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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "Other Women - how do i ask Master properly?" Other Women - how do i ask Master properly? (9) This post is on the O&P web board. Mon 3 May 10, 1:14 AM 321-347-898 CA, 2 yrs £ i am an unowned slave - but i am in a relationship with a Master - for whom i have petitioned. He has not acknowledge nor accepted it... but i am hopeful that one day the time will come where he will want more. He has asked me to be faithful to him -- to be exclusively monogomous. We both have had STD testing... and have ditched the use of condoms (unless i was a bad slave - as bareback is a reward for me). Neither of us have trusted partners in the past to do this for a variety of reasons. However, i do feel myself getting jealous and suspicious of Master these days. Women are constantly calling him on his cell during the day and evening... texting him... and even he goes out to concerts, etc. with them. Until this w/e we have had a LD relationship and i assumed he was sleeping with other women - although i have been scared to death he has been jeopardizing my health and welfare in doing so. i am scared to bring it up to him... so i make jokes about his dating of other women... and so on. i addressed the concert thing and he told me that my "imagination" was working overtime... and that i was silly for thinking the two of them were having sex. The truth is everytime i try to bring up the discussion regarding sexual monogomy (his not mine) he changes the subject or flat out just stares at me not saying anything until i withdraw the question. i don't know what to do. i know Master is in control - and allowed to do whatever he wants and i don't own him... but i have a right to know if he is sleeping with anyone else since my health is at stake here. What do i do? Edited Mon 3 May 10, 1:17 AM by 321-347-898 3 May 10, 2:30 AM Kanina PT, 4 yrs Well ask him until he answers, its your health and life at risck, if he is really spleeping with them, and with that behavior affect you, you should get him to talk to you, nothing is more important then your life... Non nobis domine non nobis sed nomini tuo da gloriam 3 May 10, 3:43 AM Master_IanNZ NZ, 2 yrs I agree with Kanina, your safety is number one priority and this situation rings serious alarm bells for me. It's not so much that your Master may choose to see/sleep with others (that is over to your Master), but the part that concerns me is that in that context you are at risk of STD's/HIV etc - something that should not be taken lightly. Talk to him, one hopes that he'll listen. Good luck, Master_IanNZ 4 May 10, 9:49 AM Beardedknight US(AR), 2 yrs Y! Master_IanNZ wrote: I agree with Kanina, your safety is number one priority and this situation rings serious alarm bells for me. It's not so much that your Master may choose to see/sleep with others (that is over to your Master), but the part that concerns me is that in that context you are at risk of STD's/HIV etc - something that should not be taken lightly. Talk to him, one hopes that he'll listen. Good luck, Master_IanNZ I have to agree with Master_IanNZ. It is your life and first and foremost you are responsible for it. From what I have read it seems you believe he is "sleeping around". Whether that is a red flag for you or not isn't the point, the point is that you do believe he is putting your life at risk because of his behavior. So, what it comes down to is: do you take the responsibility for your life back and go back to "No Glove, No Love!" Which may threaten your relationship. Or do you continue to put your life in his hands, so to speak, while hoping for the best. Or you can confront him openly and honestly which are two of the most important aspects of any relationship; open and honest communication. No matter your choice, I wish you the best of luck and life. With respect, Sir Tim the Beardedknight 4 May 10, 12:34 PM SirSeven 3 yrs 321-347-898 wrote: i don't know what to do. i know Master is in control - and allowed to do whatever he wants and i don't own him... but i have a right to know if he is sleeping with anyone else since my health is at stake here. What do i do? If I were in your situation, I would do one of the following: require a condom or other safe-sex measures abstain from sex until you are certain that he is not placing your health (and his) at risk by sleeping around with other women Having unprotected sex with him while you suspect he's sleeping around and his apparent unwillingness to come clean with you about what he's doing are red flags that shouldn't be ignored. Good luck, Sir Seven 4 May 10, 1:59 PM slave_of_The_Tesh US(FL), 2 yrs I agree with the above; employ safe-sex measures or abstain from sex until you are certain that he isn't sleeping around. If he IS sleeping around, and that's not a problem for you, then be sure to stick to the safe sex practices. "The truth is everytime i try to bring up the discussion regarding sexual monogomy (his not mine) he changes the subject or flat out just stares at me not saying anything until i withdraw the question." THIS line concerns me. If he isn't willing to have an open discussion with you about it, it feels (to me) like he's either got something to hide or he's trying to make you feel ashamed for being concerned about wanting to care for your health. I suggest that you ask him for a time to talk where you can speak without repercussions. This is one of those discussions that you should be able to have without fear of being reprimanded or punished. You need honesty here - not just want, but need. It IS your right to know for sure if he's with other women, and it is your health (and his) that he's putting in jeopardy if he is sleeping with others, especially if he's not being safe about it. Perhaps don't don't be accusatory, or he may go on the defensive, but make sure that he understands your concern and that you need honesty. Edited to add: I forgot to say this: STD screening should be done routinely, but more often if there are multiple partners. If he is sleeping with other women, even