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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "privacy" 1 2 3 privacy (27) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sun 7 Feb 10, 2:51 AM jakesemma US(WA), 4 yrs Y! does your Master have access to everything that is private, and personal, and even possibly sacred to your personal/professional identity? from your email, fetlife, messengers, bank account, credit card info etc? does your Master have control over those type of things as well? Does your Master have a say over your children, your job, what kind of car you drive, or other personal aspects of your life? Do you have any secrets or things you choose not to tell them? (not because they don't want to know, but just assume they don't want to know, or maybe your scared to share?) Was there any invasions of privacy that was incredibly hard for you to give up when you went into a M/s relationship? if so, what was it and why was it so hard for you to open up that part of your life to someone else? 7 Feb 10, 3:20 AM goreankajira US(OH), 4 yrs Y! Master has access to everything, i dont have any bank accounts and things like that so thats not an issue. i dont have any secrets or anything i keep from Master, i have no reason to, plus wouldnt that just ruin the whole point of trust in the relationship? 7 Feb 10, 3:25 AM slave_of_The_Tesh US(FL), 2 yrs jakesemma wrote: does your Master have access to everything that is private, and personal, and even possibly sacred to your personal/professional identity? from your email, fetlife, messengers, bank account, credit card info etc? does your Master have control over those type of things as well? He has access to all of those things, but He seldom bothers to look into it. jakesemma wrote: Does your Master have a say over your children, your job, what kind of car you drive, or other personal aspects of your life? He has a say over them to certain points. We share childrearing equally. He doesn't seem to care much about my job, but requests that I tell Him if/when a customer is hitting on me (I always tell him). I had the car before I met Him and have no means to replace it - besides, it's the only size car I *can* drive, with our son's wheelchair to transport. Even if He hated it, I have no choice to drive something that size because of the equipment that has to go back and forth between school, therapy, home, and the other places we go. jakesemma wrote: Do you have any secrets or things you choose not to tell them? (not because they don't want to know, but just assume they don't want to know, or maybe your scared to share?) I have no secrets from Master. I've told him everything, mostly just in regular conversation. jakesemma wrote: Was there any invasions of privacy that was incredibly hard for you to give up when you went into a M/s relationship? if so, what was it and why was it so hard for you to open up that part of your life to someone else? The hardest part was, and still is, giving up complete control. Having been abused before, it's hard to trust someone entirely with that, even when logically I know he won't abuse that trust. There's a lot of control that I still maintain, mostly owing to the independence I still have by living apart from him and the things that have to get done when we aren't together (work, son's doctor and school appointments, etc). I'm sure that will gradually change, over more time and with different living arrangements. His Beloved Owned and loved by The_Tesh This post has probably been edited for spelling/grammar because I'm weird like that. 7 Feb 10, 3:49 AM 976-188-983 US(ID), 3 yrs I am in a poly household with my Sir and my husband and my Sir has more access to my personal life than my husband does. My Sir has access to all aspects of my life that he wants to have. I have no secrets from him, even my beliefs are there for him to praise or critisize as he so chooses. I hold a joint bank account with Sir so yeah he has access to my money. As far as internet stuff, he has full access when he chooses but he doesn't bother with it very often. Yes he does have control over how I deal with my kids although he chooses not to take too much control over what I do with mine and my husbands kids. There are no secrets between us. I sometimes hesitate to say things that I know will upset him but I will eventually tell him everything. Not really, the hardest part for me to give up was my emotional privacy. I'm a very private person emotionally and don't take easily to telling someone how I feel about everyday or major things that happen. Baby In his eyes I am lost, In his arms I am found, In his soul I am content. Kore ga Watashi no Goshujin-sama 7 Feb 10, 4:10 AM Umbramajoris_01 US(AL), 2 yrs Y! I have full access to everything with My slave. I HAVE to. She is disabled and I have to have all the information about her I can get,and W/we agreed at collaring that there were to be NO secrets if I was to be able to handle anything that came My way because of her past. I don't go looking for anything either, better to keep the trust factor in O/our relationship. She knows everything that I am doing even typing this post. She knows I want another slave TPE 24/7 and agreed to that on her collaring night. Better to be up front than find that one skeleton that can kill a relationship. 7 Feb 10, 6:02 AM 898-443-818 US, 4 yrs does your Master have access to everything that is private, and personal, and even possibly sacred to your personal/professional identity? *yes from your email, fetlife, messengers, bank account, credit card info etc? *yes does your Master have control over those type of things as well? *yes He does Does your Master have a say over your children, your job, what kind of car you drive, or other personal aspects of your life? *yes Do you have any secrets or things you choose not to tell them? (not because they don't want to know, but just assume they don't want to know, or maybe your scared to share?) *No, on the rare occasion i have tried, He knew Was there any invasions of privacy that was incredibly hard for you to give up when you went into a M/s relationship? if so, what was it and why was it so hard for you to open up that part of your life to someone else? * i don't know about incredibly hard-but the hardest for me was having to learn that i cannot touch my fun parts whenever i want to. Also, before i spend any money. i still struggle with that one. i can honestly say i haven't had any cash on me for more than probably 15 minutes,and only while running an errand for Daddy. i never, ever have any cash without express permission & necessity and that doesn't come up very often. For some reason that was a challenge, i was used to getting spending money out of the bank when i wished to for small things like soda. 7 Feb 10, 9:06 AM