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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "Has this ever happened to anyone?" Has this ever happened to anyone? (9) This post is on the O&P web board. Fri 14 May 10, 3:08 PM Geminaecho CA, 2 yrs The other day My slave and I were out shopping. We were outside the mall, and no one was around at all. He did something that made Me upset so as he was sitting on the ground I stood over him and told him (slightly harshly) of my disapointment. Well little to My knowledge, someone from inside the store was watching and came running out to make sure that he was okay. We told them we were joking around but we noticed she went in the store and continued to watch suspiciously. We laugh about it now, but at the time, I couldnt believe it. The only reason I was harsh on my slave was because there was no vanilla's around. I think thats when I realized how outside people can see our relationship as an abusive one. That made Me feel a bit uneasy, but I know in My heart that we are happy and thats all that should matter because we are not harming anyone. Have you ever had anything like this happen to you? What was your reaction? Geminaecho 14 May 10, 4:03 PM Kanina PT, 4 yrs Never happen to me, but if i would say to a vanilla that i like to be whipped by a man the person would think that i crazy or that i'm being manipulated by someone... Non nobis domine non nobis sed nomini tuo da gloriam 14 May 10, 4:15 PM 436-826-332 US(PA), 2 yrs Y! Well You have to look at it from the vanilla's point of view... heck, if some people saw me doing half the things i enjoy i would either be put in a looney bin or they would try to "rescue" me from supposed attackers. And though this hasn't happened to me before, similar things have. Really, vanillas just don't understand it... 14 May 10, 7:06 PM Dominus_Kier US(TX), 3 yrs Y! I had my ac go out and the repair man showed up I had Princess with her new collar on and a bikini top and a pair of shorts. He was staring at her and to my suprise he was looking at her neck not her chest. He acted very uneasy around her. Similar things have happened when we are at the store. The collar is a stainless steel stealth collar so it just looks like a metal ring around he neck. I thought it would be unoticed by most. I must have been wrong, but I haven't removed it except once to see if the lack of it would bug her. We are all learning all the time and no matter how much we think we know there is someone with knowlage we do not. www.masterdominus.com 15 May 10, 1:04 AM curious_bina US(TN), 2 yrs Geminaecho wrote: Has this ever happened to anyone? The only reason I was harsh on my slave was because there was no vanilla's around. I think thats when I realized how outside people can see our relationship as an abusive one. Geminaecho It's a very sexist view, but this slave is surprised anyone was worried about him. Often it's the males that are labeled as abusers, and females the victims (stereotypically). Doesn't it at least feel good someone was worried about your slave? There was a recent thread similar a while back ... http://www.slaveregister.com/posts/180106/ -s Always the curious one ~ s 15 May 10, 6:27 AM 818-265-216 US(MA), 4 yrs well i havent myself but , and i forget where i read this, but some Sir was confronted when some vanilla noticed who he was and who his slave was and went to them and said: "where do you get the right to do this?" and he only responeded, which i thought was just very honest and profound in a way: "from him(refering to his slave)" i odnt know if that helps at all. 818-265-216 16 May 10, 2:07 AM Jane_Doe 2 yrs The sorts of incidents where a vanilla would catch a glimpse of a M/s/D/s relationship are inevitable, as even if one is very careful and discreet, there is always a probability of these things happening. It doesn't make it any nicer to experience because of vanilla persons judgements, how they may percieve that alternative lifestyle, and other factors. When a person doesn't understand something, it is very easy, and almost automatic to cast it out and label it as wrong. But just because one can't fully comprehend something, it doesn't make it bad. Small/ narrow mindedness of some people is unfortunately part of life, and as frustrating as it is that those sorts of people may look down on a BDSM lifestyle, it is something that the liberated persons have to sometimes endure. In certain situations; from a vanilla's perspective, they may stuble upon a M/s/D/s scenario, and simply see danger. They might have concern for one of the parties and feel they may need to intervene. This one would guess that this just shows human decency, and as awkward and difficult as it might be to experience on the M/s/D/s part, at least the vanilla had compassion. One just needs to remember that even if, say, a vanilla person acts on their concern, and are corrected that the M/s/D/s are ok, and still show hostility, confusment or some negative emotion, this is simpy because they don't understand. The BDSM orientated party should know deep down that they are doing nothing wrong, and that the opinions of others do not matter. Life is what you make of it Edited 16 May 10, 2:21 PM by Jane_Doe 20 May 10, 8:54 PM 281-731-461 US(FL), 4 yrs Good day Ma'am, Recently this slave had a horrible toothache that left her in pain for days before the dentist could see her. By the time she got in Master was a little agitated that she had been in pain so long and that He hadn't been able to speed things up and heal her instantly. slave was tired, hungry, embarrassed about her puffy cheek and terrified of the needles in her future. They wouldn't let Master in the room with her and slave became visibly nervous quickly. Normally slave is very aware of the perceptions of vanilla people and is careful to give them no reason to view Master in an unfavorable light. In this case though she was too hurt, scared and sick to see the impression she was giving until they had already started giving her the "poor abused spouse treatment" the dentist even went far enough to lecture a stressed and tired Master! *wishing she had seen that* It was silly for them to come up with such opinions given the situation but, people will be people. slave wishes that she had done better but she looks forward to the next visit when they can all see what a happy, healthy, confident and loved woman she is. Hopefully the big bad scary Master impression will evaporate quickly, at least before He needs to visit the dentist! -keeperslilslave Ambition and drive are the keys to success and the knowledge that you are capable of anything that Master asks. Edited 20 May 10, 9:01 PM by 281-731-461 23 May 10, 8:24 PM 884-329-195 US(WA), 2 yrs Y! Geminaecho, I agree with what 436-826-332 said about looking at it from a vanilla's point of view. In a vanilla world, it's called domestic violence and the actions are not done with consent. It's neat to hear that you two laugh about it now. I must admit that I giggled when I read the reply regarding who gave them the right to have them behave that way! 884-329-195 3 Jun 10, 11:05 PM marysOwner US(HI), 2 yrs Y! On the flip side, we'd be surprised how many in our lifestyle are out there. My slave/wife was at one of the activities my kids go to. Another mom walked up to my slave and asked if her collar has any significant meaning. When my slave informed her it has meaning, the other mom asked if it represented ownership. My slave acknowledged the collar shows ownership and this other mom confessed that she was an owned sub as well. So don't think that no one but vanillas see these activities go on out in public. The art of life lies in taking pleasures as they pass, and the keenest pleasures are not intellectual, nor are they always moral. - Aristippus