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	TSR : Web boards : Other Topics : "Dead and dying web boards...?" 1 2 3 Dead and dying web boards...? (28) This post is on the Other Topics web board. 19 May 10, 2:32 AM SeanT70 9 yrs I can do some digging around in the board history books - just involves using the search function and knowing what threads to search for, being that I had involvement in 'em all really - and make you all suffer with some finer details if ya wish.. only for the sake of chronology more thna anything else; the fact that the people that left doesn't change the history of the subject matter or what happened at the time as a result. Lemme know, and I'll poke around a bit. Bear in mind of course, that people just come, go and stop posting for all manner of reasons anyway. Sean. 19 May 10, 10:58 PM thegildedlili 3 yrs I honestly think it's better to let sleeping dogs lie Sean, what good will come of dredging up all those old threads, which means dredging up the dissatisfaction and hostility? Chronology is probably not *that* important in my opinion. Do it in memo if people are interested, but best to keep it off the boards I think. Having said all that, I can see why many of the 24/7 M/s folk have left, I myself am tired of the influx of posts from people who have no concept of those type of relationships. My main issue is that there are plenty of spaces for the casual players and those in online relationships, but precious few for those people who choose to live this way in every aspect of their lives. On top of that, the amount of posts I see from people who are clearly charading as doms etc and are using it as a guise for all kinds of behaviour, and more than that, subs accepting this all as part of the "lifestyle" is quite painful to watch. Anyway, I'm out. i have no need, for such things, but to make you happy... Josh Pyke 20 May 10, 2:34 PM SeanT70 9 yrs thegildedlili wrote: I honestly think it's better to let sleeping dogs lie Sean, what good will come of dredging up all those old threads, which means dredging up the dissatisfaction and hostility? Chronology is probably not *that* important in my opinion. Do it in memo if people are interested, but best to keep it off the boards I think. Having said all that, I can see why many of the 24/7 M/s folk have left, I myself am tired of the influx of posts from people who have no concept of those type of relationships. My main issue is that there are plenty of spaces for the casual players and those in online relationships, but precious few for those people who choose to live this way in every aspect of their lives. On top of that, the amount of posts I see from people who are clearly charading as doms etc and are using it as a guise for all kinds of behaviour, and more than that, subs accepting this all as part of the "lifestyle" is quite painful to watch. All points considered, you're right lili, and no, I won't be posting any 'results' publically. Anyway, I'm out. I bloody hope not; you're one of the very few people here whose opinion actually carries any weight, clarity or insight to a given thread on the board. The number of people like this are ever-decreasing, and that would be a shame see the remainder go too. The ones that play charades though? Perhaps one day they'll take life for what it actually is and wake up. Who knows. Wishing thinking I guess. Regards, Sean. 20 May 10, 7:28 PM Sklavos_mou_Kyriah 3 yrs thegildedlili wrote: I honestly think it's better to let sleeping dogs lie ... I agree. Things got really nasty on here a year or so ago. I am a bit more circumspect about what and when I post these days. SeanT70 wrote: The number of people like this are ever-decreasing, and that would be a shame see the remainder go too. Yeah Sean I've noticed that too. No I'll stick around but as I said above, I'm being more circumspect. I really don't want to be dragged into other people's flame wars. If they start, I just quietly withdraw and let them get on with it. Life's too short for squabbling. To be a true slave is to be truly free Sklavos 20 May 10, 10:47 PM thegildedlili 3 yrs Sklavos_mou_Kyriah wrote: If they start, I just quietly withdraw and let them get on with it. Life's too short for squabbling. Whilst I agree with that, I am also a firm believer in standing up for what I believe in. i have no need, for such things, but to make you happy... Josh Pyke 21 May 10, 3:42 AM SeanT70 9 yrs thegildedlili wrote: Sklavos_mou_Kyriah wrote: If they start, I just quietly withdraw and let them get on with it. Life's too short for squabbling. Whilst I agree with that, I am also a firm believer in standing up for what I believe in. Hence why I haven't been quite so fast to go anywhere as fast as I might've done. I might not post quite so frequently as I used to, no, but then things change for everyone as time progresses and events happen that prevent a post that may have been written previously coming to fruition at all. That doesn't mean I've lost interest, it just means that