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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "sub needs help in giving suggestions to Master" 1 2 sub needs help in giving suggestions to Master (18) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 28 Jan 10, 10:03 PM TheLegend UK, 2 yrs jakesemma wrote: TheLegend wrote: 333-528-841 wrote: TheLegend wrote: I think your master should be making this thread. :facepalm: Maybe her Master has asked 180 to make this posting to get suggestions. I think you shouldn't make such assumptions...... You may be right... Funny how I "shouldn't make assumptions" but you can; "maybe her master has asked 180 make this posting"... isn't that a assumption?. Look 333, I have no clue why you are hostile towards me, but I ask that you stop. I am NOT looking for trouble here, so please stop seeking for trouble. I have contributed to the thread. I made a suggestion didn't I? Actually, I have to agree with 333 as you call her. I don't know her name. What you posted actually wasn't helpful to the thread, or on topic. (not that this post is entirely on topic either.) So, the on topic part of my post. You need to sit down and communicate with him. Figure out what you both what in a relationship so you can make sure your not only on the same page, but have the same goals and destination in mind. (its a constantly evolving journey, but you can strive for the goals together.) If you can see where your miscommunication is about your relationship, thats the part to hammer out. So, if he doesn't know how to express parts of his dominance towards you in ways that make him feel comfortable, or how to do it with out being kinky, thats a good starting point... but before you assume thats what it is, due to vanilla, child, outside stuff etc, make sure its not just because you guys have a different idea on what the big picture is and where he thought it would be going. I think its completely possible that maybe you guys have a different idea on what you want when it comes to a relationship or D/s or M/s... Its common for couples to have to hammer this out, so your not a lone. Warm regards, emma Emma, my response was on topic... I didn't put it into so many words as you have, but essentially I was suggesting the same. Maybe I could've put more effort into my suggestion. LOL 8 Feb 10, 1:37 AM 180-815-354 US(IN), 3 yrs Y! i appreciate everyone's suggestions and help and to TheLegand, maybe you should consider the fact that this girl wants to please her Master and when W/we talk about how W/we want the relationship to go, i want to have plenty of suggestions to offer Him so He can choose which ones He likes. i told Him about this post and He was quite happy i took it upon myself to do so. you can't say you contributed to the post because you did nothing but state i shouldn't have made it. 8 Feb 10, 7:57 AM 562-470-768 2 yrs this girl has managed to rework the 50's 'good wife' handbook and from that gained her 'vanilla' incorporation into the lifestyle. the best advice this girl can give the owned soul is to say that there is nothing wrong with you starting by asking what you think you should, getting permissions etc. by simply acting out the bits that your Master needs help with. it is a basic garantee that if you stop, he WILL notice and probably want to know why! girl would also suggest that perhaps you show your Master a few online contracts and ask/beg that he allow you to serve him under one such a contract too. this would clearly stipulate on both sides what is required. Master made a few adjustments to ours and included a 'discussion safe word' so that girl can freely and respectfully point out to Master when she feels neglected due to his lack of participation or 'breach of contract'. Master did however put in the contract that if he does not feel it needed to discuss, he will ignore that word and if girl is whingy he will shut her up by any means should her whiny ass get too much for his ears to take. girl really think sthat there is nothing wrong with a owned soul asking for ways to help their Masters, as.. she imagines Masters enjoys the caring of a owned soul too. any soul asking for such advice, in such a way as this was done, is doing so (instructed or not) because that owned soul wants to be a GOOD slave/sub and thus is looking to improve itself for its Master by having the knowledge the Master may require. there simply IS NOT and WILL NEVER be a presice, consice 'rulebook' on this matter. we should not all impose our own views on others as a 'written law' for each M/s D/s relationship has its own settings no? she will this girl good luck in her role, good fortune in her search for improvement and lots and lots of fire and passion in her heart. We are all vanilla to some degree - for society will keep a foothold in our lives. We are all Dom/mes or slave/sub on some level, as there is ALWAYS someone weaker or stronger than you... 9 Feb 10, 10:25 PM 253-618-837 US(PA), 2 yrs Master picks any or if i may wear underwear if i must leave the house for work. He works at a different compnay. To ensure i am properly dressed He often orders me to the ladies room and has me forward pictures by cell phone showing i am wearing the lingerie he picked. i may also be required to wear nipple clamps or a butt plug and will have to send Him photos showing i am proper 11 Feb 10, 8:36 PM TheLegend UK, 2 yrs 180-815-354 wrote: i appreciate everyone's suggestions and help and to TheLegand, maybe you should consider the fact that this girl wants to please her Master and when W/we talk about how W/we want the relationship to go, i want to have plenty of suggestions to offer Him so He can choose which ones He likes. i told Him about this post and He was quite happy i took it upon myself to do so. you can't say you contributed to the post because you did nothing but state i shouldn't have made it. You asked for a suggestion you don't like it fine (not my loss) but it really does suck that the master cannot take control and find a solution to this problem LOL 11 Feb 10, 8:45 PM 562-470-768 2 yrs TheLegend wrote: 180-815-354 wrote: i appreciate everyone's suggestions and help and to TheLegand, maybe you should consider the fact that this girl wants to please her Master and when W/we talk about how W/we want the relationship to go, i want to have plenty of suggestions to offer Him so He can choose which ones He likes. i told Him about this post and He was quite happy i took it upon myself to do so. you can't say you contributed to the post because you did nothing but state i shouldn't have made it. You asked for a suggestion you don't like it fine (not my loss) but it really does suck that the master cannot take control and find a solution to this problem LOL /me offers to speak to the owned soul in private whilst absolutely biting back a response to the last comment. this girl has many thoughts and creative ways to help you help your Master. We are all vanilla to some degree - for society will keep a foothold in our lives. We are all Dom/mes or slave/sub on some level, as there is ALWAYS someone weaker or stronger than you... 17 Feb 10, 3:25 AM 180-815-354 US(IN), 3 yrs Y! this girl would appreciate talking in private as some of the people posting here just aren't getting the point of this girl's post. This girl wanted to find some ideas to present to her Master in order to please Him as He does enjoy when this girl researches on her own. 17 Feb 10, 9:04 PM TheLegend UK, 2 yrs 562-470-768 wrote: TheLegend wrote: 180-815-354 wrote: i appreciate everyone's suggestions and help and to TheLegand, maybe you should consider the fact that this girl wants to please her Master and when W/we talk about how W/we want the relationship to go, i want to have plenty of suggestions to offer Him so He can choose which ones He likes. i told Him about this post and He was quite happy i took it upon myself to do so. you can't say you contributed to the post because you did nothing but state i shouldn't have made it. You asked for a suggestion you don't like it fine (not my loss) but it really does suck that the master cannot take control and find a solution to this problem LOL /me offers to speak to the owned soul in private whilst absolutely biting back a response to the last comment. this girl has many thoughts and creative ways to help you help your Master. Sounds like a great idea, have fun. LOL