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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "do slaves have tempers?" 1 2 3 do slaves have tempers? (30) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 7 Jun 10, 5:37 PM 222-320-624 UK, 2 yrs My Dom has taught me how to take a deep breath, take a step back and talk to him calmly if I dont agree. Just because I am his sub does not mean he has to be right always and he is happy to discuss. He IS right most of the time tho lol Curious_s wrote: mamabear wrote: Last time I checked I was human...so yes, I do have a temper, but it takes alot for me to lose it. When it does however..DUCK!!! Completely agreed with Mamabear This slave doesn't think she has an unsteady temper, or is easily riled. There are certain subjects though that will immediately upset her, and of course there's times when it's hard to listen to Master (without arguing). -s 7 Jun 10, 7:21 PM curious_bina US(TN), 2 yrs 222-320-624 wrote: My Dom has taught me how to take a deep breath, take a step back and talk to him calmly if I dont agree. Just because I am his sub does not mean he has to be right always and he is happy to discuss. He IS right most of the time tho lol Master is always right. -s Always the curious one ~ s 8 Jun 10, 2:29 AM 395-431-646 2 yrs 898-443-818 wrote: Speaking from an O&p, 24/7 owned slave POV here: i am *never* allowed to direct my temper at my Master, but i am allowed to "vent". Asking permission to vent is the best way to go. i usually am not upset about anything Master does, just other people and situations. 898-443-818 This slave totally agrees... this slave is allowed to vent,but have to give Him warning. lol This slave has an amazing Master that is just beyond all words... It is always other people and situations on this slave's end as well... 9 Jun 10, 8:05 PM Master_Sensei FR, 5 yrs "This a deep topic for Masters" I agree, living 24/7 with My slave, girl from the south with quiet hot temper is not easy... I used to punish her spontanously in ignoring her for the day, and hse apologise, but it does not change things on the long run... I wonder if punishing her with the whip, each time she says bad things without an once of mind wil let her shut her mouth when she is going to say crap... I usually does not use whip for punishing but for My pleasure before using her... So using it to punish her without using her cunt after may be a good thing if it does calm her for years after... That is what I expect from a harsh punishment repeated each timeit happens, to make this disappear for good... edited to add this : For the last time it happens, I just ignored her three hours and after talked with her. I have let her know that it serves nothing but My stress to point bad things that are with no importance for Me, that the way she sees those things are not the one that will bring peace in her. That she is My slave. And I order her to recite, and she cries, and I just take her in My arms, "I AM listening to you, slave".... And she calm down while recitation and her usual slave softeness comes back. I love when she cries surrending to herself as she is : My slave. So yes slaves sometimes have temper, but it is hard for Master to find the good way to let it down shut for life... so litlle by little, cry after smile... all while in peace. hope it makes sense... Edited 9 Jun 10, 10:39 PM by Master_Sensei 14 Jun 10, 4:03 PM 357-266-408 US, 2 yrs Hello there~ This slave has a temper alright...not as bad as it was once in the past. My temper is usually what my Master takes control of, because he feels that I have a very nasty attitude. I do get defensive at every little thing for a while, and this often causes frictions between him and I (along with my relatives). If I ever display any of these temperamental reactions, I get punished for them (ie. whipped, belted, etc). But of course, it is natural to have a temper...just not when it goes far like overreacting. I feel that it has improved since my enslavement. As for your second question, I am a little confused. Perhaps an example can help? 357-266-408 15 Jun 10, 6:21 AM taki_Martillo US, 24 mths uhh ... yeah, just because you're a slave doesn't make you devoid of human emotions. If you feel defensive, maybe your Master should strive harder to show you there is no need for you to defend yourself. Just imo. 15 Jun 10, 11:32 AM 125-868-766 2 yrs i have a very large temper, and have always had temper control issues. Master and i have recently been encountering problems with my temper, and haven't found any solutions. As i read the responses, i thought to my self, self, why don't we suggest the ones to Master that Master and i haven't tried yet. And, self responded.. well. self never responds, but that's beside the point xD. Master took a great interest in some of these, and i believe W/we may use some. i am glad this thread was started, as my temper has gotten Him mad and me depressed far too may times recently. lol. Thanks to A/all :D 15 Jun 10, 2:30 PM RogueAngel NL, 3 yrs Y! This slave has a temper.. and it gets her into trouble every time. she instinctively lashes out verbally when she is angry and finds it hard to think before reacting. she is learning to keep her anger to herself, but still cannot help withdrawing from her Master and others when she is angry. 430-492-113 Property of Kevin Gill. 17 Jun 10, 5:27 AM Master_Sensei FR, 5 yrs 430-492-113 wrote: This slave has a temper.. and it gets her into trouble every time. she instinctively lashes out verbally when she is angry and finds it hard to think before reacting. she is learning to keep her anger to herself, but still cannot help withdrawing from her Master and others when she is angry. It is said, in psychology, that anger shows something we refuse. Ok... And it sane that during the enslavement process, slaves refuses things like full obedience, freedom privation etc... It shows, in a certain way, that the process is going well, resistances shows the fair way... ok ok ok... On the other hand Masters and slaves have to identify if the anger is present related or past related... It is common that one's mind let old feelings of loss, old feelings of emotional pain, appear in present situation under the mask of present reaction... It might be a good thing to sit and ask oneself (slaves are not the only one who can feel anger, Masters too) : - I feel this anger, ok, when, in my past, do I have felt the same anger ? Be precise and describe the situation and after, answer this second question : - I have identify this anger related to this old one, is there an oldest one, an older situtaion before this olde one where I felt this anger ? And like that, patiently, go back to the first original wound that let you felt this anger... It might be tough ! sure ! but unless you become aware of how your past non healed wounds interfer with your present you will be stuck in present and the situation will reproduce old pain under new mask again and again... Being Master and slave can be also seen as a way of self discovering and healing to enjoy present as W/we are... Be conscious of Y/yourself and the world will be Y/your oyster ! 17 Jun 10, 6:00 AM 825-768-571 US, 5 yrs Vickie wrote: do slaves have tempers? Hey A/all. This one was just wondering if other slaves have tempers. This one knows she has a temper and gets defensive when certain things come into question. This one is also wondering if it is natural if a slave feels like he/she feels a need to defend herself from others when he/she was given an order and the order of things goes against it. This one looks forward to your replies. Thank you. Master has taken away alot of my anger , He sets the example , He wants me to be my best and has told me over and over to not let peolpe push my buttons . i hear Him now, in my ear .."calm down " ... i am a little confused by your post though , did you mean you feel the need to defend your Lifestyle with your Master to others ? i rarely defend myself in that area , i am , W/we are what W/we are . i am His , serving , bound , doing His will, and i never feel the need to defend that choice. it was the perfect choice ...it is as natural as breathing air i am always open to talk , exchnage ideas about my life {with Masters expressed permission , } but get riled up , no ! it would betray what i am tying to be , the best for Him , in every situation . i hope you get some good insight here , take care ..... His alone