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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "New Pup....any advice?" 1 2 New Pup....any advice? (17) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board (moved from O&P). Sun 11 Jul 10, 11:26 PM MusclePup UK, 19 mths We are in the early stages of my pup training, its all new to me...i never knew about this world until a few months ago....but now realise its whats been missing in my life. can any other pups/ slaves give me some tips on how to settle in to pup life?....dos and donts ? 12 Jul 10, 12:07 AM 321-347-898 CA, 21 mths £ Congratulations on embarking on your lifestyle choice! A new adventure that i do hope brings you and your Master much fulfillment. As a novice just entering into the lifestyle myself - i too was in a position of wanting to know more so that i could be more for my Owner/Master. Here's the best advice i can give... Study, read and research the lifestyle and who You are. You have to know what and who you are - self actualization and self awareness are key if you plan on offering service to your Master. How can one truly offer themselves if they don't know what it is they are giving? The second tip - listen to your Master. Not just with your ears and eyes but also with your heart and soul. He/She is to have your best interest at heart and provide you with the venue to grow and develop under Their guidance. So you will have to let go... trust... respect... and communicate well with Him/Her if Your relationship is to flourish in a controlled manner They find most pleasing. Remember You are a slave/pup... you serve your Master/Owner. There needs become your needs... you are an instrument of servitude to ensure Theirs are realized. Edited 12 Jul 10, 12:08 AM by 321-347-898 12 Jul 10, 10:34 PM MusclePup UK, 19 mths thanks its all still pretty new, exciting....im looking forward to forging a close bond with my master....letting go and giving all that i am to him....i need to understand certain things more....like being a slave...im not to keen on that word....yet...im hoping that will change in time what was it like in the early stages?....what obstacles did u have to overcome? 12 Jul 10, 11:36 PM Missus US(TX), 2 yrs MusclePup_Tau wrote: like being a slave...im not to keen on that word... what was it like in the early stages?....what obstacles did u have to overcome? This girl prefers to being called a submissive or pet, as in my mind being called a slave implies i have nothing and that i'm someone they don't care for. To me it sounds worse than it is based on the historical meaning of the word. Sir agrees and to Him i'm just His submissive. Back when this girl first started her training with her first Owner it was very interesting. i've always been the type even in my vanilla relationships to do more for my significant other. i have a very 50's housewife outlook on vanilla relationships, to this girl it's normal to want to clean up for/after the Male in my life, to take care of Him in every way possible. So it was rather easy for me to be brought into training, the basic ideas of what my first Master wanted was there He just had to form it. But as some it happened to be things i did anyways i didn't have to be asked to do normal house type things. But when it came to certain things involving pleasing Master and getting used to responding when called or told to do something was honestly the hardest part for me. But now i fully enjoy being told what my Owner wants, i love having rules that i have to do every day which helps when rules are put in place for things that aren't day to day. The newest issue Sir and i have is that Sir is the new one to the lifestyle so He's learning things as i do. What normally happens with U/us is that i'll find something i'm interested in and mention it to Sir, once W/we get our own place i hope Sir will want to do some caging or chaining. As for Sir, He normally goes off things He's wanted in past relationships but was always to afraid the girl wouldn't be okay with. The beginning can either be very fun and interesting with the normal nervousness. Or it can be scary which turns it into something that your mind wont want to go through. In this girls case if the thing desired/demanded/requested sounds like it wouldn't be something i'd normally do or something that might cause me some sort of humiliation or embarrassment i learned to enjoy that feeling. The feeling of being embarrassed now gives me butterflies and excites me , i think of it as something exciting and i know that if i at least attempt it Sir will be proud of me. women in her greatest perfection was made to serve and obey Man. 13 Jul 10, 2:49 AM 321-347-898 CA, 21 mths £ MusclePup_Tau wrote: thanks its all still pretty new, exciting....i'm looking forward to forging a close bond with my master....letting go and giving all that i am to him....i need to understand certain things more....like being a slave...im not to keen on that word....yet...im hoping that will change in time what was it like in the early stages?....what obstacles did u have to overcome? i am most happy to hear that you are excited about your journey. Indeed the bond that you will ultimately share with your Master will be unlike any other relationship before. Indeed the "labels" are a hard thing to initially understand. My Master encouraged me to ignore labels and just be who W/we are on our own