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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "Does Sexless O&P Work" Does Sexless O&P Work (3) This post is on the O&P web board. Sat 22 May 10, 7:44 PM softline US(CA), 2 yrs I wonder if anyone out there engages in a long term sexless O&P relationship. By sexless I mean a relationship that is free from any traditional sexual contact (i.e. intercourse, oral, and sexual touching) between Dom/Domme and slave. Other aspects of BDSM play are allowed (i.e. bondage, whipping, humiliation). While have engaged in play sessions where sex contact was definitely off the table, I am at a loss how you could keep a long term (particularly 24/7) relationship going without it. I am not talking about a situation where sex is denied as an incentive or punishment (orgasm denial), but rather where "no sex" is a hard limit. I realize that so called "online relationships" are a special case because they are often conducted without there ever being any in person contact between the parties. This was brought on by a personal looking for a 24/7 TPE O&P situation. No sex was amoungst the hard limits that the potential sub listed. It led me to wonder if the person was being realistic. 22 May 10, 8:20 PM Malkinius US(IL), 5 yrs Greetings softline.... softline wrote: Does Sexless O&P Work I wonder if anyone out there engages in a long term sexless O&P relationship. By sexless I mean a relationship that is free from any traditional sexual contact (i.e. intercourse, oral, and sexual touching) between Dom/Domme and slave. Other aspects of BDSM play are allowed (i.e. bondage, whipping, humiliation). It happens all the time with Pro-Dommes and the men who exist to give them money and take abuse. It does happen sometimes with live-in slaves who are there to work for their owners as their primary form of service. It can happen when the slave is married to someone else and wants to be of service only. Mostly, you are talking Dom/sub, not O&P. While have engaged in play sessions where sex contact was definitely off the table, I am at a loss how you could keep a long term (particularly 24/7) relationship going without it. I am not talking about a situation where sex is denied as an incentive or punishment (orgasm denial), but rather where "no sex" is a hard limit. I realize that so called "online relationships" are a special case because they are often conducted without there ever being any in person contact between the parties. This was brought on by a personal looking for a 24/7 TPE O&P situation. No sex was amoungst the hard limits that the potential sub listed. It led me to wonder if the person was being realistic. You do it because the point of someone being property is not sex. It is not pain. It is not BDSM. It is serving in whatever form the owner wants. Go read "The Marketplace" series if you want a good example of how it can work. In one of the books, a female slave's contract was purchased by a male gay couple to coordinate their art collection and purchase new items for it or for gifts for their friends. She was a professional art buyer before becoming a slave. She was there for her work, not her body. OK...in the book she had sex with others who were guests of her owners and some BDSM activities with her but she was not there for sex with her owners. They just didn't go that way. There was another slave who was hired because he was a male nurse and the owner needed full time nursing as he was dying. No sex there with the owner at all. I have heard of a few slaves who were used just for work although I will admit that most do have sexual contact with their owners. Be well... Malkinius 22 May 10, 11:03 PM masterfiremaam US(WV), 5 yrs Our Ms relationship isn't sexually based nor is it romantically based. The SM involved isn't a part of sexual liaison but a part of our spiritual connection. The relationship is based on service and obedience, as most Ms relationships are. It's just that this service and obedience has nothing to do with sex for us. The way we maintain a long term relationship is the same way your maintain one with close, but platonic, friends and family. Not all significant others in life have to be sexual partners. Master Fire **The power of who we are can be intoxicating.** **The power of who we could be is humbling.** **Yet, we are assured we are exactly as we should be.** 22 May 10, 11:29 PM Remoses US(PA), 6 yrs We talked about this once before...you may want to read... http://www.slaveregister.com/posts/179810/0/#179... I am Remoses Just because it's inconvenient, doesn't mean it's not required. Quod principi placet legis habet vigorem (The pleasure of the prince has the force of law.) **Pronounce it: Ray-mosay.**