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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "If romantic first, how was M/s introduced?" 1 2 If romantic first, how was M/s introduced? (16) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 3 Jul 10, 12:39 AM 151-436-533 2 yrs well me and my slave start it as lovers, she is in a relationship as i am, we both love each other she confide it in me that she likes to be dominated by a man but her man is not that way, once she find out i was a master she ask me if she could become my slave, we are romantic, but she understand im her lord and master, she obeys me, let me show her how to be a slave, and she submited with all her love, if u know he cant and wont be ur master u cant be together cause u will allways be looking for that dominant male, is ur choice where u stay or go, u cant be happy if he is not the type u want, if u want to know more just contact my slave, she is willing to give u advice and tells u how she is copyng with her status as a lover and slave 5 Jul 10, 2:58 AM Lord_Uther UK, 6 yrs tina_209_847_694 wrote: If romantic first, how was M/s introduced? i am going to post this here because of the previous post discussion on romantic or M/s first. If you were romantic first, or married, how was the topic first brought up and by whom? i ask because i am married, and i know i am a slave and that's how i want to live. and we are currently separated due to many issues but are going to therapy to at least try. but i need him to know what i am and give him the opportunity to decide for himself if he wants to try to be my Master. and honestly i don't know if he is dominant enough to do this . so i am just wondering how other romantic first couples introduced the lifestyle to the other. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Might I suggest that you start off just by being very submissive? If he asks you to make him a cup of coffee you immediately reply 'Yes Dear!', then when you bring it to Him 'Your coffee Sir' with a sly sexy wink. Stroke His ego, His sense of Master in His own environment In the bedroom discuss His fantasies, & begin to enact them, keeping the emphasis on Him. See how He responds to this. If well take it a bit further, then maybe bring up the subject. Maybe suggest you prefer a more traditional role where the man is in charge, and His word is final. I think if you follow your instincts you'll know where to take it and how far. And let's be honest most men like to think they're in charge anyway My apologies just realised you are separated. For some reason that didn't register when I 1st read it. My point still stands but obviously some of the suggestion won't. My name is Lord Uther, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair! Edited 5 Jul 10, 3:33 AM by Lord_Uther 5 Jul 10, 10:14 PM gothixsslave US(CA), 4 yrs My Daddy and I were married for 7 years before it came up. Daddy has always been kinda dominate and wanted me to submit to him. He told me he needed this and that's where we started going on 2 1/2 yrs 6 Jul 10, 12:15 AM Pointingnorth US(FL), 6 yrs Y! concise wrote: Hello, New to the boards so hello. First of all and I mean no disrespect but how do you know you are a slave? Have you tried this before with someone else? I know this will start a whole back and forth and totally distract from what the OP is looking for. That said this is one of those moments. concise asked how do you know your a slave infering that if you hadn't done it before you couldn't know. I would put this to anyone with a job. How did you know you could be a Doctor, Fly the Space Shuttle, a Sanatation Engineer (Garbageman), Household Technician (Maid), or a Fast Food worker if you had never done it before. As for me and my girl and it all started rather unintentionally. We had only known each other a short while, month or two, She was having a bad day and I trying to be generous gave her the key to my apartment so she had a place to stay. I have been in the lifestyle for a long time and at that point didn't know if she was interested in any of that or not. I had forgotten that I hadn't closed the closet door in my bedroom (where I told her she could stay). So when she got there and happen to look in she saw all my implements of destruction and toys. So it "broke the ice" for me as it were. Best of luck in your endeaour to find peace of mind, body, and soul NORTH 13 Jul 10, 8:12 PM 514-276-417 US(MI), 22 mths tina, I am also new here, so hello! I'm a little nervous, actually, so bear with me! I found myself wondering much the same thing as the original poster on this thread. The fact that your husband and yourself are separated rather complicates matters but Lord Uther, I think, came up with a pretty satisfactory solution for submissives in a similar (but unseparated) situation. I'm really sorry that things don't seem to be working out very well right now but I hope that things change for you, so you and your husband can grow together again. When I try to act lovely and gracious and solicitous the natural Master in my husband comes out--whether or not he is aware that that's what it is. For me, he doesn't need to adopt a title if it makes him uncomfortable to do so. It might not work for you, but I found it to be a really effective, if indirect, course of action to fulfil my desire to serve. 22 Jul 10, 5:44 AM tia1982 AU, 2 yrs My Sir had been into this for over 20yrs of varying degree's. I was new to this when we started dating 5mths ago (we've been living together 3mths now!). Some of the signs/things that happened to get where we are now: First night together I put my hands above my head, he liked that and it's something I've always done without thinking about. There is a movie (The Secretary - bdsm sub-story to it) which he owned - doesn't own many - and I saw it and loved it before I met him. I told him this and I guess it gave him an insight into me. Apart from that there was lots of little comments in the first 2 months (ie about tying up or flogging) or he'd say 'you're probably going to go running screaming when I say this..' but when he'd say something about BDSM I would be like 'Yeah, ok' or 'sounds good to me'. I think he was a bit blown away that he didn't scare me off, but I've always been open minded. I showed him a movie (EuroTrip) the other night, and there is a BDSM scene in amsterdam I absolutely love - have since before I met him. I think he's really realising that I have had these tendencies and some exposure in a way for some time. It's been great starting out as a 'couple' and introducing that, as we've got very similar tastes and I've been able to grow and learn with him. When he's been away for holidays (weekend or 2wks) I like researching on the internet and it really pleases him. A few weeks ago I had a little freak out after some flogging (should have said safe word but didnt want to disappoint him - have learnt now!) and he even offered to be a normal couple and forget all this - that really meant so much to me. I love this part of who I am, and I am definitely a nicer person being his sub, so wouldn't want to change a thing.