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	TSR : Web boards : Internal Enslavement : "What do you think?" What do you think? (6) This post is on the Internal Enslavement web board. Sat 6 Feb 10, 6:18 PM Geminaecho CA, 2 yrs My pup and I were having a discussion this morning, and one of his worries about giving himself fully (which he has done totally as of now) is that he will become engrossed with the ability of serving Me to the point where if something (God forbid) ever happened to Me, he wouldn't know what to do. he is worried that he will lose his ability to function as a normal person after years of servitude. It reminds Me slightly of Stockholm syndrome but less severe. Has anyone ever thought about the psychological effects of servitude after many years of service? Just curious as to some of your opinions, especially from a slave's perspective. Angel Eyes 6 Feb 10, 8:35 PM ravenkaldera US(MA), 6 yrs That is a definite possibility. Owners need to think ahead and figure out what they're going to do if they do go down. So it's on you to create a plan for him that would support him emotionally and slowly wean him back to coping with life alone. So that part's on you, your responsibility. He'll surrender easier if he knows he's taken care of, even after your death. -Raven Kaldera -If you're in charge, it's all on your head. If it's not all on your head, then you're not really in charge. 6 Feb 10, 8:43 PM jakesemma US(WA), 4 yrs Y! Setting up life insurance policies and making sure he has a support network for emotional support and helping him get back on his feet is a wise decision. I had skills, and the ability to care for myself prior to being with my Owner. He's ingraining me to depend on him so much that at this point I would be a wreck if he died. However, he's also made sure that there are people he trusts who could emotionally support me and help me get into a rhythm of functioning on my own again if something happened to him. 6 Feb 10, 10:02 PM 562-470-768 2 yrs /me smiles this girl would offer that perhaps the soul in questions should realise that on a bizarre level, the human instinct is to survive. one may find oneself at the mercy of depression or such, but certainly, a owner will make sure that on some level there is 'after care' for the soul. be it with friends, family or professional. giving so completely is certain that it takes a very strong mind, strong soul, to give oneself so completely, and thus, there will be a very strong survival instinct in such a (horrible!) event. as with any relationship, there are never any garuantees... one has to place one's trust first in oneself, before one can place that trust in another. this girl would however, urge, respectfully, any owner who is in a long-term lifestyle habit, to consider the 'after care' plans and procedures. support is at the focal point, perhaps. 1. Owner could make sure that there is an appointed, trusted friend or family member who would take the soul under their protection for a duration of time. 2. Owner could make sure there is sufficient medical (*mental included) cover for a recomended professional. (by this, girl means to say, that a sum of money can be paid to a councillor - for instance- for medical care, and teh soul be instructed to attend.) 3. Owner could make sure there is a rather direct, and inclusive 'final orders' in a testament or with a trusted friend or family member. this is to be given or read to the soul. this girl feels that the soul would honor their owner's instruction even after they are 'gone'. this would also give the soul something to focus on, and have validation that they are what they are... but not helpless. this girl thinks that if one continues to think along these lines... it would be good for any soul that is/was owned, and although it will not stop them from feeling hurt, pained, aching and perhaps even a little 'lost' it may just help them to kickstart their survival instinct. We are all vanilla to some degree - for society will keep a foothold in our lives. We are all Dom/mes or slave/sub on some level, as there is ALWAYS someone weaker or stronger than you... 7 Feb 10, 12:58 AM 842-520-015 US, 4 yrs Y! This is a very good thread. As with any relationship, separation which could include death is very difficult time. A natural grieving process kicks in however due to the dynamics of the D/s & M/s relationships it may be more difficult to handle then a "vanilla" one. Having a support system such as family and friends and yes even some counseling might be in order to help with the process and be able to move on in life. As a slave myself and being in a TPE relationship, i can see where feeling lost and not sure of what to do next might happen should something happen to my Master. But I also think that after some time, as was said earlier my natural instinct would kick in and I'd be able to move on in my life 8 Feb 10, 1:54 PM 300-168-896 CA, 2 yrs Y! This slave was wondering as well, what becomes of the slave from a psychological / emotional perspective if the Master drops the slave, trades him away or even lends him to another Master.My Master and I separated recently when Sir told me that He wanted to explore a submissive side of Himself by becoming a bottom for a straight man! I couldn't believe my ears! This is a man who I fell in love with and adored and taught me His daily routine of how I should serve Him. Naturally I miss Him as I love Him very much but I miss domestic service as well. Thank goodness I have a psychologist who is helping get back on my feet as a "free" man. I hate it! 8 Feb 10, 2:30 PM 562-470-768 2 yrs 300-168-896 wrote: This slave was wondering as well, what becomes of the slave from a psychological / emotional perspective if the Master drops the slave, trades him away or even lends him to another Master.My Master and I separated recently when Sir told me that He wanted to explore a submissive side of Himself by becoming a bottom for a straight man! I couldn't believe my ears! This is a man who I fell in love with and adored and taught me His daily routine of how I should serve Him. Naturally I miss Him as I love Him very much but I miss domestic service as well. Thank goodness I have a psychologist who is helping get back on my feet as a "free" man. I hate it! *hugs* is all this girl can offer you on this matter. it is a sad sad state of affairs when this sort of thing happens. this girl would imagine that perhaps your Master was not completely honest with himself before he entered into this relationship and by no fault of your own did you get the backburn from it. this girl hopes you recover from this episode and that you find a grand new Master who would absolutely assist in maintaining your mental health. this girl congratulate you though on taking the proper steps in securing your own sanity on this matter, and she knows you will, as with any intense interactions, come to a place and time when you look back on it with more fondness than pain and perhaps even a bit of gleaming pride. in situations like this, it was unforseen in some ways, and one could not even begin to offer ideas or methods to safeguard against it! We are all vanilla to some degree - for society will keep a foothold in our lives. We are all Dom/mes or slave/sub on some level, as there is ALWAYS someone weaker or stronger than you...