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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Where I am Led - Assignment #2" Where I am Led - Assignment #2 (4) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sun 31 Jan 10, 9:04 PM 478-003-265 UK, 4 yrs I have looked and can't find a post for this so I will start this one. Following of from Slave saphira's original post on the workbook 'Where I am Led' here is my second writing assignment - Writing Assignment #2 Most Valuable asset 'What do you feel is the most valuable asset you have to offer your Owner? Explain why.' An asset is a hard thing to define; is it physical and tangible or is it something more to do with who you are and what you can offer? I decided to infer that an asset was anything, whether tangible or not, that I could offer my Master and that would be of benefit to him. A few options came to my mind immediately, such as loyalty, respect, devotion, trust, but they all seemed a little clichéd when lined up. I thought long and hard about what it was that I had to offer and what it was I actually offered to him that he couldn't get elsewhere. I can to the conclusion that there was very little that I had that someone else wouldn't, apart from my individuality, thus it is my belief that the most valuable asset I can offer him is my sense of self. Without my sense of self I would not hold the convictions that he finds so endearing, or be the person with whom he chooses to spend his time. I am sure that he could find some of my characteristics and personality traits in others, but he is unlikely to find them all at the same time, in the one person. It is my eagerness to serve and to make him happy that makes me a good submissive/slave to him and it is that that means he, in turn, wants to look after and protect me. It is because I have a strong belief in who I am that I am able to offer him all the other things that are so valued, such as the ones I have listed above as well as stability and support. I am not flippant and I do not change my opinions or beliefs very readily and it is this that ensures that he will always know where we stand, and that he is free to control me and own me. In our relationship we take things to the extreme and our 'play' relationship as it were is very much based on consent being given once and applying to all time unless otherwise stated prior to the event. We do not play with a safe word and so if I were less secure in myself it could lead to him doubting his ability to trust that I have consented and that I will not change my mind. My sense of self, including the strength of my convictions and my trust in my own beliefs, is the best asset I can ever offer. B x 11 Feb 10, 3:24 AM 688-681-918 US(OR), 2 yrs Writing Assignment #2 Most Valuable asset: 'What do you feel is the most valuable asset you have to offer your Owner? Explain why.' My most valuable asset that I have to offer Her is my mind and thus all it encompasses. My physical looks, although attractive enough, are transitory in this life and could be taken away in an instant through an accident, serious injury or illness. Would that upset me? Of course! However my mind will always be available to help me remain resolute to challenges and the ups and downs of life. So it is my mind which I feel is my most valuable asset that I have in this life to offer Her. I love to engage in critical thinking and discussions for a myriad of topics. I also enjoy problem solving and research especially when it involves finding answers for Her. My mind allows me to be continually learning something new and useful which I find exciting and fulfilling. I frequently use my imagination to delight and amuse Her through spoken or written stories and poetry. The resiliency inside my mind has the ability to take a bad or terrible situation and see the positive within it which then gives me a new way of thinking or opportunity for personal growth, thus becoming a gift. So, yes, my mind is my most valuable asset and when it is engaged for Her use I receive much joy. Sincerely, 688-681-918 For anything worth having, one must pay the price; and the price is always work, patience, love, self-sacrifice ~no paper currency, no promises to pay, but the gold of real service. ~John Burroughs Edited 11 Feb 10, 3:25 AM by 688-681-918 11 Feb 10, 6:36 AM 200-547-494 US, 2 yrs I believe that the greatest asset I have to offer Master is my willingness to shaped into the perfect wife for him based solely on the criteria he sets forth. When we first started down this path I was hell bent to give him what I "thought" he needed and wanted. Over time I learned that it is all about what he "knows" he wants. He explained it to me like this. Dealing with me previously was like asking a child to wash the dishes and they would clean their room instead and expect the parent to be happy. After much disappointment and hurt feelings I have grown to be very careful to do EXACTLY as I am told and make sure that I comply ASAP. He now tells me that because I do this that my worth to him is beyond measure. Regards 200 547 494 And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom - Anais Nin 11 Feb 10, 11:18 AM 562-470-768 2 yrs Writing Assignment #2 Most Valuable asset 'What do you feel is the most valuable asset you have to offer your Owner? Explain why.' The best asset she has to offer Master is herself. All of herself. Physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, mentally. the reason it is the best asset she has to offer? because it is all she has, she can only hope it is enough every single day. We are all vanilla to some degree - for society will keep a foothold in our lives. We are all Dom/mes or slave/sub on some level, as there is ALWAYS someone weaker or stronger than you... 8 Mar 10, 6:50 AM pet_ka_MJ CA, 2 yrs I find after a very hard "vanilla" type day it is nice to sit quietly and do one of these exercise, it seems to put my life back in order again. My most valuable asset(s) are my attitude, gratitude and faith. I have a positive attitude, I am an optmist. I believe if you have a positive attitude in life that will lead to positive outcomes. I love to laugh and enjoy all that life has to offer, even the yucky bad hair days. Life is not all fun and games. We do not always get what we want. We have to make do, improvise and just get on with the business of living. Sometimes in life, you have to be able to see the silver lining even on the cloudiest of days. Life is NOT "supposed to be fair," and knowing that there is no single way that my life is "supposed" to be or demanding that life meet my expectations is a sure fire recipe for a miserable existence. I know this, and yet, I can so very easily get caught up in how I think my life should be rather than just living. Life just happens regardless of my best intentions. My path to happiness, I have learned, lies in being open to receiving whatever life (or Master) throws as me... with gratitude. Lastly, there is faith. Faith is my relationship with trust... in my Master... and in the universe. I am confident that my life has purpose and I believe in myself. Faith is the wind in the sails of my dreams. It gives me strength to go on, not succumbing to doubt, fear or hopelessness. As I move forward, I am guided to the right path without having to "make it happen." And, even in the most trying of times, I am open to life's miracles and wonder. My attitude, gratitude and faith lead me to be intensely curious about life, people and things. I'm eager to learn, and always willing to expand my horizons. It is the willingness to expand my horizons that allowed me to be open to meeting my Master and exploring a Master/slave dynamic with him. Discovering my inner slave is not easy. There are difficult days, trying days, days I want to throw my arms up in frustration and quit. Yet I do not, because my attitude, gratitude and faith allow me to carry on, even when I do not quite see the silver lining. Master can point it out to me, but I have to have faith in him that it is there. I asked Master what he thought my assets were and he said my intelligence, my warmth, my thirst for learning and my humour. In saying this, I realized that it is my thirst for learning that keeps me on this path. My desire to know more about myself and what I am capable of if given the opportunity and how our M/s dynamic will deepen the emotional bonds in our relationship. My irreverant sense of humour allows me to laugh at anything, I can find humour in any situation, no matter how dire. This ability to laugh breaks the tension between Master and I when we are are loggerheads. It allows me to step back and not take everything so seriously... so black and white.. so either or... so do or die. At the end of he day, Master said that the asset I have that means the most to him is our ability as partners to "click," that we are in sync in terms of our needs and wants, life goals, and the other things, that regardless of the M/s dynamic, are important to make any relationship work. Master's last comment provides me the freedom to just be. To let everything go. To just let go and to have trust and faith in Master and where he is leading us. With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate, and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity. - Keshavan Nair