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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "collars" 1 2 collars (20) This post is on the O&P web board. Fri 19 Mar 10, 7:02 PM 309-373-611 UK, 23 mths I'm new to this I've seen a few collars which I've liked very much although I'm not technically a slave to a Mistress or Master is it acceptable to wear a collar even though your not owned by a Master or Mistress 309-373-611 I've been such a naughty person over the last few weeks now but having no Master to punish me, Has anyone got any ideas of what punishment I could give myself as a reminder of my status as a Slave 19 Mar 10, 7:57 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs Lots of people wear collars as a fashion accessory. You can wear what you want but if you are considering it to show your status as a slave, you may be seen as misleading. Also, if you are looking for a Master/Misstress, you might be putting yourself off limits. No M type (one worth having anyways) will approach a sub/slave who appears to belong to another. A collar given to a sub/slave, has a meaning behind it and is a symbol. It shows an ownership. Seeing this post and your previous one, you may benefit from doing some research on what this lifestyle is really about. Research, read and read some more. The seach on this site can help as well, there are many, many threads that may help you learn. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown 19 Mar 10, 8:23 PM 562-470-768 2 yrs how about wearing a little cat collar around your arm or ankle ... to help you feel inwardly connected to your attitude towards being subservient? We are all vanilla to some degree - for society will keep a foothold in our lives. We are all Dom/mes or slave/sub on some level, as there is ALWAYS someone weaker or stronger than you... 20 Mar 10, 7:52 AM Exalia43 23 mths You can wear the collar! Show your status as a "non owened slave" by a label or a padlock with the key in! M. Exalia http://img.slaveregister.com/icons/shield-female... 20 Mar 10, 11:39 AM FaolanUK UK, 5 yrs I agree with Exalia43. You can wear a collar if you so wish. One of the things that's so fun about kink and BDSM is that there aren't any rules (well less rules anyway lol). This lifestyle can be whatever you want it to be and, until you're owned, you set your own rules. As for putting prospective owners off, PAH! lol I have NEVER seen a Dominant(e) put off approaching a submissive to chat to him/her as long as the situation was appropriate, it's usually quite obvious who has an owner and who doesn't and if you talk to a submissive and he/she's forbidden to talk to others they'll let you know. You might wish to put an id disc on your collar with the appropriate symbol engraved on it (http://www.cafepress.co.uk/slaveregister/1743036) but don't let anyone say you have to. As for pretending you have an owner, why not? 90% of the subs/slaves on collerme.com pretend to have an owner to keep the bar flies off, it does no harm. Most of what we do in BDSM is the enactment of fantasies why shouldn't you indulge your fantasy to be owned if you wish. BDSM is SUPPOSED to be fun, it's a lifestyle, agreed but I don't believe it's a religion. It seems, as it's popularity has risen, to have attracted a minority of zealouts who, not only, have a set of strict restrictions for how they live their lives but seem to think that YOU should live your life by their rules too. 20 Mar 10, 1:08 PM fireflies US(TX), 4 yrs Personally, i think that you buying and wearing a collar will send the right signals to a prospective Master who you might meet at a social function. He would see your collar an possibly stike up a conversation with you, whereas He may have never taken a second look at you without wearing one. When you are eventually acquired, and you will be some day soon i hope, your Master will give you His collar He wants you to wear. So for now, yes get yourself a collar and start wearing it! i am my Master's tattooed and pierced slave. i am His, He owns ALL of me, i do everything i can everyday to please and make Him happy. 20 Mar 10, 4:42 PM goreankajira US(OH), 4 yrs Y! Personally while you can wear anything you want i find it disrespectful to sub/slaves out there that have earned their Masters collar and by wearing it as fetish wear not only sends the wrong signals to potential Masters but makes me wonder if you truly understand what a collar means and represents. Masters collar is something that i take pride in wearing as it belongs to Him and he is my universe. For U/us it symbolizes a relationship that will endure through this lifetime and beyond, much more significant than any wedding ring could say. Edited 20 Mar 10, 4:43 PM by goreankajira 20 Mar 10, 5:47 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs FaolanUK wrote: BDSM is SUPPOSED to be fun, it's a lifestyle, agreed but I don't believe it's a religion. It seems, as it's popularity has risen, to have attracted a minority of zealouts who, not only, have a set of strict restrictions for how they live their lives but seem to think that YOU should live your life by their rules too. I don't see where anyone has said the OP should live by others rules. I, certainly did not say that. I said the OP could wear whatever they want to and gave my opinion otherwise. While my Master may have some restrictions on my life, we are certainly not zealots! Yes, this is a lifestyle and those in each relationship, no matter what type, will live it as they, or their D/M/O sees fit. Who said anything about religion? I don't see any references to anyones dynamic being the divine end all. My religion has nothing to do with BDSM and I would bet that the same could be said for many on this site. As I was the only one, who up to this point in the thread, gave an "opinion" of maybe not wearing a collar while unowned, I am taking a guess that this is directed towards me. You are entitled to your opinion just as I am to mine but please don't assume you know anything about what others lives may entail. Enjoy your weekend. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away - unknown Edited 21 Mar 10, 2:38 AM by 333-528-841 20 Mar 10, 8:02 PM naughtyslave US, 2 yrs Was wondering if you have considered wearing cuffs to make you feel connected to your new lifestyle. i have seen some that look like braclets but will still give you the rush of the naughty little secret. i understand totally the excitement of wanting to wear the collar. i miss mine terribly. i am still in pocession of it and could easily slip it on my neck. however i worked very hard to receive that collar.the pride i felt when it was put on my neck was far greater then anything i had ever expected to feel.due to the removal of it i wear it on my wrist to feel connected.it is truly your decission to make but i think you will find it will mean way more to you if you wait to recieve it from your future owner. just my opinion, for what ever thats worth, take care, naughty 21 Mar 10, 12:08 AM curious_bina US(TN), 2 yrs In this slave's opinion, unless you don't want to look for a relationship you probably shouldn't put a collar on. Would you tag an unowned pet? It's just misleading. It's a good tactic though if you want to just learn, and don't want to be owned by any D/O/M. -s Always the curious one ~ s 21 Mar 10, 3:40 AM mamabear NL, 2 yrs I'd have to agree with "Owned", Curious", and "JJs". My understanding is that a collar is a direct signal..."Hey, I'm taken back off" . Obviously, you can do as you wish, but it seems that in most D/s circles...the collar is much like a wedding ring in a vanilla relationship. I have known a few in vanilla relationships that are unmarried that wear a ring...to either keep away unwanted prospects or as waiters/waitresses who think it'll get them extra tips (family to support...old trick)...I've also seen these same people complain when they can't get a date. I'm very proud to be wearing my Master's collar, because it's His. If I used it simply as a fashion accessory and not as the symbol I see to be, it would lose all meaning. It'd just be a piece of jewelry. Just my opinion, though. Edited 21 Mar 10, 3:41 AM by mamabear Next page