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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "to whom it may concern" 1 2 3 4 to whom it may concern (37) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 21 Jan 10, 2:27 AM jamesgirl US(MO), 2 yrs eerm.... thank you ^.^; sometimes i'm completely oblivious to the obvious My name is Master James, and I approve this message 23 Jan 10, 12:28 AM Master_IanNZ NZ, 2 yrs In my short lived experience of reading the comments on this site, it appears to me that most are genuinely giving their views - whether one agrees with them, or not. Electronic mediums can often transmit things in ways that are not intended, so an element of acknowlegement of this needs to be factored in, in my view. I guess what I'm saying is, that I have observed (so far), and would hope that these web boards serve as a valuable channel for people to express themselves amongst M/s with similar thoughts. Cheers from New Zealand Master4whore 26 Jan 10, 6:00 PM 650-736-585 GR, 2 yrs 614-695-026 wrote: to whom it may concern Master had me write this post as I have been complaining to him about this site for some time now. I just wanted to say, I have been reading posts on this site for over 6 months now, and I feel that most of you (the most active members, anyway) create a hostile environment. You make people who have legitimate questions or concerns, feel stupid. You all act so fucking high and mighty it makes me sick. get over yourselves. as a perfect example, I have been afraid to post my own questions for fear of extreme scrutiny. thanks for listening Greetings, Not the best way to put down and/or ask for help, I'd say; if I my? Some people are years in the lifestyle and sometimes may act a bit perky. But that's logic if you think that for years and years they have to answer to the same questions over and over; and sometimes need to defend and "explain" to others that they're not nuts! Still, _LOTS_ of people in here are very helpful and will always say some helpful words to people who are not ashamed/afraid to admit that they're new and seek/hope some guidance. All it takes is some good manners and some respect. I'd say to tray again, but this time with a new approach. Don't be afraid, be humble, and ASK!! (as said in the bible: Ask, and it shall be granted). Good luck. • I humbly ask for your tolerance and forgiveness to my ignorance. 9 Feb 10, 9:19 PM 614-695-026 US(OH), 3 yrs 650-736-585 wrote: 614-695-026 wrote: to whom it may concern Master had me write this post as I have been complaining to him about this site for some time now. I just wanted to say, I have been reading posts on this site for over 6 months now, and I feel that most of you (the most active members, anyway) create a hostile environment. You make people who have legitimate questions or concerns, feel stupid. You all act so fucking high and mighty it makes me sick. get over yourselves. as a perfect example, I have been afraid to post my own questions for fear of extreme scrutiny. thanks for listening Greetings, Not the best way to put down and/or ask for help, I'd say; if I my? Some people are years in the lifestyle and sometimes may act a bit perky. But that's logic if you think that for years and years they have to answer to the same questions over and over; and sometimes need to defend and "explain" to others that they're not nuts! Still, _LOTS_ of people in here are very helpful and will always say some helpful words to people who are not ashamed/afraid to admit that they're new and seek/hope some guidance. All it takes is some good manners and some respect. I'd say to tray again, but this time with a new approach. Don't be afraid, be humble, and ASK!! (as said in the bible: Ask, and it shall be granted). to be honest I posted this as more of a fuck you farewell kinda thing, I wasn't asking for help or anything, I was just letting you all know why I don't use this site anymore. Good luck. taylor made for master Right. 9 Feb 10, 9:39 PM 562-470-768 2 yrs this girl tries to keep in mind, as she learned over time 1. there are language barriers - sometimes some things translate badly and thus, it sounds 'wrong' or 'abrubt' or harsh etc. 2. sometimes someone just speaks their mind as they think it, and although not in a 'kiss your behind way' it is truth to them and how they percieve 'helping'. 3. there is nothing to say you cannot walk away, say 'no' or simply smile, nod and leave it alone. 4. emotions and facial expressions don't translate in forums or chatrooms.. so really, take every statement with a pinch of salt and one over the shoulder for good measure. sometimes it is hard to do so, and you never know how sensitive or thick-skinned the person is that you are replying to. correcting another peson is constructive, simply being ... disconnected is not. girl has posted a lot over the past few days. she, again, apologise if there be a reason for anyone to have taken offense to her writing. she's been lurking around for a long while before she signed up.. and she believes that there are a lot of good intension, just a bit of bad communiction skills (perhaps) smile, ask, and if you really get wound up, pinch your nipple and remind you that you are human, so is the person on the other side. *grins naughty again* We are all vanilla to some degree - for society will keep a foothold in our lives. We are all Dom/mes or slave/sub on some level, as there is ALWAYS someone weaker or stronger than you... 10 Feb 10, 9:15 AM bastets_daughter 2 yrs 562-470-768 wrote: this girl tries to keep in mind, as she learned over time 1. there are language barriers - sometimes some things translate badly and thus, it sounds 'wrong' or 'abrubt' or harsh etc. 2. sometimes someone just speaks their mind as they think it, and although not in a 'kiss your behind way' it is truth to them and how they percieve 'helping'. 3. there is nothing to say you cannot walk away, say 'no' or simply smile, nod and leave it alone. 4. emotions and facial expressions don't translate in forums or chatrooms.. so really, take every statement with a pinch of salt and one over the shoulder for good measure. sometimes it is hard to do so, and you never know how sensitive or thick-skinned the person is that you are replying to. correcting another peson is constructive, simply being ... disconnected is not. girl has posted a lot over the past few days. she, again, apologise if there be a reason for anyone to have taken offense to her writing. she's been lurking around for a long while before she signed up.. and she believes that there are a lot of good intension, just a bit of bad communiction skills (perhaps) smile, ask, and if you really get wound up, pinch your nipple and remind you that you are human, so is the person on the other side. *grins naughty again* brilliant response, i couldn't agree more 10 Feb 10, 8:06 PM 247-330-189 US(CA), 3 yrs Y! I have to say that when i needed help , i got it from this site. I thought the same thing "oh God, they are going to crucify me on this....". I got really good info, and so much support it helped me through an incredibly scary time in my life. My owner had released me, in a very horrible way, etc etc. This board was there for me, i got a lot of good info, and No one was cruel or mean, and they really could have been. I have to say , thank you again for being there for ME when i needed it. I am doing great now, Master and i have been back together for over a year, things are better than ever. There was one in particular who gave me some significant insight into my situation and helped me tremendously. THANKS!!!!! If ever thou be'st bound in thy scarf and beaten, thou shalt find what it is to be proud of thy bondage. William Shakespeare.