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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Romantic love and slave love." 1 2 Romantic love and slave love. (16) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 29 May 10, 12:05 AM marysOwner US(HI), 2 yrs Y! I consider myself very very fortunate to have a wife that I can love and spoil and whisper sweet nothings into her ear. That being said... I consider myself very very fortunate to have a wife that has given herself over to me completely and submits without a second thought. We both have exactly what we want emotionally, mentally, and physically. Don't settle, you and only you can know what you really and truly want and need. Satisfy those desires on a permanent basis, not with a temporary fix. The art of life lies in taking pleasures as they pass, and the keenest pleasures are not intellectual, nor are they always moral. - Aristippus 29 May 10, 11:53 AM 375-295-503 UK, 2 yrs 493-966-682 wrote: Romantic love and slave love. I have come to the point in my life in which I realize, I need both. Things went off with my last Master (we are still friends) because I needed to be loved romantically, and tried to get this from him. Now I am in a vanilla relationship, getting the love I need, but I find I am a slave at heart and need both to be a complete person. You clearly know your own mind and know what it is that will make you happy; so I think you have already answered your own question! Both men have characteristics that you identify with, but as individuals, they are not able to offer you the complete package that you require. To have one man as your Master and the other as your partner sounds like the perfect solution. Although, be wary, as you may have conflicting responsibilities and priorities. Your Master, by definition should come first. From my own perspective, my Master does not love me, so I am in a similar position in that respect. I am free to seek other relationships if I choose, but as my Master fulfils me in every other respect I don't feel I need anyone else to offer me that dynamic - maybe that might change in the future. My Master will always be my Master and care for me as far as He is able; this is for for the long term - that for me means more than a transient love affair; but it has taken me a while to reach this conclusion. Edited 29 May 10, 2:59 PM by 375-295-503 29 May 10, 3:26 PM HisDirtyLiLWhore US(OK), 2 yrs Y! Y'know I was right where you are right now not too awful long ago -- I kept finding these men who would be awesome in one way, but couldn't fit the other role ... or vice versa. You'll find that person who will be everything you need -- don't give up!! And definitely don't settle for something you're not happy w/ ... why put yourself through the hassle of dealing w/ two when you know in your heart the One is there somewhere?!? Right!? This is very common actually, and right now you just need to focus on you -- let things happen and they will. I know that's hard to do. I know how frustrating this disposition is right now for you and how you desperately seek to find the One who will complete you ... you long for it, but rushing into anything isn't the answer ... that usually prolongs it by clouding your vision. The best thing I can advise you, is to take this time and focus on you... is there anything about yourself you'd like to change or improve? Is there something that you'd like to do, but haven't done it --- somewhere you'd like to travel to.... read, if nothing else. Turn this frustrating longing to be satisfied and to be owned in all ways and turn it around -- use that energy in another way -- you do this, and you'll find yourself being recognized ... never know, that One my run right into you when you're not even looking. They say, when you look too hard, you'll often miss out on what's really taking place. Close your eyes and relax -- let what is, happen. Enough of that metaphoric crap, you know what I mean. 30 May 10, 6:51 AM charlotte AU, 2 yrs HisDirtyLiLWhore wrote: Y'know I was right where you are right now not too awful long ago -- I kept finding these men who would be awesome in one way, but couldn't fit the other role ... or vice versa. You'll find that person who will be everything you need -- don't give up!! And definitely don't settle for something you're not happy w/ ... why put yourself through the hassle of dealing w/ two when you know in your heart the One is there somewhere?!? Right!? This is very common actually, and right now you just need to focus on you -- let things happen and they will. I know that's hard to do. I know how frustrating this disposition is right now for you and how you desperately seek to find the One who will complete you ... you long for it, but rushing into anything isn't the answer ... that usually prolongs it by clouding your vision. The best thing I can advise you, is to take this time and focus on you... is there anything about yourself you'd like to change or improve? Is there something that you'd like to do, but haven't done it --- somewhere you'd like to travel to.... read, if nothing else. Turn this frustrating longing to be satisfied and to be owned in all ways and turn it around -- use that energy in another way -- you do this, and you'll find yourself being recognized ... never know, that One my run right into you when you're not even looking. They say, when you look too hard, you'll often miss out on what's really taking place. Close your eyes and relax -- let what is, happen. Enough of that metaphoric crap, you know what I mean. i agree with what you are saying, i have been there myself, never settling for second best, i knew what i wanted and i was looking all the time, never committing myself. Master found me, and He is everything i have been searching for, it does happen when you least expect it 30 May 10, 10:11 PM Master_Sensei FR, 5 yrs Great advices has been given here... Just to say, from My point of view that I have struggle a lot with My romantic way of living... I have struggle a lot to appreciate fully being served... At the same time I AM very Dominant and need to control a lot My slave which is genuine slave with sometime a real bratty side, hot temper, which training has molded in a usually calm and nice person... The thing I have admitt with years is that I have two ways of living My life : being very sensible and careful with romantic views and perception and being very straight minded and dominant... Living 24/7 has given Me the real opportunity to live along time the two faces of My personnality... It helps Me to better know Myself and to join all of Myself in the present of a life sometime rocky... I particularly love being Romantic in tough situation and tough in romantic situations... Just to say that one can discover being Dominant without throwing away its romantic side... I have tried to, I failed... I love kisses, caress, touching, laughing, smiling, poetry, fantasy and I love equally giving orders, planning, using her when I want how I want, see her being calm creative and obedient as I want and need... Know yourself and you will know universe... 31 May 10, 5:51 AM DignifiedXDisease US(WI), 3 yrs To everyone--Thank you for your kind words. i find myself having to live two lives, one that can hope to be a wife and a mother, and the other which wants to be a slave and a pet. i hate the thought that these two lives must be forever separate. i hope that one way or another, both sides of me can be expressed and loved by someone. While I wish for that person who can love both sides of me to exist, i doubt them more. i doubt even more the possibility that i could ever keep a poly dynamic in place, as i feel that the strictly romantic counterpart may have trouble understanding slave love. i know i will meet many people along this journey, and my partner and i are daily growing together, as i show him this world. while i wish he would take to it as i have, i cannot push him into this. for now, i act as his pet. i am submissive to him, though he is not dominant to me outside of the bedroom. i hope that for now, i can make him happy in this way. To break me, you must hold me. hold me, and I will love you. If I love you, I trust you to break me gently.