terms. However, i am a label person - in that i need a concrete understanding of my roles ... but yes the idea of being someone's "slave" inhibited me at first. Then i came to realize this whole lifestyle is about being a counter-culture... turning the normative standards on their heads -- and finding freedom in the abstract and now i revel in the idea of being "His whore" or "His slave" - i am also "His babygirl" and "His love" and "His lil' miss" ... as well as a variety of other nicknames ... and of course my first name when i am being addressed more formally. That being said - i have only once referred to Master as "Master" directly to Him since He doesn't do labels. However, it brought tears to His eyes when He finally realized i was truly submitting to Him as my Master. But usually i refer to Him by His first name in the formal manner. my biggest obstacle? Learning to let go and let Him lead. To trust Him to know what is best for me - and to let Him mold me to be the best version of myself. To relinquish that control was very difficult. But now having had the opportunity and gift of "seeing the light" - living a life of truth and finding the "real me" is more than anything i could ever begin to thank Master for. i find freedom in serving Him and watching His dominion and control grow in other aspects of His life -- as a result of my service. As His slave i am the gatekeeper of His will -- it is through the gift of me and my energy ... that He utilizes to be the Master in all aspects of His life. What was it like in the early stages. Truly? Hell. A push-and-pull dance of control that only a true Master would have the patience for. He pushed... i pushed back. It took alot of work on His part to Dominate me - but i know He cherishes His lil' one more now as a result. i had to do alot to prove my value to Him. i had to give up alot... there was alot of heartache... and alot of tearful nights. There was also a lot of confusion about who i was as a person -- coming to terms with the fact you find happiness in serving another is not exactly easy to self actualize. At least for me it wasn't. Master was a rock through it all. Was it worth giving up everything (and i mean everything) to prove to Him i was serious about my service? Without question. Last night while in His arms Master whispered ever so quietly... "I love you" in my ear. The earth stood still and i now know what true peace feels like. 13 Jul 10, 10:18 PM MusclePup UK, 19 mths i like your reply....i can see myself in a lot of it i like the name pup and my master does to....i used to call him alpha then one day without thinking i called him master..it came natural to me...not forced....i know there will be a tug of wills at sum point until we really get to know each others personality traits...i am a traditionalist in many ways...l am a very loyal person to my partner...lover...etc...so i know loyalty will come natural to me....everything else is there to be encouraged and developed....i hope..... 19 Jul 10, 7:50 AM 184-503-394 US(WI), 22 mths Y! MusclePup_Tau wrote: i like your reply....i can see myself in a lot of it i like the name pup and my master does to....i used to call him alpha then one day without thinking i called him master..it came natural to me...not forced....i know there will be a tug of wills at sum point until we really get to know each others personality traits...i am a traditionalist in many ways...l am a very loyal person to my partner...lover...etc...so i know loyalty will come natural to me....everything else is there to be encouraged and developed....i hope..... To me, you very much sound like a pup. i wish you luck on your journey. Also, to me you sound very much like a furry, and i don't mean that in any un-positive way. Like a husky or something...ignore my ramblings if you wish. 27 Jul 10, 3:45 PM butterflytrish 19 mths MusclePup_Tau wrote: New Pup....any advice? We are in the early stages of my pup training, its all new to me...i never knew about this world until a few months ago....but now realise its whats been missing in my life. can any other pups/ slaves give me some tips on how to settle in to pup life?....dos and donts ? i'm very new as well so hi and welcome :D my bondage shall set me free :D 27 Jul 10, 4:03 PM Sprite US(OH), 2 yrs This girl thinks you should research as much as you can on the net also make some subbie friends if you have some that are not new to the lifestyle they could give you great incite. always remember to listen to your Master over all else and try to learn about His likes and dislikes first. This girl learned her Master's dislikes quickly and it has been pretty much smooth sailing for her. Well welcome into the lifestyle you sound like you will be fine. -hugs- -Master's pet Always- 4 Aug 10, 1:04 AM MusclePup UK, 19 mths Whats a Furry? 4 Aug 10, 6:01 AM collaredfoxy CA, 20 mths Furry is another sub-culture. It's identifying with or associating oneself with an anthropomorphic animal creatures with human-like characteristics and/or personas (or part animal "humans"). There's a rather large range from simply being fascinated with fictional creatures to identifying oneself as having an animal-like side to dressing and behaving like the identified species you associate yourself with. The furry fandom even extends to language/terms specific to furdom. Furry Fandom Wikipedia is available for more information. Next page