for one reason or another, my time is taken up differently. I have other things to spend my time on and to believe in and fight for than just regarding the goings-on here. Remarkable that. I wonder who puts so much levity in what happens here that they really can't see past it once the dust settles and fail to see that whilst we should indeed stand up for ourselves and our beliefs, it is, after all, just a website amongst millions. And it could go boom tomorrow. Sean. 22 May 10, 3:54 AM mutable 2 yrs I don't notice that TSR is dead or dying. You are posting now in a past position, but you know that everything changes, with time. Perhaps if you were to immerse yourself with the new (some of) and wonderful people here, you would feel differently. You say it is not exactly the same? Of course it is not. You bemoan the lack of posts, so post. Don't disappear for a few years and expect TSR to hold it's breath, waiting for your return. The boards are not dead. They thrive. People discuss, give opinions, bravely lay themselves open and ask for advice. All you need to do is look and respond - that is what keeps TSR active, afterall. I am positive I am not alone in loving this site. If you were to join wholeheartedly then the richer we would become. I can't promise you agreement with everything you post, but then that's sort of the point, isn't it? Welcome back. I am looking forward to your input. Caveat : Non offensive and always learning. 'We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are' Anais Nin 22 May 10, 1:28 PM Lusus_Naturae US(OK), 3 yrs As mentioned already - fetlife is the "new" thing to be on. I find it has a quantity over quality approach quite often, although real people are on it and real discussions occur, I find too many of the weekenders and dabblers. The younger group seems to appreciate BDSM-lite more than I do and find fetlife a place to hang out and socialize. I am also more of a lurker than one to speak up, but I have been on TSR for years before I ever registered. I hope support of this site continues and miss the about of traffic previously here, I do think that this site simply doesn't appeal to some because of it's simplicity and straightforwardness and even the general 'feel' - things I prefer over seeing endless discussions over something where the answers or solutions given are not even accurate - or relative. The younger crowd seems more interested in playing the part and having fun than learning the history, obeying rules, and doing the work anymore. 22 May 10, 3:47 PM 741-498-880 4 yrs After finding fetlife, i find myself very in-active on here.. there's not as much activity, and there's a lot more threads and conversations that happen on the MAsters and slaves forum over there compared to here. I still love TSR, and I still check it a few times a week, but it takes a special thread to get me to post on here now.... I just find too many threads about long-distance relationships, or D/s type relationships compared to what TSR used to be, and I don't relate to non M/s relationships, so i don't have a lot to say about ones like that. There's also a huge amount of "play" threads now on here compared to before, and I really don't have a lot to say about kinky-play either, since my fetish is control and slavery and being owned. TSR will always hold a special place in my heart, but I am not sure I will ever be as active on here as I once was, barring some weird accident of the death of fetlife. 23 May 10, 11:07 AM SeanT70 9 yrs mutable wrote: The boards are not dead. They thrive. People discuss, give opinions, bravely lay themselves open and ask for advice. All you need to do is look and respond - that is what keeps TSR active, afterall. You don't get it from that of yester-second do you? And don't get me wrong, I fully understand that and respect that not everyone has been here as long as some, and gets involved with everything else like others might. There just isn't anything to discuss in the same 'way' of back then, simply because the people of that time took the way it was discussed with them and that is all. Yes, the boards thrive - with different people - notice the word - they add numbers not quality to the boards sometimes, but using an analogy, now ya have to field shitloads of horsecrap to get a quality rose, rather than some reasonable fertilizer to produce a nice bloom at all. That alone, although I'm not decrying anyone's ability to dicuss in any case is frickin' tragic. I am positive I am not alone in loving this site. If you were to join wholeheartedly then the richer we would become. I can't promise you agreement with everything you post, but then that's sort of the point, isn't it? No, ya not alone on the boards, true, but then in terms of richness, the world didn't fall apart financially country by country, as single entities did it? Don't get me wrong, I wholly agree with the principle of what you're saying, I'm just not sure there are any great inroads to be made now, is all. Regards, Sean. Next page