reason it really turned on this slave. So Master decided to give me the figging and OMG! I understand why they call this punishment and/or torture!! He only let me suffer for 2 minutes but he also told me to expect this when I do misbehave to exact this punishment. For him my response was "Master I will be Your best slave ever!!"... please may i ask what "figging" is, i have never heard of this before, thanks Figging was used in the Victorian era to give horses spunk by taking a piece of fresh ginger root shaped as a butt plug and then placed up the arse. From my past experience with figging, ginger is hot when it comes into contact with the innerds of one's ass. The entire two minutes that I could last before crying red was that I was quite literally hopping over the bed as I was hogtied with ass up. Master thought this quite entertaining and this slave never asked to "try" a punishment she did not deserve, lol! Oh and past Master was a sadist... that would explain why he obliged in my "trying" this punishment, lol! Here is a link that explains as well.. http://www.scony.com/figging.html Sits at her Sirs feet awaiting His next command... Next page