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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "to whom it may concern" 1 2 3 4 to whom it may concern (37) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Tue 12 Jan 10, 3:12 AM 614-695-026 US(OH), 3 yrs Master had me write this post as I have been complaining to him about this site for some time now. I just wanted to say, I have been reading posts on this site for over 6 months now, and I feel that most of you (the most active members, anyway) create a hostile environment. You make people who have legitimate questions or concerns, feel stupid. You all act so fucking high and mighty it makes me sick. get over yourselves. as a perfect example, I have been afraid to post my own questions for fear of extreme scrutiny. thanks for listening taelor made for Master Right. Edited Tue 12 Jan 10, 3:14 AM by 614-695-026 12 Jan 10, 3:17 AM Mwright US(OH), 3 yrs couldn't have said it better myself, slavey. 12 Jan 10, 3:28 AM 318-068-287 US(TX), 6 yrs Y! I'd say ask anyway and ignore the people who act poorly. You can learn something even from them though. Even if only how not to act. A dog on a leash can still bite your hand off. 12 Jan 10, 3:47 AM naughtyslave US, 2 yrs omg!Thank you. i always cringe for the poor person who puts themselves out there and wait for the "spanking" to begin. i applaud your courage. i always tell Master oh shit good luck to that person because they are going down.i have only light heartedly posted because of it. As always written with permission from Strict Master 12 Jan 10, 4:47 AM 318-068-287 US(TX), 6 yrs Y! NaughtySlave wrote: omg!Thank you. i always cringe for the poor person who puts themselves out there and wait for the "spanking" to begin. i applaud your courage. i always tell Master oh shit good luck to that person because they are going down.i have only light heartedly posted because of it. As always written with permission from Strict Master Hehehehe, I must quote a person who taught me much about how to deal with life in general. "I got more ass than they got teeth." A dog on a leash can still bite your hand off. 12 Jan 10, 4:47 AM pet_ka_MJ CA, 2 yrs I am curious if those few vocal critics who love to bash others will read this and see themselves discussed here. I lurked here for many months before joining and daring to post. I have noticed, for the most part that several of the overly critical posters have left (yipee)... but there are still a few kicking around that when they decide to flame you it hurts. Oh well, I just ignore them. Remember a bully only has power over you, if you give it to them. Maybe if we collectively stop taking their bait and reacting to their garbage, they may just take a hint (or get bored) and leave with the others. With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate, and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity. - Keshavan Nair 12 Jan 10, 4:49 AM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs Wow. Well, as I post a lot, I guess I may be in the bunch you talk about. If I am, I am sorry that you feel that way and feel discouraged from posting. I will say though, that I never use profanity (hmmm, maybe once when attacked) and I send memos to quite a few who memo me asking for help or advice, sending links or support to new members and old. As this is a public forum, you see all types of posts. Everyone is entitled to their opinion on who they may or may not like and of course on what posts they do or do not approve of just like in everyday life at work or around the neighbourhood. The majority of my posts are read by or to my Master before posting. If Master has not read them before, he is told about them and then reads them. The opinion of my Master is the only one that matters to me. All the best to you. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away 12 Jan 10, 5:00 AM 318-068-287 US(TX), 6 yrs Y! 333-528-841 wrote: Wow. Well, as I post a lot, I guess I may be in the bunch you talk about. If I am, I am sorry that you feel that way and feel discouraged from posting. I will say though, that I never use profanity (hmmm, maybe once when attacked) and I send memos to quite a few who memo me asking for help or advice, sending links or support to new members and old. As this is a public forum, you see all types of posts. Everyone is entitled to their opinion on who they may or may not like and of course on what posts they do or do not approve of just like in everyday life at work or around the neighbourhood. The majority of my posts are read by or to my Master before posting. If Master has not read them before, he is told about them and then reads them. The opinion of my Master is the only one that matters to me. All the best to you. I have never been bothered by your posts. Feel no onus of guilt for my feelings. I rather like most of your posts, forethought is evident and sincerity is prevelant. A dog on a leash can still bite your hand off. 12 Jan 10, 5:01 AM crystalredroze US(OH), 4 yrs Y! ive been on here a little over 2 years and for the most part it goes in cycles. And like said above, some people dont even realize they are being harsh as they are just being taken the wrong way. If someone says something you dont like, take it with a grain of salt and move on. Public forums always have this issue and it will be everywhere you go. i do want to note that for the most part everyone on here is wonderful and try to be as helpful as they can be. There are some very respected people from the community on here and they shuld be given the respect of being listened to. 12 Jan 10, 5:22 AM EvaMaria US(CA), 3 yrs I'm semi-outspoken in the forums, so I'm hoping I'm not among those you've all referred to here. Still, I'm very happy to see people speaking up. Three things, then: 1. I think it's entirely possible to rebut an idea or even explain a better way to a person without making them the butt of a joke or otherwise belittling them. It's a true thing that sometimes people *are* natural straight men but they're still people, the same as anyone. 2. It does matter to me what others think about what I write here - I wouldn't bother to do it otherwise. And particularly if I hurt someone's feelings. So to all and sundry, if ever I do it, please tell me - in the forum where it occurred or even just by private memo. 3. The next time you feel that you or someone else has been treated poorly, please speak up. It's a true thing that the atmosphere here has improved greatly over the last several months but if you don't actively support this change it isn't going to last. I'm glad you all posted. Eva (The property formerly known as Camille ) Edited 12 Jan 10, 5:23 AM by EvaMaria 12 Jan 10, 5:42 AM naughtyslave US, 2 yrs 333-528-841 wrote: Wow. Well, as I post a lot, I guess I may be in the bunch you talk about. If I am, I am sorry that you feel that way and feel discouraged from posting. I will say though, that I never use profanity (hmmm, maybe once when attacked) and I send memos to quite a few who memo me asking for help or advice, sending links or support to new members and old. As this is a public forum, you see all types of posts. Everyone is entitled to their opinion on who they may or may not like and of course on what posts they do or do not approve of just like in everyday life at work or around the neighbourhood. The majority of my posts are read by or to my Master before posting. If Master has not read them before, he is told about them and then reads them. The opinion of my Master is the only one that matters to me. All the best to you. i have enjoyed reading your posts as well. i come here to learn from all of you that have been in the lifestyle.When i first came here i was affraid to talk to anyone or ask for help and you were very kind to me. thank you again. As always written with permission from Strict Master Next page