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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "Unwanted advances" 1 2 Unwanted advances (13) This post is on the O&P web board. Thu 4 Feb 10, 6:48 AM Vickie US(WI), 7 yrs Y! This one was wondering how to tell off pursuers. This one has been "told" by several persons that this one is theirs although this one is happy in her relationship an has stated it clearly to those who have been pursuing this one. This one is unowned right now and in a somewhat normal relationship. This one wishes to not cause my significant other trouble and the pursuers are making this one stressed out. In bondage I am made free. 4 Feb 10, 7:48 AM Malkinius US(IL), 5 yrs Greetings Vickie.... Vickie wrote: Unwanted advances This one was wondering how to tell off pursuers. This one has been "told" by several persons that this one is theirs although this one is happy in her relationship an has stated it clearly to those who have been pursuing this one. This one is unowned right now and in a somewhat normal relationship. This one wishes to not cause my significant other trouble and the pursuers are making this one stressed out. You just tell them that after you stop laughing at them that the answer would always be no. Anyone who out of no where claims to own you is just either a player or wannabe and will always be a loser. After that just ignore anything they have to say. Usually, if they reply at all they will just insult you and then go away. Laugh at them again and go about your way. Now...about your instantly submitting everything to me......<grins> Be well.... Malkinus 4 Feb 10, 8:03 AM pet_ka_MJ CA, 2 yrs I have a similar problem with unwanted advances from those looking for a slave. I try a polite response first (I'm taken), and if they do not get it after the first initial go round I just block them. Solves the problem permanently. With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate, and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity. - Keshavan Nair 4 Feb 10, 4:53 PM Paper_of_the_Pen CA, 3 yrs Vickie wrote: Unwanted advances This one was wondering how to tell off pursuers. This one has been "told" by several persons that this one is theirs although this one is happy in her relationship an has stated it clearly to those who have been pursuing this one. This one is unowned right now and in a somewhat normal relationship. This one wishes to not cause my significant other trouble and the pursuers are making this one stressed out. Well, some advice I could give would include to put in your info that you are happy and in a relationship and are not looking to be owned. By looking at your profile, I personally, would not have been able to tell that you are not available. Secondly, in your info you put Smoker, and then in brackets that you'd be willing to change for the right Master....that's also a bit misleading when it comes to whether or not your available for ownership. Other than that, say no and if persistent block 'em. 4 Feb 10, 7:15 PM 247-330-189 US(CA), 3 yrs Y! gee , i never get ANY advances! lol.. j/k... why even bother with them??? I dont get being stressed out by that at all, just sayin.... If ever thou be'st bound in thy scarf and beaten, thou shalt find what it is to be proud of thy bondage. William Shakespeare. 4 Feb 10, 8:16 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs Tell them thank you, you are not interested. If they persist,ignore the messages, block them and your problem is solved. You say you are happy in your relationship but you are unowned and are in a somewhat normal relationship. Looking at your profile, you say you would quit smoking for the right Master and a few other things that suggest you are looking. This is definitely sending a mixed message. If you do not want to be persued, you may want to change a few things and state that you are happy and not looking. It may help to remove your messenger addy so you will not be getting unwanted attention and assumptions. Or, do not show your profile as an Advert. You will always get some messages saying you are theirs, that's normal, especially with the scammers, thrill seekers and those who are just plain weird but you cannot really blame Doms/Masters persuing you or sending you messages stating they are looking when you have your Ad worded to give that impression. All the best to you. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away 6 Feb 10, 10:48 PM 562-470-768 2 yrs Master told this girl that 'F*kk off' is not an appropriate response. she would not argue with Master *chuckles* We are all vanilla to some degree - for society will keep a foothold in our lives. We are all Dom/mes or slave/sub on some level, as there is ALWAYS someone weaker or stronger than you... 6 Feb 10, 11:22 PM crystalredroze US(OH), 4 yrs Y! Be honest in a respectful way, that way if later on down the line you decide to find a Master you havent offended anyone that may be interested in you even if they have to wait. ive been taught by Master that being rude or "bitchy" to anyone especially those in the lifestyle is completely unacceptable and reflects on Him. So even though you are not interested in having a D/O/M at this time, dont ruin your future chances by being rude. There is nothing wrong with holding your ground, but thats not being rude. 7 Feb 10, 8:21 AM Master_IanNZ NZ, 2 yrs I would agree, be polite and courteous and simply explain the situation you are in (eg, I'm on a break, or not presently looking etc). For me, I'd rather it be upfront - my time is too precious to be mucked about. Master4whore 7 Feb 10, 8:17 PM curious_bina US(TN), 2 yrs Vickie wrote: Unwanted advances This one was wondering how to tell off pursuers. This one has been "told" by several persons that this one is theirs although this one is happy in her relationship an has stated it clearly to those who have been pursuing this one. This one is unowned right now and in a somewhat normal relationship. This one wishes to not cause my significant other trouble and the pursuers are making this one stressed out. This slave's been told that before too. Just ignore them, and if they persist then tell them nicely you don't want to be owned, or that you are owned (even if you're not, they don't know). Don't let them get to you! Chances are, they've got 20 other subs/slaves to look up on their list. -s Always the curious one ~ s 8 Feb 10, 12:53 AM Master_IanNZ NZ, 2 yrs Curious_s wrote: Vickie wrote: Unwanted advances This one was wondering how to tell off pursuers. This one has been "told" by several persons that this one is theirs although this one is happy in her relationship an has stated it clearly to those who have been pursuing this one. This one is unowned right now and in a somewhat normal relationship. This one wishes to not cause my significant other trouble and the pursuers are making this one stressed out. This slave's been told that before too. Just ignore them, and if they persist then tell them nicely you don't want to be owned, or that you are owned (even if you're not, they don't know). Don't let them get to you! Chances are, they've got 20 other subs/slaves to look up on their list. -s I suppose there are these types of Masters out there, but don't tarnish us all with the same brush (I'm quietly confident that Curious_s doesn't have that intention). As I said earlier, politely saying 'no thanks' works for me [hmmm, this feels like I go around asking anyone and everyone - which I don't!] Master4whore Next page