if he's being safe about it, both of you should be tested at least once a year. It seems to me that the issue isn't whether he's sleeping around - it's whether he's telling you about it, which he really should. His Beloved Owned and loved by The_Tesh This post has probably been edited for spelling/grammar because I'm weird like that. Edited 4 May 10, 5:40 PM by slave_of_The_Tesh 4 May 10, 2:43 PM 978-291-889 2 yrs 321-347-898 wrote: Other Women - how do i ask Master properly? i am an unowned slave - but i am in a relationship with a Master - for whom i have petitioned. He has not acknowledge nor accepted it... but i am hopeful that one day the time will come where he will want more. He has asked me to be faithful to him -- to be exclusively monogomous. We both have had STD testing... and have ditched the use of condoms (unless i was a bad slave - as bareback is a reward for me). Neither of us have trusted partners in the past to do this for a variety of reasons. (snipped) ...so i make jokes about his dating of other women... and so on. i addressed the concert thing and he told me that my "imagination" was working overtime... and that i was silly for thinking the two of them were having sex. The truth is everytime i try to bring up the discussion regarding sexual monogomy (his not mine) he changes the subject or flat out just stares at me not saying anything until i withdraw the question. While i agree with what others have posted - your health is paramount and you have a right to know, a part of me wonders if you are being tested by your Master. You have both been for STI screening and say neither of you have trusted partners in the past - is it possible that your Master is NOT putting your health at risk? He has said your 'imagination was working over time' - it could be he isn't sleeping with others, or if he is, he is taking the necessary precautions for himself and you. Could it be when he stares at you or changes the subject when you question him, he has put your mind at rest once (by going for screening) and is asking you to trust him and show this trust by not doubting him? Just a thought... Respectfully 978-291-889 The cuffs and ropes might have to be removed in the morning... but the bonds of love stretch as far as 2 people can roam. 7 May 10, 12:32 AM 321-347-898 CA, 2 yrs £ i think you are definitely onto something here. Sir absolutely is trying to cultivate trust with me. And he gives me the same "glare" every time i remind him of the "other" women in his life ... that he is a player, etc. Upon reflection - it does all seem like one big test. He always is upfront with me about who He is seeing... and when... and gives me all the details under the sun about what happened that evening. He is very honest with me. And expects the same in return i imagine. Master gives me his health as much as i do Him. And to the other posters -- there are NO precautions if you are having unprotected sex with someone. Condoms break. With Sir and i that actually happened to us quite a bit at first. Master is also a very wealth man -- and has NEVER trusted a woman with the keys to the "empire" as he has me. I guess... that unto itself is a HUGE leap of trust. I mean i could get pregnant tomorrow ... It is that trust that keeps me going with Sir. That keeps me hopeful that He wouldn't hurt me. He is the one that asked for sexual monogamy - not i. i find it impossible to trust the fact that a man could ever be. i don't mean that as a criticism... it is just pain from my past that i have earned the hardest way possible. Thank you for your response. Has given me much to think about. 7 May 10, 12:37 AM 321-347-898 CA, 2 yrs £ Where my confusion lies... and this stirs my insecurity... is that every so often Sir will use condoms with me. And to be honest it freaks me the hell out. After some reflection i have come to the conclusion it is one of 2 things: 1) bareback sex is a reward for me 2) stamina requires he wears condoms #2 is true - believe me - a lesson we have learned over the past 8 months. When i mis-behave he takes the bareback away... and that is his liberty to take. Just this past evening we discussed his dating methodology... and he mentioned he was a serial monogomist. That he dates only 1 woman at a time. And that at present ... he has found everything he wants with me. Unfortunately, my Master is a savant... and also VERY charming (as all good Masters are). So i tend to read charm in a cynical manner and equate it to promiscuity in a man. i am trying to let go and trust him -- but i am not there yet and Sir knows it. 15 May 10, 6:49 AM 220-430-196 US(WI), 2 yrs Good luck in your search for the trust you are seeking. i too had questions about my Master seeing others when we were first together. i gave Him my faith and my question was answered not long ago during a punishment He devised for me. i had never been with a woman and Master decided that my punishment for being disobedient would be to have another woman use my body in all ways possible from the neck down. i had to post an ad and then turn any information on promising replies over to Him. Master made the arrangements with the one W/we had chosen and then tormented me with hints of what she would do to me. i was blindfolded and tied to the bed when she arrived and truly was used long and hard. Master had the final say as to what would be allowed and truly enjoyed watching me respond to her touch and toys before using me Himself. i had told Him that her Sir would not allow any interaction between T/them since He would not be present. i will admit i liked knowing that, but better yet was when Master said it didn't matter, He only wants me. So be patient and eventually your Master may set your mind at ease about the monogomy, even if it comes about in an unusual way. As for health concerns, since this is a real reason to worry, gently in a non-confrontational way, request that your mind be put at ease as to whether your health is being put at risk, but it sounds more like He is seeing if your trust is real...especially since He gives you all the details about His evenings out.