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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "Long distance M/s relationship" Long distance M/s relationship (5) This post is on the O&P web board. Fri 16 Apr 10, 1:58 AM 517-431-011 US, 2 yrs My Master and I are both new to the scene. We have been together for about 7 years but only in the last 5 mos or so have gotten started actually doing M/s. Ive read and studied and he has some also. Right now he is at a distance and its hard on me. He tries his best to stay stern and treat me like his slave but he gets distracted. I know I shouldn't, but then i act out trying to get the attention of my Master. What Im trying to find out is how can he from the distance show his ownership of me? We will be doing a tatoo soon for marking and he will be moving here soon but in the mean time I would like to find ways for him to show his ownership. Any suggestions on how to keep our M/s relationship strong with distance??? Thanks for any help. 16 Apr 10, 2:12 AM Kay_kay US(NY), 3 yrs You might not like my answer but the first place you need to work on for his ownership in a long distance relationship is in your head. Develop a little voice in your head, when you start acting out remind yourself that that's not you. You are his slave and to be his good slave you must be honest and obedient even when he can't watch you all the time. It is easy to let it slip from real submissiveness to lying and pretendign because there is the mind set of 'how's he going to find out?' But that mind set is disrespectful of him and of yourself. Remind yoursel fthat you are his whether he can see you or not. A physical reminder might be good...maybe a heavy bracelet you can wear all teh time or a collar if you two have reached that point, special earrings you only wear when he's away, writign a littel note for him in an email every day, you might also ask him for a to do list every day, make sure he's in your various profiles online, set up a new email address that denotes that you belong to him in soem way. In long distance, you have to be creative and if you will truly be a slave in long distance, you must have a lot of self discipline in yourself. However, there is a reward in this. If you can be obedient in his abscence, how much easier will it be when he's there and how much more proud will he be at the fact he can trust you. He doesn't have to worry about coming home unexpectedly and find his slave completely out of training. 25 Apr 10, 3:59 AM His_little_one 3 yrs Can I just say my master just moved away to start a new business 2 weeks ago and ever since then I've been resentful and acting out. I know how you feel by him getting distracted. Its tough. We've been in this type relationship and M/s since day one and I find it terribly difficult to maintain that feeling. You're not alone : ( good luck with your relationship 25 Apr 10, 6:37 AM Footcandle US(AZ), 2 yrs Long distance is very difficult. My owner and I did it for a year. I will share a few things with you, I hope you find them helpful. He had an anklet that could not be removed placed on me as a constant reminder that I was in service to him. He also set me up with a set of cuffs and chain so that I could chain myself to bed at night just as if he were there. If there was something I wanted to do I would always call and ask permission. Little things helped but nothing made it easy. Devotion and patience made it worth the wait to be together in the end and I never had to look back and regret my behavior while we were apart. Just remember if you want to please and serve him you will remain obedient even in his abscence. Acting out will not do anything but cause more complications in the long run. 27 Apr 10, 9:45 AM slave_carol 2 yrs Kay_Kay, I appreciate your post. My Master and I met online and live a few hundred miles apart. I am new to the M/s lifestyle. My Master has required me to perform acts of submission that I did happily. He was very pleased. And knowing in my heart that I'm not "pretending" to submit, but truly am, gives me a clear conscience. As time goes on, however, I might find myself becoming lax in my servanthood. IF that does happen, I'll keep your great advice in mind. I think actually wearing something such as a heavy bracelet would be a great reminder that I am owned by him. I am not ready to be collared yet, so that would be a great option temporarily. Thank you so much for the insight! 27 Apr 10, 2:21 PM sweetgirl US(TX), 4 yrs Thank you all so much for the post i had been searching for thoose kind of answers my Master/Husband is a truckdriver so i have thoose feelings too. The one thing He has one me is that many of times he will drop in while passing through and suprise i had better be in line. Anyway thank all of you! The slave seated at the feet of my Master.To be pushed and used as he sees fit.