Isabella7 UK, 2 yrs Master does not have access to things like my bank account; we have two separate ones. I do have a journal that I keep, and Master does request that I show that to Him, but other than that.... I choose my own career, further education, friends, etc.... From reading other posts in this thread it feels as though my Master is extremely liberal with me. angelbella Edited 7 Feb 10, 9:08 AM by Isabella7 7 Feb 10, 11:43 AM 562-470-768 2 yrs this girl signed a contract with her Master. yes, he has access and control over everything. privacy is not needed and does not exist between us. one imagines is not about 'hiding' but about 'sharing'. Master hardly look or care to bother with my things - having said that He may do a check every now and again. perhaps this is because she tells him everything anyways. Master tells this girl what to wear (else she'd be naked all the time as she really likes that j/k) and as for our kid - Master does not have/take that kind of control over her as she is to learn for herself what she wants in and from life. she is old enough to understand most aspects and although she is not exposed to the 'hardcore' stuff, she certainly knows our choices and girl thinks she's gearing up to perhaps one day be right Neko Mistress! (j/k) all in all, this girl is not too bothered by it. privacy is a matter of self talk. girl knows that if she wants to have a tantrum or a curse or whatever, she can have it quietly in her head. this happened less and less as time went by to a point now that she actually volunteer stuff to Master without considering it. to this girl, having privacy, these days, feels like neglect. We are all vanilla to some degree - for society will keep a foothold in our lives. We are all Dom/mes or slave/sub on some level, as there is ALWAYS someone weaker or stronger than you... 7 Feb 10, 4:27 PM 000-671-955 CA, 7 yrs Y! 562-470-768 wrote: this girl signed a contract with her Master. yes, he has access and control over everything. privacy is not needed and does not exist between us. one imagines is not about 'hiding' but about 'sharing'. Master hardly look or care to bother with my things - having said that He may do a check every now and again. perhaps this is because she tells him everything anyways. Master tells this girl what to wear (else she'd be naked all the time as she really likes that j/k) and as for our kid - Master does not have/take that kind of control over her as she is to learn for herself what she wants in and from life. she is old enough to understand most aspects and although she is not exposed to the 'hardcore' stuff, she certainly knows our choices and girl thinks she's gearing up to perhaps one day be right Neko Mistress! (j/k) all in all, this girl is not too bothered by it. privacy is a matter of self talk. girl knows that if she wants to have a tantrum or a curse or whatever, she can have it quietly in her head. this happened less and less as time went by to a point now that she actually volunteer stuff to Master without considering it. to this girl, having privacy, these days, feels like neglect. Master and i are married, which might make things a little different in the privacy department, there are day to day functions that must be done, but Master has the last say in how and when. i am responsible for various household duties, which in some cases involve finances, and Master has trusted me to deal with them, but i am to have everything in order if there is question that arises. i have no secrets, and i did sign a contract with specific rules to have our relationship built on, but as we continue on our journey, there are things that can make me wonder what the outcome will be, and thats where being a commited slave comes into the situation. Master expects me to comply without hesitation, but at the same time, He allows me to inquire as to how He would like it done, in this way, i am allowed to somewhat question and understand why He is giving me this command. So as to you question of privacy, i can see how some slaves would want to keep some aspects of their past, or fears of other things to themselves, but i also feel that if their Master's have a good knowledge of their slave, He can either use it for His own reason, or expand upon to help overcome whatever the problem was. i am sure that every slave might have a deep secret that their Master might not know of, but if they are keeping things from Him, then it is like leading a separate life, and not being fully commited to what Master has for them both. Hope this sheds some light on the topic, or just opens the thread for more discussion. Master's "o" 671955 7 Feb 10, 6:04 PM fireflies US(TX), 4 yrs i have no secrets from my Master as it makes it easier to remember what i have told Him! Over the years He has asked me about the intimate details of my sex life before Him and i have been completely truthful. i am actually happier in my life, with Him in control of me. He controls all finances, even though i pay the bills and i have a job. my pay is directly deposited into our joint account, but He gives me spending money for groceries and lunch much like a 50's household . i do not buy anything for myself without asking Him first. He has a say in the parenting of my children and has been a very good influence on them. They have grown up in a very loving household where the man is in charge and the wife serves Him first and makes sure that He is happy and taken care of. The hardest thing i found to do has also been mentioned above and that was losing control over my own body. i am not allowed to cum or touch myself unless He gives me permission. i must ask permission to shower and use the bathroom every time i want to go, even at work. He allows me to go at work when i need to, but have to send Him an e-mail asking for permission. This has me thinking of Him even doing something simple as patting myself dry when i pee. i am my Master's tattooed and pierced slave. i am His, He owns ALL of me, i do everything i can everyday to please Him. 7 Feb 10, 7:04 PM 562-470-768 2 yrs after all this time, the hardest thing for this girl is the begging. she can ask (this took a LONG time to acomplish!) as she was very much used to being in control (having 5 younger brothers and a non-maternal mother tends to do that to one).. she was used not to asking for help. now she asks more regularly, but begging ... *sigh* girl cannot seem to verbally formulate the words. she knows very well how to beg with her body, her eyes, her movements and even in writing, but verbally she is YET to beg. Master is a patient man though ... but girl cannot help but feel that she dissapoints him on those ocasions. We are all vanilla to some degree - for society will keep a foothold in our lives. 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